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how to deal with being unequal to girls? :(

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If noone would care about this stuff, young people would not have sex until 30! People would not enjoy youth, have fun. They do it, because you must do it, because it's fun and purpose of life. So dont tell me please nobody else cares about this. Sometimes i have a feeling you dont even listen what i write and facts i write...the facts, what i didnt have and others had.

Why would having sex with anyone be bad? Its like saying smiling is not good for your life or eating. Its same with sex and the joy you get with penetration and orgasm. Thats why girls who have a lot of sex partners and sex on different places and experiment are winners. Numbers say it all.

I can't deal with fact all those beautiful girls on street have same beautiful pussies as girls in porn. And other guys are experiencing them since years, like they are nothing special, while on other hand they are together with most beautiful things on the world...with bodies that are most beautiful art of our world :(

You dont understand night life is normal for most of people, going thru the streets, nice girls coming against you on street and those girls had sex and normal youth.
 
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Seriously, this is the most pitiful pity party I've ever seen on BL..

Firstly as much as I love the female body, it's not the most beautiful work of art in the world. And as much as I love a good pussy they're not exactly beautiful either.. it's essentially a wet hole, which can get pretty gross at times too. You know babies come out of them, right?

No one is going to agree with you and tell you that you're right.. because you're not. You're way wrong. And you're never going to get laid with this attitude. I'm surprised your dick hasn't packed up and left yet to be quite honest with you. Pitiful.
 
andreass said:
If noone would care about this stuff, young people would not have sex until 30! People would not enjoy youth, have fun. They do it, because you must do it, because it fun and purpose of life. So dont tell me please nobody else cares about this. Sometimes i have a feeling you dont even listen what i write and facts i write...the facts, what i didnt have and others had.

Why would having sex with anyone be bad? Its like saying smiling is not good for your life or eating. Its same with sex and the joy you get with penetration and orgasm. Thats why girls who have a lot of sex partners and sex on different places and experiment are winners. Numbers say it all.

I can't deal with fact all those beautiful girls on street have same beautiful pussies as girls in porn. And other guys are experiencing them since years, like they are nothing special, while on other hand they are together with most beautiful things on the world...with bodies that are most beautiful art of our world :(
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You got it backwards, ive listened to you, you say the same thing again and again. You're not listening to us

Noone will care that you didn't have those experiences. People don't need to consider sex the most important thing in life to be going out and having sex.

And they can have wild sex when they're young and regret it because young people don't think enough about the future and what they may later regret.

Why would having wild sex in your teen be bad? Lots of reasons, stds, having nothing new to experience when you find someone you actually love to have sex with. Plus all that shit they put on facebook could affect their career opportunities in the future. Plus the psychological side, coming through all that shit and feeling used by the end if it. Theres many reasons it can be a bad thing. You're just too obsessed with your fairy tale view of it to see it. You didn't have it so how can you even know if it's worth having. You're just assuming. Looking like your having fun while drunk at the time doesn't preclude you regretting it later on.

It has nothing to do with winning or losing. No ones evaluating it that way but you. That's your opinion, your view not reality.
You think they're winners because of it. I don't, in fact I wouldn't classify anyone who does shit just cause society tells them to as a winner. I'd classify them as a sheep.
Your numbers are just that, numbers. The meaning you attach to them is the part that's bullshit.

This is part of why I think porn can be destructive, do you hear yourself with your beautiful pussy remark? Ugh. Ever consider other people think they're nothing special because they're actually not, and you're the one that has this uncommon appreciation?

There are so many more important and meaningful things in the world than sex. Its sad you cant see that.

Look, go out, meet girls, have sex. Learn that your opinion isn't the same as fact, and probably isn't when you're universally told you're wrong by people far more experienced in the subject. Or wallow in your own self pity but don't expect us to support your self destruction.
 
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It has nothing to do with winning or losing. No ones evaluating it that way but you. That's your opinion, your view not reality.
You think they're winners because of it. I don't, in fact I wouldn't classify anyone who does shit just cause society tells them to as a winner. I'd classify them as a sheep.
Your numbers are just that, numbers. The meaning you attach to them is the part that's bullshit.
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If this would be the case, people would not make fun out of people who didnt have sex and they would not make fun out of virgins. Also to me it happened. Also years later after highschool, because i didnt have girlfriend and sex. Even now. And no, not only kids when i was 18. Also married men, women, all kinds of ages at job (and no, i didn't talk with nobody about it, but people know each other and sooner or later found out about your past). Also aunts, uncles, grandman in past. So don't tell me this doesnt matter. All people who are normal and had sex are like this, you just need to open your eyes. Its natural selection. Stonger wins, weaker loses.
 
andreass said:
If this would be the case, people would not make fun out of people who didnt have sex and they would not make fun out of virgins. Also to me it happened. Also years later after highschool, because i didnt have girlfriend and sex. Even now. And no, not only kids when i was 18. Also married men, women, all kinds of ages at job (and no, i didn't talk with nobody about it, but people know each other and sooner or later found out about your past). Also aunts, uncles, grandman in past. So don't tell me this doesnt matter. All people who are normal and had sex are like this, you just need to open your eyes. Its natural selection. Stonger wins, weaker loses.
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Exactly. Now, do us all a favour and go and castrate yourself.
 
