I do agree, but here is my take of it... True u can't share the love and stuff with another person.. But when we have sex it's "making love" but if someone else joins, for me and that other person, it's just sex, and that's it, no emotional attachment, just pure sex, lol... and sry if I offended n e oneMy bf and I have talked about having a threesome. It's not that the idea isn't appealing, it is on some level and we'd certainly have our pick of pretty much whatever partner we wanted, not be conceited, we are both fit, attractive and young. It always comes back to the same thing: we wouldn't want anything clouding the purity of our love. Making love is so many different things, physical & emotional bonding, an extension of your love. So, the problem (or not depending on how you think of it) is that we don't want to share that with someone who doesn't mean to us what we do to each other. There isn't going to be anyone else who will mean that to either.
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Originally Posted by peacefuldreamer09
My bf and I have talked about having a threesome. It's not that the idea isn't appealing, it is on some level and we'd certainly have our pick of pretty much whatever partner we wanted, not be conceited, we are both fit, attractive and young. It always comes back to the same thing: we wouldn't want anything clouding the purity of our love. Making love is so many different things, physical & emotional bonding, an extension of your love. So, the problem (or not depending on how you think of it) is that we don't want to share that with someone who doesn't mean to us what we do to each other. There isn't going to be anyone else who will mean that to either.
I've been invited to participate in threesomes more times than I can remember (I know, lucky me), and I have to say that I couldn't agree more with what you said...and that's coming from the person outside the relationship.
There's a scene at the end of the movie Chasing Amy where the girl describes her reasoning for not going along with the proposed threesome, which is spot on. I'd suggest watching it to any couple who's considering a threesome.
My bf and I have talked about having a threesome. It's not that the idea isn't appealing, it is on some level and we'd certainly have our pick of pretty much whatever partner we wanted, not be conceited, we are both fit, attractive and young. It always comes back to the same thing: we wouldn't want anything clouding the purity of our love. Making love is so many different things, physical & emotional bonding, an extension of your love. So, the problem (or not depending on how you think of it) is that we don't want to share that with someone who doesn't mean to us what we do to each other. There isn't going to be anyone else who will mean that to either.
I've been invited to participate in threesomes more times than I can remember (I know, lucky me), and I have to say that I couldn't agree more with what you said...and that's coming from the person outside the relationship.
There's a scene at the end of the movie Chasing Amy where the girl describes her reasoning for not going along with the proposed threesome, which is spot on. I'd suggest watching it to any couple who's considering a threesome.
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Originally Posted by Cpaige86
I do agree, but here is my take of it... True u can't share the love and stuff with another person.. But when we have sex it's "making love" but if someone else joins, for me and that other person, it's just sex, and that's it, no emotional attachment, just pure sex, lol... and sry if I offended n e one
I was gonna say in my post above that I agree with this completely too, but it's still risky business. Someone moans a little differently or in a wrong way and now you might have some unforseen, unavoidable jealousy or feelings of resentment.
I do agree, but here is my take of it... True u can't share the love and stuff with another person.. But when we have sex it's "making love" but if someone else joins, for me and that other person, it's just sex, and that's it, no emotional attachment, just pure sex, lol... and sry if I offended n e one
I was gonna say in my post above that I agree with this completely too, but it's still risky business. Someone moans a little differently or in a wrong way and now you might have some unforseen, unavoidable jealousy or feelings of resentment.
Check this Trip report out:
http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?t=446467
I think you might like it lol.
Jesus, Pure jealousy on my end. I have a similar experience with cousins, except they were females and legit 10's. (both of them
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If this is an actual issue, you're NOT ready to play with others.
I have friends who really had this happen in a Swinging situation. The (still upset) husband talked to me a few weeks later about it and I explained that he failed to account for the "zOMG my husband is right there watching!" factor, and that he'd been a complete dick to his wife for no good reason. They worked it out, but she has shut down any chance he had of ever Swinging again ... much to his chagrin.
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^yeah, I've heard of that happening too. It's strange to me, since the whole point is to experience pleasure. It makes me happy to see my wife happy; we are true partners in every sense of the word.
It is definitely not for everyone and I'm in no way trying to talk people into it. But for those of us that have our type of relationship it has only added to the plethora of life experiences that we have shared.
It is definitely not for everyone and I'm in no way trying to talk people into it. But for those of us that have our type of relationship it has only added to the plethora of life experiences that we have shared.
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My boyfriend wants 3 sum (girl ) but I'd rather it be a couples thing . I think with a cool couple, automatically there are boundaries to a certain extant. And every one has equal attention.
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I would be very cautious. It can break the strongest of relationships. The thought of it being a turn on and actually seeing your significant other with someone else are very different things. I couldn't ever do it. It would be way too hard for me to share my SO with anyone.
Just as an example of how different people are, my GF gets INCREDIBLY turned on watching me with another woman. No bullshit, we're talking obvious physical reaction here. I get a big kick out of watching her with women (surprise!), while watching her with guys is a bit odd but no big deal.
As noted earlier in the thread, not everyone is capable of sharing without jealousy, so be very sure you're ready to do it before you commit.