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I find it quite fascinating to read about how people respond differently to different things.

Like I very much used to enjoy prostate stimulation (before I had to have it removed) while male friends I was relaxed enough to talk about that to, apparently got nothing from it
I know several men who really enjoy this and they all share a specific astrological placement, namely Mars in Virgo. If you know where your Mars is (as per your natal chart), please share.
 
Interesting! I don’t experience any premenstrual or menstrual symptoms other than menstrual cramping. And I’ve finally learned how to finally treat that.
i'm anemic, so probably that's why.
it's physical weakness, but also brain foggy.
 
I know several men who really enjoy this and they all share a specific astrological placement, namely Mars in Virgo. If you know where your Mars is (as per your natal chart), please share.

Nah I'm Mars in Scorpio. And it's nonsensical to think that the position of random agglomorations of stuff in space in relation to the Earth influence anything about our lives.
 
Someone’s trying to tell me that men require prostate stimulation in order to orgasm. But isn’t that in their ass???

Tbh Im shocked that Ive never considered the mechanics involved in how a man orgasms. That’s not like me cause I usually think I have to know everything. If that doesn’t tell you how shitty the men I married are idk what would. Cause I definitely want to ensure that I can please my partner. But something’s wrong with me. Because I’m not sure that I’ve ever had an orgasm. Makes me wanna cry for some reason. Maybe it’s trauma
 
Someone’s trying to tell me that men require prostate stimulation in order to orgasm. But isn’t that in their ass???

Tbh Im shocked that Ive never considered the mechanics involved in how a man orgasms. That’s not like me cause I usually think I have to know everything. If that doesn’t tell you how shitty the men I married are idk what would. Cause I definitely want to ensure that I can please my partner. But something’s wrong with me. Because I’m not sure that I’ve ever had an orgasm. Makes me wanna cry for some reason. Maybe it’s trauma

Nope we do not REQUIRE prostate stimulation ffs. Who gave you that idea.

We require stimulation of the tip of our dick. The prostate is yes, erotically sensitive but it's just a bonus. And the sensitivity varies a lot between men. Personally, I've always enjoyed stimulation there, but have never been able to cum from prostrate stimulation alone - but I do know a couple guys who can and do, even 'hands-free'.
Whereas lots of men don't feel much from getting their prostate tickled at all. Still others do find it pleasant but find the erm, access route to be the opposite so it just cancels itself out. I hope that explains it for you.
 
Someone’s trying to tell me that men require prostate stimulation in order to orgasm. But isn’t that in their ass???

Tbh Im shocked that Ive never considered the mechanics involved in how a man orgasms. That’s not like me cause I usually think I have to know everything. If that doesn’t tell you how shitty the men I married are idk what would. Cause I definitely want to ensure that I can please my partner. But something’s wrong with me. Because I’m not sure that I’ve ever had an orgasm. Makes me wanna cry for some reason. Maybe it’s trauma


Ok did you ever feel super turned on and then shortly after super satisfied? Then you've had an orgasm. Most women don't get it from penetration alone and need stimulation of the clitoris. If you can get off by yourself but not with a partner, then he's being inconsiderate or just hasn't a clue.
 
But something’s wrong with me. Because I’m not sure that I’ve ever had an orgasm. Makes me wanna cry for some reason. Maybe it’s trauma
I don't think something is *wrong* with you, though I think you would know if you ever had an orgasm or not. Now maybe it doesn't work with a partner. Maybe it's shitty men or trauma or just the way you are.

Personally, I think the whole sex/orgasm thing is completely overrated. Too much trouble and drama for a second or two of fun.
So maybe you are better off not wanting to have it constantly?
 
Ok did you ever feel super turned on and then shortly after super satisfied? Then you've had an orgasm. Most women don't get it from penetration alone and need stimulation of the clitoris. If you can get off by yourself but not with a partner, then he's being inconsiderate or just hasn't a clue.
I just end up mad and frustrated. I don’t think I’ve ever had that release tbh. It must go deep for me because as soon as I start talking about it I literally tear up and don’t even know why.

But I’m made really small and my uterus is tilted. Penetration hurts me. Every time is like my first time all over again. I only take it for him. But I do really enjoy foreplay. I don’t think I’ve ever been with a man thats took the time and had the patience to play with me long enough. I’ve only had 4 different partners. But I think they were just minute men or only cared about getting themselves off cause they were usually already getting off before they even got all of my clothes off. I feel like I’ve been deprived. I mean I get really wet but I’m sure I still never completely have. I think Im scared of it. It’s like I can feel it building up and I get to the point where it feels like I’d imagine it would feel if you were fixing to parachute out of an airplane….like when it feels like your stomach is flipping….almost like you’re gonna throw up but in a good way…and you need to just start screaming?? Does that make sense? It’s like Im still stuck….right in that moment. It’s like I won’t let myself fall because I’m scared no one will catch me
 
It would take a man that was willing to put in a lot of effort. I don’t think thats ever gonna happen so Ive just gave up
 
Nope we do not REQUIRE prostate stimulation ffs. Who gave you that idea.

