~kira~
Bluelighter
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Well, this is pretty much me asking advice, playing it safe as per usual. So to protect all of our names I'll be using numbers..
Aright, so I'm bestfriends with this girl named #1, I've been best friends with her for probably 5 years or so. I don't really have any intention on pursuing her, but if something happened and we were able to advance to sex or whatever, then sure why not. But relationship, hell no! haha
So, #1 has a younger sister, #2. I've been friends with her for maybe 4 years, and in the last year we really hangout a lot. We enjoy hanging out, and we act VERY weird in front of each other, or if were with #1 as well. I've always wondered what #2 would be like, ya know dating, having a sexual relationship etc etc, but never asked or made a move... I feel like the time could be coming, possibly. This is where I need advice!
So, she always has had a big bubble, and a personal space barrier with ANY ONE. I have never actually hugged her in all of our years talking (well maybe once or twice at a party.) A while back ago, maybe a year ago we were possibly a little flirty over fb. I told her at some point her sister wants us to date, and I think I took it to far to quick and said something like, let's go on a date! blah blah blah, bad move. She said she saw me as a really close friend. It was awkward for about 5 minutes or so, then we went back to talking about regular stuff. I took that as a bad sign and kind of distanced myself for a week. But we still talked.
So, lately she always asks if we can hangout and go to random places. And like I said, she always wants to hangout, or come over. There was a party with all of her gf's and she specifically asked me to come over. I had to work, and she said she was sad. I don't know, she just likes me being around. Well last night, 4th of July, we had all got together (about 10 of their family members and myself) to go watch fireworks. It down poured so we left. I was getting ready to leave and #2 said, "wait... you aren't coming inside?" I told her I had to go eat real fast and she had seemed bummed out. While I was eating I got a phone call. While I was on the phone #2 was blowing up my phone texting and calling "saying hey, i'm bored! Hey <insert name here> please come get meeee." Those messages kept happening. I called her quickly and she had asked If I wanted to go to this overlook place like 2 hours away, she had said " we can go there and ya know...idk hangout and stuff" I said hell yeah! And she perked up on excitement and said she would pay for gas. So we left...
She had told me she was excited, and we talked nonstop on the way there, for about an hour. Then we started talking about personal stuff...like stuff we don't really talk about. She had started off by saying she is to secure and tries to look good all the time, because she was in fear of being rejected look wise (which she looks like a goddess) And I told her right after, "well you don't have to try at all, you always are looking good!" And she of course thanked me and said awwww. So after that, the conversation sparked up and went into the personal area. She asked if I ever measured my dick. I told her no, but she asked how big I was, I jokingly told her 12.5 haha. But eventually said idk probably 6". She said reallllly? She started telling me stories of her sex life, as did I with her. She's only been with one guy.. She told me things that turned her on, and I told her things that turned me on. We started telling eachother things that we have NEVER told anyone about. So our level of trust is pretty big, I was a bit off my game when she asked about how big I was, and with other questions, but I got some info to work with now..
So, we got to this place, and unfortunately it was a BIG party place that night, and the whole place smelled like piss, which killed out vibe, when we got out she had said this, word for word... "Well this would be a good make out spot! ...just kidding!
" That face was about the face she made. *EDIT* She didn't look pissed off like that tongue emojii, but she stuck her tongue out. I had NO idea if this was just a joke, or a hint... We stared off into the distance at the fireworks, but the smell of piss and beer made us want to leave early. We were both very tired at this point. We left got lost and an hour drive turned into 4....
But anyway, I have NO clue how to pursue her. A few months ago she had said she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship, but she also said she would love a guy that would not get too hooked on her, and kind of be a fwb thing. At this time she said she would love someone like me. So idk, should I try something? Was thinking of maybe taking her somewhere private tonight, and maybe striking up the old truth or dare game... worked before for me for a kiss so maybe it would with her. Was thinking if she said dare early, maybe I could say something like "I dare you to try and kick my ass" she always jokes that even though she is skinny, she could do it. Maybe that could spark some playful touches and such. But who knows, maybe I am looking into this WAY to much, maybe I'm not. What do you guys and gals think?
