Have You Ever Been MOLESTED?
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id rather have been molested as a child than raped as an adult, personally
As someone who has been run through the gamut here being both molested and raped multiple times in childhood and adulthood and knows about the subject, I cant fully get behind this statement. This kind of rhetoric encourages people who have been through these sorts of traumas to not want to talk about it. We are a website full of people suffering from addictions which are often a result of this kind of abuse in someones past.
Im not asking anyone here to become trauma informed and caring for that which they cant and/or dont have to, but the fact that this is the first or second thing I saw loading the blogs page which is meant to be very personal is disturbing. This is something which could stop someone writing their feelings out on something like being molested or raped. I wrote something here once right after it happened, which has since gone down because it felt too personal. Nothing to do with you seeing that was over a year ago now.. just saying
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Im not asking anyone here to become trauma informed and caring for that which they cant and/or dont have to, but the fact that this is the first or second thing I saw loading the blogs page which is meant to be very personal is disturbing. This is something which could stop someone writing their feelings out on something like being molested or raped. I wrote something here once right after it happened, which has since gone down because it felt too personal. Nothing to do with you seeing that was over a year ago now.. just saying
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Jabberwocky
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Sounds just like something a serial molester would say to his victims as he zipped up his pants afterwards. Pretty sketchy post for here.
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Sorry you had to go through all that man. Seems the more trauma we accrue the more we attract that sort of person or situation.
Its really fucked up.
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I dont know if it's some energetic, cosmic thing, like evil synchronicity, or if abusers can simply sense vulnerability or what.
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The OP was pretty misguided posting something like this. It dug at me pretty badly. I am hoping theres some revision here and it has been reported already.
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Nah they just pieces of shit waiting for the right moment to be the pieces of shit they are, sometimes the persons they abused were just with them out of pity, abusers are often lonely because nobody wants to be near an asshole
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I am more talking about random violence, particularly sexual in nature - considering the thread title. Molested seems to indicate children which I guess more often know their abusers - though they aren't "with" them. In my case, I dont even know their names. I do think they can sense vulnerability, and I made that comment because, well, how does a man get raped 3 times as an adult? They have to be picking up on it somehow.
Would be good if they would shoot themselves In the mouth. also, it would be good if people who harass victims would slit their throats.
But we don't live in a perfect world.
Sometimes people wind up lonely for calling out abuse - some of these people are serious psychopaths. I once knew a woman who admittedly molested an infant. She's not lonely.
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Jabberwocky
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U really think psychopaths are not lonely? They ppl who cannot connect with others. Tho if u want to feel sorry for em, they must have suffered childhood trauma, tho not every survivor is a psychopath, some choose to deal with it themselves and not onto others if that makes sense
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True psychopaths are not capable of emotions such as "loneliness", which would require some degree of empathy or connection to others, so yeah.
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Idk a true psychopath? I dont they could feel loneliness perhaps revel in other than what uses and abuses they has for someone. Never met one myself in don't thinkU really think psychopaths are not lonely? They ppl who cannot connect with others. Tho if u want to feel sorry for em, they must have suffered childhood trauma, tho not every survivor is a psychopath, some choose to deal with it themselves and not onto others if that makes sense
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For sure we almost all have met one, they seem normal on the outside until he started to trust me and began calling me whenever he stabbed someone and he tried to make me feel bad for not wanting to go comfort him at 2am, they are like that. He ended up trying to hurt my dad because i didnt want to be with him he was married with kids lmao but oh no that ended badly for him
sorry for the rant but i really fucking hate that guy
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No I feel you let it out. Sorry you had to go through that. I thought I met one or two, but I think they are just really confused humans, probably deep down want to be good or think they are? I'd hope so
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All 3 of my brothers were sexually abused by the same man, when they were young. I have no memories of any of sexual abuse happening to me, and my sister would probably kick anyone’s ass that had attempted to fondle her or I. She’s the oldest, nearly 18 years older than me, and she’s super scrappy. I’m the youngest and I’m the calm, reassuring one.
Often we hear stories of girls being abused. But in my childhood, that wasn’t the case.
I believe many more boys are sexually abused than we know about, and are then embarrassed by it and prefer never to mention it, than we know.
I only learned about their abuse in the past few years. They felt super ashamed, and my sister and I told them it was not their fault. They told us the night my mom died. We were at a Mexican restaurant and I think the Tequila likely loosened the 3 of them up enough to be willing to talk about this. I’m so sad. They were all abused by a Cub Scout and Boy Scout leader
Often we hear stories of girls being abused. But in my childhood, that wasn’t the case.
I believe many more boys are sexually abused than we know about, and are then embarrassed by it and prefer never to mention it, than we know.
I only learned about their abuse in the past few years. They felt super ashamed, and my sister and I told them it was not their fault. They told us the night my mom died. We were at a Mexican restaurant and I think the Tequila likely loosened the 3 of them up enough to be willing to talk about this. I’m so sad. They were all abused by a Cub Scout and Boy Scout leader
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Some want to yes, but there's just nothing there, pure emptiness, I know this from a guy that is likely a psychopath (self admitted). I don't like him, something very off about him, he loves to charm people which is frankly annoying, and he often does strange things, that do hurt others, I think it's a combination of not realizing and not being able to help yourself.
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