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Can parents tell whether their kids are objectively physically attractive?

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cowardescent

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In a non-creepy way of course. My mother like a lot of mothers says I'm handsome but I think she's biased. Can she tell whether I'm attractive in a romantic/sexual sense (which is usually the only reason why people want to gauge how attractive they are to the opposite sex). Most people would say no.

I'm a bisexual guy but not at all attracted to masculine men. I can however notice many physically attractive masculine men like Michael Weatherly from NCIS or Ben Shephard who is a TV gameshow host in the UK.

It's also hard to believe your parents telling you that you're attractive when you go out with male friends your age to a pub/nightclub and all the girls approach your friends with the exception of yourself. As they say "Don't listen to what people say but what people do".
 
Sure, but is a mother likely to point out imperfections to her son or daughter ? (Except for abusive families, which this happens frequently)
 
Zephyn said:
Sure, but is a mother likely to point out imperfections to her son or daughter ? (Except for abusive families, which this happens frequently)
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I have a friend whose mother is a confirmed and diagnosed as having narcissistic personality disorder, as well as anorexic. She made my friend's teen and young adult years hell constantly criticised her, if she gained any weight-my friend was,never fat or obese-her mom would tell her she had to lose weight, diet, etc. when she was a healthy teen/young adult and in shape or fit.
 
I wonder how this would work (theoretically, of course) with men. See, I believe I was born bisexual as I think all sexes are but men don't ever seem attractive to me; like in a I could sit down to a drink and admire that kind of mentality. I'm completely attracted to the female form. There are women that make me want to curl my toes when I come

I don't think men are attractive in the same way women are attractive. That's what I'm saying, from my perspective. We're all different and obviously wired differently. My mom told me I was lucky because I was attractive so I could easily attract girls and that was when I was about 13. I didn't get it then and I still don't but that's because of me. I know what I'm attracted to and it isn't the norm. I'm attracted to what I like, not what attracts itself to me if that makes sense

I'm attracted to what makes me feel attractive, or at least that's my theory and it works. I like females who are around the same size and shape as me or even a bit smaller is fine too. I finally figured it out. Attractive people are people who know themselves and what they want. This vibe attracts others and hopefully other attractive people who share similar values
 
I think objectively sure, but Im sure that knowing all the other qualities of their children and being biased toward the positives would still always colour their viewpoint at least a little... at least I think thats what a normal parent would be like. Personally I have no kids and my parents are a little bit out of the picture, or a lot. I dont really know.
 
I think its great your Mum is giving you some complements but in the end it doesnt really matter if your getting an objective viewpoint or not..........you are you. What anyone else thinks, doesnt change anything.

Its also important to understand that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, What I think is handsome, others may not.

The value of being handsome is really only momentary. May or may not get you a second glance but thats all its worth. Think of it as being the same as a piece of steak. Smells good and draws you in.........but seconds later when you take a bite is when the true beauty or crapiness becomes apparent.

Which brings me to my final point............. A persons real handsomeness or beauty is not known until you get to know them. Its something that is found in an individuals personality, moral values and whether those click with your personality and vice versa. Everyone is different and we all have differring tastes.

True love can be found in the most unexpected places. Dont be limited with pre conceived ideas.

I rate highly the fact that you were able to be honest enough with yourself to recognise beauty in those people you mentioned. For a lot of men, that is a very difficult thing to do.

Keep smiling.
 
I think I can tell that my boys are extremely objectively physically attractive, and people tell us that all the time. But it's such a headfuck because I would think they're attractive, and people would tell us that because it's the nice thing to say.

But I'm pretty sure they really are super unusually good looking.Which makes sense because they are really active, healthy, their mum is an exceptional beauty. Or is she? I would think that, since I married her. No, she really is. And so are my kids.
 
cowardescent said:
In a non-creepy way of course. My mother like a lot of mothers says I'm handsome but I think she's biased. Can she tell whether I'm attractive in a romantic/sexual sense (which is usually the only reason why people want to gauge how attractive they are to the opposite sex). Most people would say no.

I'm a bisexual guy but not at all attracted to masculine men. I can however notice many physically attractive masculine men like Michael Weatherly from NCIS or Ben Shephard who is a TV gameshow host in the UK.

It's also hard to believe your parents telling you that you're attractive when you go out with male friends your age to a pub/nightclub and all the girls approach your friends with the exception of yourself. As they say "Don't listen to what people say but what people do".
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I am not a father, and i do not want to be, due to me being too irresponsible. But i think that yeah, a parent can tell if the kid is attractive. I bet that you are attractive too, @cowardescent because moms do not usually lie.
 
LivingOnValium said:
I would say maybe a few can but generally they can't be objective on this.
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It is still too hot. Fuck this heat wave. Turku dude writing here. Uhhhhh.... i need water and then i have to check if i have some tiny bits of weed left here.

Sorry for the off topic, but it is not my fault. This heat is fucking up my mind.

Edited due to a missing word (see what i mean? during normal weather, i can actually write)
 
Ghost fart said:
It is still too hot. Fuck this heat wave. Turku dude writing here. Uhhhhh.... i need water and then i have to check if i have some tiny bits of weed left here.

Sorry for the off topic, but it is not my fault. This heat is fucking up my mind.

Edited due to a missing word (see what i mean? during normal weather, i can actually write)
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Same here bro. Trying my best to cope and am not doing well lol. I rephrased my answer after you quoted me.
 
They can but they wil lie to you. I am a handsome person and I wanted my son to be too. So when my kid was born I was so thankful to see how handsome he is. Ya if he was fugly Id know lol.
 
My two kids are gorgeous. My 16yo lad is a strapping 6 footer with a physique I'd die for.

My 22yo daughter is a petite blonde with a figure my Mrs would die for.

I really don't know where they get their looks from - it's certainly not me. The Mrs reckons it's her, but I'm saying nothing...
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
I have a friend whose mother is a confirmed and diagnosed as having narcissistic personality disorder, as well as anorexic. She made my friend's teen and young adult years hell constantly criticised her, if she gained any weight-my friend was,never fat or obese-her mom would tell her she had to lose weight, diet, etc. when she was a healthy teen/young adult and in shape or fit.
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Reminds me of how this former friend of my mom used to treat her daughter. Sort of used to see her daughter like a little sister since she used to stay over my house on and off when she was in in elementary-middle/early highschool when her mom worked the night shift. She was one of those kids that always got perfect grades. In spite of there being nothing wrong with her appearance at all her mom would find faults in the most insignificant things like her bangs even things she couldn't control. Def was responsible for causing her issues. Don't want to post any details since It's someone else's personal business but jesus just thinking about that shit makes me want to cry. Don't stay in touch with her but looked her up recently and found out she is doing good with a career in her passion that she has been perusing her entire life while doing post grad work.
 
Ghost fart said:
I think honesty is unnecessary here. Words. If the kid is unattractive, i would stay silent about it if i was a dad.
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Yeah. I’d spend more time on the positive qualities that aren’t just physical attractiveness anyway because that kind of teaches a lot of people a pretty shorty lesson about life. Even if it is true that looks count, they aren’t all there is. Being physically attractive isn’t considered a virtue for a reason.

I’m kind of reminded of these fucking moms who put their kids through pageants right now. How pathetic.
 
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