Aright, so I'm bestfriends with this girl named #1, I've been best friends with her for probably 5 years or so. I don't really have any intention on pursuing her, but if something happened and we were able to advance to sex or whatever, then sure why not. But relationship, hell no! haha
So, #1 has a younger sister, #2. I've been friends with her for maybe 4 years, and in the last year we really hangout a lot. We enjoy hanging out, and we act VERY weird in front of each other, or if were with #1 as well. I've always wondered what #2 would be like, ya know dating, having a sexual relationship etc etc, but never asked or made a move... I feel like the time could be coming, possibly. This is where I need advice!
So, she always has had a big bubble, and a personal space barrier with ANY ONE. I have never actually hugged her in all of our years talking (well maybe once or twice at a party.) A while back ago, maybe a year ago we were possibly a little flirty over fb. I told her at some point her sister wants us to date, and I think I took it to far to quick and said something like, let's go on a date! blah blah blah, bad move. She said she saw me as a really close friend. It was awkward for about 5 minutes or so, then we went back to talking about regular stuff. I took that as a bad sign and kind of distanced myself for a week. But we still talked.
So, lately she always asks if we can hangout and go to random places. And like I said, she always wants to hangout, or come over. There was a party with all of her gf's and she specifically asked me to come over. I had to work, and she said she was sad. I don't know, she just likes me being around. Well last night, 4th of July, we had all got together (about 10 of their family members and myself) to go watch fireworks. It down poured so we left. I was getting ready to leave and #2 said, "wait... you aren't coming inside?" I told her I had to go eat real fast and she had seemed bummed out. While I was eating I got a phone call. While I was on the phone #2 was blowing up my phone texting and calling "saying hey, i'm bored! Hey <insert name here> please come get meeee." Those messages kept happening. I called her quickly and she had asked If I wanted to go to this overlook place like 2 hours away, she had said " we can go there and ya know...idk hangout and stuff" I said hell yeah! And she perked up on excitement and said she would pay for gas. So we left...
She had told me she was excited, and we talked nonstop on the way there, for about an hour. Then we started talking about personal stuff...like stuff we don't really talk about. She had started off by saying she is to secure and tries to look good all the time, because she was in fear of being rejected look wise (which she looks like a goddess) And I told her right after, "well you don't have to try at all, you always are looking good!" And she of course thanked me and said awwww. So after that, the conversation sparked up and went into the personal area. She asked if I ever measured my dick. I told her no, but she asked how big I was, I jokingly told her 12.5 haha. But eventually said idk probably 6". She said reallllly? She started telling me stories of her sex life, as did I with her. She's only been with one guy.. She told me things that turned her on, and I told her things that turned me on. We started telling eachother things that we have NEVER told anyone about. So our level of trust is pretty big, I was a bit off my game when she asked about how big I was, and with other questions, but I got some info to work with now..
So, we got to this place, and unfortunately it was a BIG party place that night, and the whole place smelled like piss, which killed out vibe, when we got out she had said this, word for word... "Well this would be a good make out spot! ...just kidding!
" That face was about the face she made. *EDIT* She didn't look pissed off like that tongue emojii, but she stuck her tongue out. I had NO idea if this was just a joke, or a hint... We stared off into the distance at the fireworks, but the smell of piss and beer made us want to leave early. We were both very tired at this point. We left got lost and an hour drive turned into 4....But anyway, I have NO clue how to pursue her. A few months ago she had said she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship, but she also said she would love a guy that would not get too hooked on her, and kind of be a fwb thing. At this time she said she would love someone like me. So idk, should I try something? Was thinking of maybe taking her somewhere private tonight, and maybe striking up the old truth or dare game... worked before for me for a kiss so maybe it would with her. Was thinking if she said dare early, maybe I could say something like "I dare you to try and kick my ass" she always jokes that even though she is skinny, she could do it. Maybe that could spark some playful touches and such. But who knows, maybe I am looking into this WAY to much, maybe I'm not. What do you guys and gals think?
" and also after that one "is this what happiness is really like?" So I mean that meant a lot to me. So, I can play the waiting game with her until she is ready. But, no even though