What does a girl do who is seriously, head over heels, can't live without, deeply in love with with a man who is in a relationship? They live together and I'm basically one of the side chicks. Yes, I know there is more than just me. I simply cannot cut him off, he got me the best job I've ever had at a time when I was near desolate in life. I don't even want to kick it with other men. They all bore me. You see this very special person let's me "do things to him" wink wink. Its almost overwhemling how utterly happy and literally giddy like a schoolgir I am with him. And when without completley lost in thoughts of when I can see him again and reliving the times we've chilled. I seriously have never felt this level of intense yearning for a human being in all my life and I don't know how it's gonna turn out, but I'm so invested at this point there is no going back. My coworker wants to throat punch me the way I gush over this man who is not up to his "standards".
Oh God, the feels.
There isn't much you can do when you're completely under a taken guy's spell, especially with work and all.
The most unethical advice to give would be to just live in the moment, DO NOT GET CAUGHT and most of all do not ever expect him to leave her for you.
Oh...a co-worker knows? Well, stop being obvious . That's not going to be kept quiet, who knows who isn't clear, his partner could well find suspicion from mutual acquaintances.
You are the side chick no doubt and would be hid secret. Something just for him and he will be rationalising this as well.
To be fair though, its not going to win you woman of the year award, this kind of thing. Infatuation isn't a great excuse for interference in another woman's relationship with her partner so don't be surprised if you don't find many sympathetic ears if you get found out of your heart broken.
He won't ever want to change the status quo and be with you, he has a partner he is with despite being horny elsewhere.
Even if he does, you will suspect him of doing same to you.
The thrill wouldn't be there and you might find him to be a normal, annoying sneaky little man who isn't a challenge anymore.
Infatuation doesn't last and it will probably fizzle out or he could just not be as keen as you and have other side women.
Will be better for you to have that happen as declining Interest in each other will be the best option.
Making yourself dump him yet still be around him might not work.
Its fairly common, which is a great reason to stay single.