Those same people who make run of male virgins also generally have negative views of women who sleep around, which is exactly the thing you're claiming makes someone a winner. So that argument is contradictory. You can't say people who make fun of virgins prove not having sex is bad, while also claiming women having lots of sex is good, when those same people consider that bad too.

Open your eyes, you're talking to a diverse group of people here all saying the same thing. You can't use the natural selection argument either because those people having lots of sex when they're young are using contraception, and if they didn't their days of going out partying will be rapidly over.

You're being totally irrational, what's happening here is YOU wish you had had that growing up, and because of your mental and self esteem problems you've convinced yourself that not having had that growing up, rather than just being unfortunate, makes you inherently a loser who can never equal other people. That's exactly why I said you should see a shrink.

And obsessing over what you didn't have isn't healthy, it doesn't help you or anyone else. Do you want us to convince you it's not as bad as you think, or do you want to convince us it is? What is the point of this thread?

We can't make you see the truth, or make you go to a shrink, if you would rather delude yourself so you can throw your life away, we can't stop you. But we sure as hell can chose not to be a part if it.
 
A lot of what you're saying seems rooted in the mentality of 2 or 3 generations ago. It's like you've been brainwashed to think that meaning and happiness in your life comes from doing what everyone else is doing. It's incredibly self-defeating to live with this kind of mindset, and let me just tell you that today you don't need to experience everything to know how it works. There's so many ways to learn about stuff without having to go through the same shit our elders did. Besides, we are part of a collective consciousness that signals what is right and what is wrong. Do you seriously think you'd be happier if you'd fucked 100 women instead of 3? I really think you should change your attitude and reconsider your options.
 
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Do you seriously think you'd be happier if you'd fucked 100 women instead of 3? I really think you should change your attitude and reconsider your options.
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Yeh. Go search Reddit. I found stories on there of people who had fucked 100+ women and had the kind of life you seem to think is glorious, and they were no happier now than they were before, or happier than a person who had only a handful of partners. In fact the tone of their posts suggested they wished they hadn't even bothered with it at all.. it did nothing to enhance their life except perhaps increase the risk of an STI or unwanted pregnancy.. and instead of chasing pussy they could have invested their energy into something more substantial than fleeting sexual pleasures.

You need to grow up. Stop telling yourself this sorry ass story about yourself. You are causing your own pain, no one else is. I would guess you are doing it because you have nothing else going on in your life because you are not actually doing anything with your life. Your mind is playing this pity party shit over and over because you refuse to create something new.

So go do something with your life.

Ask some questions about how you can improve your situation, life advice or perspective.. you have people here who are willing to give you a bit of guidance. Make use of that possibility! But don't keep whining.. no one cares or believes what you're saying, so please stop moaning. It's pointless.
 
Its true the more times you have sex with the same person the more you learn about what they like. It may lack the excitement of a one night stand with a different person but practice does make it better with the same person. I have been with the wife over 30 years and our sex got better with time . I really cant imagine it being better with anyone else
 
^ True, you learn what each other likes, you both become masters at turning each other on. The quality of the sex increases with a long time partner, while the frequency can sometimes decrease over time.

30 years man, that is a long time, I was going to say 'well done' like so many other folk say as if it's a chore! Something more fitting would be 'that's special' or something, because it is, two people sharing a lifetime together and still having a healthy sex life and in love.
 
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I had sex 3 times at prostitutes. Depressed yes, but i don't grudge to all happy and sex full life.
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Ok, so you're not as sexually experienced as you would want to be. You're envious of others and their sex life. And you're depressed because you regret not having sex earlier in your life. & you feel like you are worthless since you are inexperienced with sex.

Did I get that right?
 
I dont care for good or bad sex. I just want numbers, so i will be equal to others. So i can say i had this and that, so i can check off things on my list. This is what counts these days with young people. You need to do all the stuff. Majority does this and majority has always right.

SS, people are different. Offcourse all are not happy, but you people always see bad examples and not the majority of those who have this lifestyle and which are happy with it.

You dont understand the fact, its friday night and for people its normal to go out, which for me never was. We live in different worlds, so we can't be equal. I was out 6 times so far. I am not equal to the people who are out every week from their youth. Its simply facts. You dont understand how it feels. When beautiful girls are out searching for tonights sex partner.

I speak with many girls on fetlife. They can get partners every weekend, have always some backup for sex, if one guy cant do it the night. This shows the richness and greatness of those girls for me. I have nobody.

