Have You Ever Been MOLESTED?

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Buzz Lightbeer said:
Some want to yes, but there's just nothing there, pure emptiness, I know this from a guy that is likely a psychopath (self admitted). I don't like him, something very off about him, he loves to charm people which is frankly annoying, and he often does strange things, that do hurt others, I think it's a combination of not realizing and not being able to help yourself.
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Something must have desensitized him. I grew up seeing those kind of guys, some of them lived very boring lives and just never knew better if that makes sense.
 
Rectify said:
Join The Club. You Aren't Special.
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I actually don't know what to say to this.....

This makes me angry but sad as well.
Outlier said:
As someone who has been run through the gamut here being both molested and raped multiple times in childhood and adulthood and knows about the subject, I cant fully get behind this statement. This kind of rhetoric encourages people who have been through these sorts of traumas to not want to talk about it. We are a website full of people suffering from addictions which are often a result of this kind of abuse in someones past.

Im not asking anyone here to become trauma informed and caring for that which they cant and/or dont have to, but the fact that this is the first or second thing I saw loading the blogs page which is meant to be very personal is disturbing. This is something which could stop someone writing their feelings out on something like being molested or raped. I wrote something here once right after it happened, which has since gone down because it felt too personal. Nothing to do with you seeing that was over a year ago now.. just saying

-ciao
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Well said!
I've suffered both as a child and an adult and I feel what you posted above ❤️
 
BehindtheShadow said:
I actually don't know what to say to this.....

This makes me angry but sad as well
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Im the only one here who understood him differently... i think he was trying to say that there is nothing to be ashamed of... right?
i was never molested as a child, but very bad things were done to me by one guy i trusted and by my second (and last!) husband 😞😞😞
 
join the club your arent special and you give me a sad.

honestly who writes that stuff.

we are all special.
 
help is always given here.

I was watching this place when it first started and yes help is given.

so why say just because you have felt something that everyone is not special

for there individual suffering

its like me saying non of you have samadhi so you are not worth listening to.

the op was attacking all who had be abused.
 
im a little upset with this as I am not sure if it was real.

if you need help just ask.

if you need to attack others to get help how the hell are you going to make the mental changes

so as the help even works.

nope not buying that one.

help me is different to ive been there and there for you have no reason to complain.
 
prince_igor said:
join the club your arent special and you give me a sad.

honestly who writes that stuff.

we are all special.
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I said sad because it made u and many others upset and triggered, and i understood it differently, i think i missed something here... i would never dismiss someone's horrible experience with that shit having felt it myself too many times
 
ok lets start again. give me a few minutes you replied I shall read this tomb on benzo use.
 
ok I was engaged to a girl (I loved more than life itself) who was raped from 13 too 16 by her mothers brother.

I can not help you.

I could not help her.

only you and her can help them selves and you both (she is only interested in covering the pain so it wont happen with her)

have a very hard job of doing it.

when we are young we are forming the most important links in the brain.

pain and suffering will distort this.

can that be removed from you both I now after years of looking think not.

what you can do is build a blanket of logic to encompass it.

you need to find the thoughts that you believe are linked to that situation.

then through serious practice and analysis you have to find which ones are able to

be moderated and which ones have a trigger that at the "moment" you can not solve.

the goal is to know what you can fix and what you can not (you 12 steppers leave me alone)

what you can moderate by thought do so (seek help as your stuck in your own prison)

after time when you moderate the ones you can others will become more accessible and you will

find you can fix them too.

its much like all things of mind.

one step leads to another.

please seek help but at the same time do not think they are the one to help you.


we are all different and sometimes it takes multiple people to help us.

fear not you are not alone is more what you should have said.

and when your on the path to healing is what you will believe.
 
prince_igor said:
ok I was engaged to a girl (I loved more than life itself) who was raped from 13 too 16 by her mothers brother.

I can not help you.

I could not help her.

only you and her can help them selves and you both (she is only interested in covering the pain so it wont happen with her)

have a very hard job of doing it.

when we are young we are forming the most important links in the brain.

pain and suffering will distort this.

can that be removed from you both I now after years of looking think not.

what you can do is build a blanket of logic to encompass it.

you need to find the thoughts that you believe are linked to that situation.

then through serious practice and analysis you have to find which ones are able to

be moderated and which ones have a trigger that at the "moment" you can not solve.

the goal is to know what you can fix and what you can not (you 12 steppers leave me alone)

what you can moderate by thought do so (seek help as your stuck in your own prison)

after time when you moderate the ones you can others will become more accessible and you will

find you can fix them too.

its much like all things of mind.

one step leads to another.

please seek help but at the same time do not think they are the one to help you.


we are all different and sometimes it takes multiple people to help us.

fear not you are not alone is more what you should have said.

and when your on the path to healing is what you will believe.
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So unfair and infuriating that victims still have to deal with something so complicated after being subjected to abuse while the abusers dont have to do shit. Predators are the absolute lowest life form.
 
mate there are many we broke and mate take it we broke them for what they did to you.

but we are not them.

be what you want gentle and understanding all pain is individual and your's is real.

I am sorry you had to go through what you did but what you need to do is figure if you wish to

carry the cross or let it go and move on.

again I know this is not easy and trust me I do understand (I will never tell my whole past)

you are.

we are

we must enjoy what we have so .........


who's making the next mix as I am for sure not looking back there.
 
strangeaeon said:
Im the only one here who understood him differently... i think he was trying to say that there is nothing to be ashamed of... right?
i was never molested as a child, but very bad things were done to me by one guy i trusted and by my second (and last!) husband 😞😞😞
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If he meant it in another way he certainly didn't write it correctly
And it does trigger me, I am 35 years old and I still have debilitating CPTSD from childhood trauma.
Honestly OP should've phrased it better or at least after seeing our reactions tried to explain what they meant.
 
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