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Facebook

I use it every couple of days just to keep in touch with friends around the place - Im not one for updating status every two seconds or commenting on everyone elses (Last time I logged on was Thursday). I really havent had any problems due to facebook - the majority of people on my friends list know me in person (not many +1friends).

I use it as a quick email but with the fun of being able to share photos - see photos etc.
 
I never really got into Myspace at all, or other social networking sites, but I do use facebook. I remember being really excited in Summer 2005 when I got my college email and could finally sign up...I liked it being a smaller closed network, it's getting kinda creepy at this point. Try to prune the friends list every so often, but my family reads into stuff too much also, so usually my status updates are very vague. Other than a way to share pictures and links, there's not much else it's for. Oh, and a chat client for those who didn't use one previously. Facebook drama? I've seen drama happen on facebook but honestly, it would have just been uglier in person otherwise.
 
Oh well then, since I definitely want to be an authentic bluelighter, I will find someone to hook up with. I might let you know when I have accomplished this task, but I will never say who either way. That's just flat disrespectful to whomever might be inclined to hook up with me.
 
Hell yeah.

Even I managed it, and there are only like 5 Bluelighters in my whole country =D.

On preview: ugly: you have to tell! That's the whole point!
 
i think a lot of drama on facebook is just manifested by pettiness. i stay above that kind of shit in reality and on facebook so it ain't a problem, i don't like spending time logged in but it's better than email in terms of keeping in touch with my friends spread out all over this ol' big blue green sphere
 
Hell yeah.

Even I managed it, and there are only like 5 Bluelighters in my whole country =D.

On preview: ugly: you have to tell! That's the whole point!

ALRIGHT! I will tell you when I have smashed with another bluelighter. I don't think it will take very long. I will NOT tell you anything about the other bluelighter. Discretion is the better part of valor. In other words keeping details private is smart in my case.:|
 
Facebook sucks but I still check it out more often than I should. I don't give a fuck about 99% of the shit on there. I think I need to stop.
 
I have never used Facebook or Myspace. I value my privacy and I am not someone who is constantly hungry for attention. HEY GUISE CHECK OUT MY PICTURES OMG THIS WAS SUCH AN AWESOME NIGHT!!
 
Someone's Facebook usually tells you infinitely more about them than you could ever learn from a long first-time conversation with them face-to-face.
 
Me and my partner both deleted our facebooks --two years later his account is still deactivated, me however..well I've come crawling back like a bird on my belly! I felt 'left out,' but that's exactly why I left facebook in the first place -- it gets you into a position where you feel like you depend it/become obsessed with what other people are doing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not quite at that stage. I do regularly check people's updates, but I don't often update myself or change my display picture.
 
Also, I can't stand the way your 'likes' are now linked. Thinking about deleted my info from the page all together.
 
Ya they only recently allowed for people to actually delete their accounts, but it's no surprise that they've made this quite difficult to figure out; i eventually ended up googling how to.

I still dont know the actual steps to reach this page, but it was linked in a 'how to'; https://ssl.facebook.com/help/contact.php?show_form=delete_account

Thank you! You're awesome! I'd never have known this was possible had I not seen this thread. Facebook is officially deleted. Well, in 14 days anyway. :)

I was torn on this issue about 15 minutes ago and then I realized how good of a decision it would be. I just deleted it.

Congratulations. :)

Also, I can't stand the way your 'likes' are now linked. Thinking about deleted my info from the page all together.

There is so much shit I don't like about it. It's endless. The "drama" aspect of it is really low on the list, and not very different from drama with other human beings in general, which I dislike much, and is also the reason I allow very few people to be in my life. I love certain people but I'm very picky because I've been so deeply hurt by other human beings so many times. I've learned. Facebook is just another opportunity for interaction with people who don't care very deeply about me, and setting myself up for those left out, high-school-like feelings that I have no interest in experiencing anymore.

Just an example of the "drama" that I mean though.. something that hurt me a lot on there was that I'd see family members being really, really sweet and supportive of each other. Always commenting on each other, etc. But then I'd comment on them and they'd ignore me completely even when I was really sweet. And they'd never say anything on my status, even when they were important or exciting news about my life. I'd send them messages that would go unanswered, and I'd know they'd logged on because they'd update their status.

I wasn't one to sit there crying when one of my status didn't get a reply. But when this happened consistently with these same family members over a year or more, it was really just nothing but negativity in my mind. I don't need to be reminded that I'm not close with my extended family, and I had to wonder WHY some of them even added me in the first place when they so clearly have zero interest in whether I'm alive or dead.

Having a facebook just seemed like a reminder of all things bad and made it hard to let go for me. Sure I guess I COULD have deleted those family members but that would have hurt too. I tried so hard to reconnect with some of them and was ignored... I just ended up wanting nothing to do with it.

All that stuff on top of creepy privacy issues and the stuff mentioned in that video that was posted here... it's just so...ew. It's also so vain. I was vain while I was using it. PIcs, status, talking about myself all the time. It's an easy and delicious habit to fall into. That's why facebook works so well. People are fucking vain. And that is not a quality I want to cultivate in myself. It's one thing to share a pic or two with friends (I do that here occasionally or through email) but it's quite another to feel the need to broadcast every detail about yourself to the world as if you are a celebrity getting interviewed. Not saying everyone does that but so many people do.

I am not someone who is constantly hungry for attention. HEY GUISE CHECK OUT MY PICTURES OMG THIS WAS SUCH AN AWESOME NIGHT!!

Exactly. Just like that.

it's a known fact about BL - if you haven't hooked up with another BLer than you are not officially a BLers

I live with one so I guess that makes me a mega-bluelighter. Sweeeeet! :D

Thanks again Malakaix <3
 
It's funny...I deleted my Myspace account without a second thought, but I shiver at the thought of giving up my Facebook account, despite the fact that I spend *maybe* five minutes total on it a day, checking messages and status updates.
 
^^ That reminds me, I haven't used my myspace account in like 3 years, I should probably delete it....

as far as the drama goes - i'm with n3o on this one. i've never had any, let alone seen any, online facebook drama. i suppose neither i, nor anyone i know, takes it that seriously.
Allow me to clarify: I had ONE girl who was a friend of a close friend of mine, and she added me and I thought "Well it's only a matter of time before I meet this girl in person" so I added her. Turns out she is the most melodramatic psycho crazy girl I've ever come across!!! Every 30 mins there was some new drama that she was explicitly posting about in her status updates! I'm not even exaggerating a little bit by the way.

I promptly deleted her and have still not met her in person :D

thujone said:
but it's better than email in terms of keeping in touch with my friends spread out all over this ol' big blue green sphere
That is the other thing I love about facebook, it allows me to chat with all my BL friends who live on literally the opposite side of the planet, without having to spend thousands of dollars in phone calls.
 
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