M and J started dating in 2001. J was 20, single mother with a 2 year old daughter. M was 37. The two quickly fell in love. J's family hated M as they thought he was a controlling manipulative phony. J's family was not the subtle type so M knew exactly how they felt. J stupidly moved in with M a few months after dating. M kept J and her daughter away from family. So J would occasionally disappear for a night to spend time with family M would get very angry. J and M married in 2003. M decided it would be best to move from Mass. to FL. J didnt want to. Her family, life, job leaving all of that was terrifying. Because as always M knows everything, J knows nothing. 2005 move to Florida. M gets into real estate J hates Florida, hates real estate as that was not her career. Any attempt to make friends is ruined by M. Real estate business takes off. M and J built a very comfy life together including their own company. Purchased their first house, both had brand new cars. Business was great. 2010 J became pregnant life was good. About 6 months pregnant M started behaving different. Out very late, not coming home at all. When asked where he was:
-got a flat tire, got out to look at it got jumped by 4 guys they stole my wallet. Another time a guy pepper sprayed him out of no where stole his wallet, dropped wallet in walmart. This happened often and always seemed it was after a big closing, around that time he started depositing checks, once cleared withdrawing large amounts of cash. Following 2 years long story short M was arrested, charged with felonies, lost his real estate license. Very unethical and illegal reasons. M had a major gambling problem that got out of control. J maxed out her credit card to pay the hefty bail amount. J also stuck with him through the whole entire ordeal. J wasted no time found a job immediately. M did not. Mortgage was getting behind. M sold his car then blew every penny at the casino. J went out with some girls she worked with, drank way too much and drove home. Was home by 11. M slammed J up against wall grabbing her wrist tightly ripped phone out of her hand. J punched M in the face hard as she could. M ran across house woaking 10 year old up crying saying your mother punched me in the face, shes drunk, she drove home smashed she cant even walk, she chose to go out and get drunk over being a mother at home with you kids. The 10 year old did not speak to J for 3 months. M continued to involve and encourage 10 year old to stay mad. J was crushed. She protected M through all of his hard times. She never once involved kids or anybody. It was an ultimate betrayal. J started drinking more and more. When she would pick up beer on the way home to drink M and or 10 year old would dump her beer. Then treat her as if she were invisible. J started going out to the bar. The start of many affairs.
-got a flat tire, got out to look at it got jumped by 4 guys they stole my wallet. Another time a guy pepper sprayed him out of no where stole his wallet, dropped wallet in walmart. This happened often and always seemed it was after a big closing, around that time he started depositing checks, once cleared withdrawing large amounts of cash. Following 2 years long story short M was arrested, charged with felonies, lost his real estate license. Very unethical and illegal reasons. M had a major gambling problem that got out of control. J maxed out her credit card to pay the hefty bail amount. J also stuck with him through the whole entire ordeal. J wasted no time found a job immediately. M did not. Mortgage was getting behind. M sold his car then blew every penny at the casino. J went out with some girls she worked with, drank way too much and drove home. Was home by 11. M slammed J up against wall grabbing her wrist tightly ripped phone out of her hand. J punched M in the face hard as she could. M ran across house woaking 10 year old up crying saying your mother punched me in the face, shes drunk, she drove home smashed she cant even walk, she chose to go out and get drunk over being a mother at home with you kids. The 10 year old did not speak to J for 3 months. M continued to involve and encourage 10 year old to stay mad. J was crushed. She protected M through all of his hard times. She never once involved kids or anybody. It was an ultimate betrayal. J started drinking more and more. When she would pick up beer on the way home to drink M and or 10 year old would dump her beer. Then treat her as if she were invisible. J started going out to the bar. The start of many affairs.