We require stimulation of the tip of our dick. The prostate is yes, erotically sensitive but it's just a bonus. And the sensitivity varies a lot between men. Personally, I've always enjoyed stimulation there, but have never been able to cum from prostrate stimulation alone - but I do know a couple guys who can and do, even 'hands-free'.
Whereas lots of men don't feel much from getting their prostate tickled at all. Still others do find it pleasant but find the erm, access route to be the opposite so it just cancels itself out. I hope that explains it for you.
Yeah the person just hadn’t explained it far enough yet. I had misunderstood them but they then explained it almost exactly like you just did
 
I don't think something is *wrong* with you, though I think you would know if you ever had an orgasm or not. Now maybe it doesn't work with a partner. Maybe it's shitty men or trauma or just the way you are.

Personally, I think the whole sex/orgasm thing is completely overrated. Too much trouble and drama for a second or two of fun.
So maybe you are better off not wanting to have it constantly?
Yes that’s what I think also. I’ve been thru a lot of narcissistic abuse. I don’t think my ex husband is even capable of appreciating who I really am. He just wanted a trophy. I’m not sure how I was attracted to someone so shallow.

But actually a lot of it was because I got knocked up to be completely honest. It’s like every time I had sex they got me pregnant. Happened 3 different times lol I have 3 children. I know that sounds bad but Ive only been with 4 different people in total
 
I've eaten a girl out on her period before. It's really not a big deal unless she has a heavy flow or something.

If I'm comfortable enough with a girl to go down, I'm not afraid of a little blood. No need for the tampon.

It's not my favorite thing and the blood detracts from my own enjoyment, but I'm only half of the equation. A tampon would somehow make it less appealing.
 
But actually a lot of it was because I got knocked up to be completely honest. It’s like every time I had sex they got me pregnant. Happened 3 different times lol I have 3 children. I know that sounds bad but Ive only been with 4 different people in total
Are you saying that you only had sex three times in your entire life, and every time you got pregnant? You know women can protect themselves in many ways against pregnancy, and it's not just up to the guy?
 
Plus the way I am goes against the nature of this situation. You can’t tease men that are like this.

But I really didn’t get like that until I met my last ex. He was fun. But he was also with the cartel so there’s that.
 
I just end up mad and frustrated. I don’t think I’ve ever had that release tbh. It must go deep for me because as soon as I start talking about it I literally tear up and don’t even know why.

But I’m made really small and my uterus is tilted. Penetration hurts me. Every time is like my first time all over again. I only take it for him. But I do really enjoy foreplay. I don’t think I’ve ever been with a man thats took the time and had the patience to play with me long enough. I’ve only had 4 different partners. But I think they were just minute men or only cared about getting themselves off cause they were usually already getting off before they even got all of my clothes off. I feel like I’ve been deprived. I mean I get really wet but I’m sure I still never completely have. I think Im scared of it. It’s like I can feel it building up and I get to the point where it feels like I’d imagine it would feel if you were fixing to parachute out of an airplane….like when it feels like your stomach is flipping….almost like you’re gonna throw up but in a good way…and you need to just start screaming?? Does that make sense? It’s like Im still stuck….right in that moment. It’s like I won’t let myself fall because I’m scared no one will catch me
Do you have a good relationship with your father? It sounds like you’re not able to relax enough to enjoy yourself, and that probably explains the pain too.
 
Are you saying that you only had sex three times in your entire life, and every time you got pregnant? You know women can protect themselves in many ways against pregnancy, and it's not just up to the guy?
No you’ve really misunderstood me. I guess I didn’t explain good. Ive had sex many times. But I’ve only had 4 different partners in total. That’s why I said in total. And I was on birth control and have even had to have endometriosis removed 3 times that was even all over my kidneys. The drs even said it was shocking that I got pregnant each time. So my children were just destined to be here. So I hope this makes sense
 
Do you have a good relationship with your father? It sounds like you’re not able to relax enough to enjoy yourself, and that probably explains the pain too.
I think you just nailed it….right on the head lol

I wanted my children to have good fathers more than anything. But they wanted to hurt me more
 
Wait a min….Im a daddy’s girl. I had great parents. But my children didn’t. Thats my fault.
 
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