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Guys: Do you compliment a girl on a first date?

CoastTwoCoast

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I went on a date yesterday for sushi burritos and he was a perfect gentleman and hot, but didn't really say much about my appearance. Trust me, I'm not ugly or trying to sound conceited, but when he saw me it would've been nice to hear "You look very pretty or beautiful." Something!!!! All he did was compliment my hair because it's red and purple. I looked pretty damn good and I was disappointed he didn't really acknowledge that. We hugged at the end and I didn't even kiss him because since he wasn't complimentary or grab my hand while we were walking or anything, I just didn't get the vibe to kiss him at the end.

Anyway, if a girl looks good on a first date, do you at least compliment her? It would have helped me feel like he was into me.
 
To answer your question, yes. However, you should probably prepare to get flamed a little here.
 
gmlifer said:
To answer your question, yes. However, you should probably prepare to get flamed a little here.
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Why should I prepare to get flamed? I respect a man who tells you you look pretty, beautiful or whatever when they see you the first time when it's true. This guy just isn't interested I guess. He said he thought it would come off "cheesy" to throw compliments at me. That's bullshit. All you have to tell a person is they look nice. So I wasted my time with someone who's not interested. That's why I hate dating. It takes so much time and energy to get ready for what? A "Let's be friends." I could use a friend, but I also want someone romantically interested in me too.
 
sure but there could be a few reasons why he didn't and i think youre over analyzing. him not being into you is only one reason. don't be too hasty he could be way into you. he prob doesn't like first dates either. nervous, shy, sumpin or just likes to take it slow and wants to get to know you first without it being weird and putting him in a position where he has to break up with you after one date.

did you compliment him?

you should have just went after it if you liked it. men can be plain terrible at reading women. nothing says 'im into you' like making an actual move. i love it when a woman gets all aggressive and shit. you want some, go get it, don't leave it entirely up to him.
 
I compliment women in my life every chance i get. When I see they have new clothes got a hair cut even if they write nice and neat... women love compliments and you might as well give them when they are deserved it helps ease the situation and raise their opinion of you even if its just "hes such a nice guy" type thing.

So in short of course i would.
 
RDP89 said:
They have sushi burritos?
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Yes and they're INCREDIBLE! I found out so told this guy about it and we went yesterday. So delicious.

Anyway, thanks guys for confirming there's nothing wrong with complimenting a girl. We go through so much with hair, makeup and outfits and he can't even tell me I look nice? Today, he was all "I meant to tell you I had a good time. You're a cool chick and if you want to go to concerts, I'll go with you blah blah." There were still no looks compliment in there so all I heard in my head is "I'm not interested." I told him he didn't even compliment me so that's when he said he thought it would be cheesy and that I am beautiful and will make some guy happy. Gee thanks, fuck yourself.

Just say you're not interested.
 
jammin83 said:
sure but there could be a few reasons why he didn't and i think youre over analyzing. him not being into you is only one reason. don't be too hasty he could be way into you. he prob doesn't like first dates either. nervous, shy, sumpin or just likes to take it slow and wants to get to know you first without it being weird and putting him in a position where he has to break up with you after one date.

did you compliment him?

you should have just went after it if you liked it. men can be plain terrible at reading women. nothing says 'im into you' like making an actual move. i love it when a woman gets all aggressive and shit. you want some, go get it, don't leave it entirely up to him.
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I do go after what I want, but I know what it feels like when I'm on a date and a guy wants me. He'll compliment me, he'll try to hold my hand, something! I wasn't going to be all over him when he wasn't giving me any real signs.

Yes, I did compliment him actually. I loved his hair and beard. He's on the road a lot as a trucker so he said he wouldn't be able to give me a proper relationship, but I don't even want one. He lives only 10 minutes away from me so there could have been times we hung out at his place if he wanted. Obviously he just wasn't romantically into me. It hurts, but moving on....
 
I see it as a gentlemen's compliment but I wouldn't be upset if it didn't happen. I'm more about what he does than what he says. Although, the affirmations are really nice. I guess I kinda see it as icing on the cake kind of thing. :)

As someone who can be awkward and shy when she first meets someone, I say a lot of stupid shit so I am pretty tolerant if the guy is kinda stumbling over things to say. lol
 
I hear ya', but this guy knew how to hold a conversation. He wasn't fumbling around and when I complimented him, that was the time for him to compliment me...if he wanted to. He did say my hair looked nice, but big deal. He was still nice and a gentleman. I just wanted more because I did like him and found him attractive. I felt stupid giving him compliments and not really getting anything back.

Overall, I enjoyed the sushi burritos and that's what really counts. Haha
 
Hey as long as the food was good. lol

Sometimes, I wonder if the smoother ones are less desirable than the ones who are obviously nervous. lol Just pondering and would not judge too much, but the nervous ones sometimes have this endearing quality that they care where the smooth salesy type guys are like that because they don't care.
 
I see your point. I think it's cute when a guy is nervous instead of acting "too cool". The "too cool" types make me sick because they give off a vibe that YOU'RE lucky to be on a date with THEM!!! Please! And I really need to work on my self-esteem. This guy was attractive and I rarely go out with attractive guys because I don't think I deserve it or something. I don't even think I deserve love so when I feel rejected, it kinda sends me down a dark path. I'll get over this easier though since it was one date. It is what it is.
 
No way should you feel self-conscious. You seem like a kickass chick. Just because you don't take any shit doesn't mean you don't deserve the right guy. Much better to weed out the ones who don't do it for you than give some lamer a chance. It just seems like you need a guy who can hold his own and has some experience to know how to treat a lady. Nothing wrong with that.
 
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