Sex I prefer masturbation over sex

[Fire&Water]

 

[aokorn]

When I was in psychiatry for the first time at the age of 25, I often mentioned in group discussions (under the supervision of a psychiatrist) that I had never had live sex when I was 25. I had masturbated quite a lot up to that point. I felt the need to say this and possibly get some feedback. I mentioned that the girls in porn are beautiful and fit and know how to turn a man on. The only feedback was from a female psychiatrist. She was relatively young and dressed quite provocatively, tight jeans, accentuated make-up... She very rarely dressed in a white doctor's coat. Well, this psychiatrist once, when I brought up the subject, exclaimed vehemently, "I wonder what porn actresses are beautiful in...?" At the time I couldn't interpret her answer, I was expecting a more 'medical' answer or one that would suit a psychiatrist.

Well, now I interpret it to mean that women like this psychiatrist of mine are quite jealous of porn players. And that's because a lot of porn actresses are very beautiful and very fit, more so than they are. And, on top of that, porn actresses are in no way ashamed of their sexuality and they perform it freely. To the delight of many of their fans. Women like my psychiatry may be aiming more at the 'moral beauty' of porn actresses. Supposedly they are more beautiful in that respect. Then why did she dress so provocatively? Certainly porn actresses (from me and very many others) have received more concrete support in terms of sexual support. More so than this psychiatrist, although she might have wished for it in a subtle way.

I, of course, continued to have fun watching porn, even though I have since got married and got relatively older.

Compared to those who bet on real sex (while I know what real sex is like), I have orgasmed with infinitely more beautiful women than they have. But in the end, there is only one orgasm. No matter what led up to it.

 

[LucidSDreamr]

that's my ex. infuriated me because he had a warm bodied woman right beside him. 7 yrs after after our divorce he's still not dating as far as anybody can tell. once or twice every 2 or 3 months was normal for him

Did u initiate sex and were you dominant? Or did u just sit there as a warm body in sweats not made up to entice him?

Because I’m just like your ex husband. 1 times every few months

But with past partners that were sex addict women that knew how to come on to me hard and seduce me we would have sex daily.

My wife isn’t like that I have to initiate sex if it is to happen.

 

[Stephy]

Did u initiate sex and were you dominant? Or did u just sit there as a warm body in sweats not made up to entice him?

Because I’m just like your ex husband. 1 times every few months

But with past partners that were sex addict women that knew how to come on to me hard and seduce me we would have sex daily.

My wife isn’t like that I have to initiate sex if it is to happen.

i wasn't exactly trying to seduce him, but i was always the one asking never him

 

[LucidSDreamr]

i wasn't exactly trying to seduce him, but i was always the one asking never him

Ok well if you were at least asking on a regular basis and it still wouldn’t Happen I would blame him.

Let me ask you for my benefits of understanding my relationship maybe…..when you asked, and he would say “no” I’m too tired, or whatever other excuse, did you feel rejected and like he wasn’t attracted to you?

This is what happened wjrv my wife; she took it very personally when I didn’t want sex like it was her fault and she wasn’t attractive or whatever. When tat wasn’t the case at all. I really wasn’t burnt and just too tired (or too high admittedly)” or had recently jacked off and didn’t want to have sex. I still found her attractive.

Now if rather than just asking, she would’ve put her hand down my pants and started plying with it….would’ve become instantly aroused and it would’ve been game on. But that’s not her style at all. She’s very timid. She would stroke my hair lightly maybe and that isn’t going to get her anywhere it’s just plain annoying tbh. Partner or not . Even my cat could fuck off he he started playing with my hair. She’s resllly really bad at everything surrounding sex except for the act of giving hesd. Even then she gets a 3/10 for “passion/acting” but a solid 9/10 for how good it physically feels compared to any past partner I’ve had.

I’ve had partners that hated giving head and rarely ever gave it and it was horrible (but the sex was good). I had one partner that didn’t give as good of head but gave it often bit also did anal. Current partner will likely never do anal; barley can handle vaginal sec without pain but at least is always willing to give amazing head. The thing is I very rarely take advantage of the head for the reasons I stated a post or two ago about feeling like I’m degrading or using her when she gives heed

 

[Stephy]

Ok well if you were at least asking on a regular basis and it still wouldn’t Happen I would blame him.

Let me ask you for my benefits of understanding my relationship maybe…..when you asked, and he would say “no” I’m too tired, or whatever other excuse, did you feel rejected and like he wasn’t attracted to you?

This is what happened wjrv my wife; she took it very personally when I didn’t want sex like it was her fault and she wasn’t attractive or whatever. When tat wasn’t the case at all. I really wasn’t burnt and just too tired (or too high admittedly)” or had recently jacked off and didn’t want to have sex. I still found her attractive.

Now if rather than just asking, she would’ve put her hand down my pants and started plying with it….would’ve become instantly aroused and it would’ve been game on. But that’s not her style at all. She’s very timid. She would stroke my hair lightly maybe and that isn’t going to get her anywhere it’s just plain annoying tbh. Partner or not . Even my cat could fuck off he he started playing with my hair. She’s resllly really bad at everything surrounding sex except for the act of giving hesd. Even then she gets a 3/10 for “passion/acting” but a solid 9/10 for how good it physically feels compared to any past partner I’ve had.

I’ve had partners that hated giving head and rarely ever gave it and it was horrible (but the sex was good). I had one partner that didn’t give as good of head but gave it often bit also did anal. Current partner will likely never do anal; barley can handle vaginal sec without pain but at least is always willing to give amazing head. The thing is I very rarely take advantage of the head for the reasons I stated a post or two ago about feeling like I’m degrading or using her when she gives heed

would def feel rejected. I'm a warm bodied woman wanting and he just wants to jack off, watch porn, and play with HIS toys. i tried the hand down the pants... NO... that didn't work either he always said no