And btw, i dont envy nobody who is in serious relationship for 10 years or so. I only envy those who had many partners and wild sex life with experimenting. Porn girls, prostitutes, nympomanicas, girls with many sex partners who know how to enjoy life with orgasms and licking other bodies.

I was planning to move to other city next month, but i dont see the point, if i can't be equal to those girls anymore and all people who have sex since youth. I am dancing on my favourite music at concert at music which is my biggest passion, but all what i can think of are the beautiful girls there and how they had sex in past and how advanced they are. All music seams worthless and childish stuff compare to the girls there and having sex with them. I know this is what counts in life for me and would make me happy, but now its too late.
 
This is just getting to the point it's absolutely hilarious. (As in laugh, or bang my head against a wall at the complete lack of logic)

What do you win, if you win at life??

What do these "numbers" you speak of get you? I assure you, it's no ones admiration or envy.
 
You can say, you lived your life as you should these days. You succeeded to do, what media tells us we must do. Things we see in movies. This is all you can take with you in the grave. And majority succeed in it. Why they post beautiful pictures on facebook? Because you need to do it, to be cool and successfull.

Why do girls want to have sex with black guys, threesome, with women, sex in public places, anal? Because they wanna try it all out in life, like you should. Because this is norm these days and it will be always more. Society developed.
 
I also have something for you to consider: those sites you look at often have "fake" female profiles run by the site itself to draw males in.

Another thing--29 is young. You'll look back at 45-50 and think "wow I was dumb I wasn't old at all yet"

And just for fun with you and you're numbers:
Man A has multiple sex partners. He started having sex at 15. Has done all sorts of different sex acts--threesomes, bondage, etc. He got too old to party with the young college girls he's attracted to. He is now 50 and sits home alone and drinks then falls asleep alone every night. Is he a "winner"?

Man B was even wilder. He started having sex at 12 with his babysitter. He's done it all--orgies, men, women, weekend parties filled with drugs and any women he wanted. He had sex with over 200 people , men and women. Alas, he contracted HIV and developed full blown AIDS and died at 32. Is he a "winner",

Man C was shy. He didn't really find himself or start dating til 30. He started going out, had a more active social life, had various sexual partners for the next few years until he found someone he was into. He is now 40, lives with his partner, travels, isn't lonely, and feels fulfilled. Is he a "winner"??

Seems to me your value system is off. You can be person C, be happy, experience life. That is, if you stop idealizing what you think life's about, stop trying to "win", be yourself and enjoy.

Move to your new city and reinvent yourself.

Life is, after all, a journey. Not a destination.
 
andreass said:
You can say, you lived your life as you should these days. You succeeded to do, what media tells us we must do. Things we see in movies. This is all you can take with you in the grave. And majority succeed in it. Why they post beautiful pictures on facebook? Because you need to do it, to be cool and successfull.

Why do girls want to have sex with black guys, threesome, with women, sex in public places, anal? Because they wanna try it all out in life, like you should. Because this is norm these days and it will be always more. Society developed.
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I truly never believed anyone actually fell for the unrealistic life that media portrays!!
 
andreass said:
I dont care for good or bad sex. I just want numbers, so i will be equal to others. So i can say i had this and that, so i can check off things on my list. This is what counts these days with young people. You need to do all the stuff. Majority does this and majority has always right.

SS, people are different. Offcourse all are not happy, but you people always see bad examples and not the majority of those who have this lifestyle and which are happy with it.

You dont understand the fact, its friday night and for people its normal to go out, which for me never was. We live in different worlds, so we can't be equal. I was out 6 times so far. I am not equal to the people who are out every week from their youth. Its simply facts. You dont understand how it feels. When beautiful girls are out searching for tonights sex partner.

I speak with many girls on fetlife. They can get partners every weekend, have always some backup for sex, if one guy cant do it the night. This shows the richness and greatness of those girls for me. I have nobody.

And btw, i dont envy nobody who is in serious relationship for 10 years or so. I only envy those who had many partners and wild sex life with experimenting. Porn girls, prostitutes, nympomanicas, girls with many sex partners who know how to enjoy life with orgasms and licking other bodies.

I was planning to move to other city next month, but i dont see the point, if i can't be equal to those girls anymore and all people who have sex since youth. I am dancing on my favourite music at concert at music which is my biggest passion, but all what i can think of are the beautiful girls there and how they had sex in past and how advanced they are. All music seams worthless and childish stuff compare to the girls there and having sex with them. I know this is what counts in life for me and would make me happy, but now its too late.
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Please don't buy a gun and please do seek professional help.
 
crazydiamond, i would say C, if girls would not be having sex all the time in youth and experimenting. If young people would not talk about sex all the time. If on fetlife would not be so many 18 year old girls. If 50 shades of grey would not be so popular, because so many women want this wild sex, because its so important to have it.

I think first two are winners, because they experienced all in the importand years of life, when you can still have beautiful young girls. What you do on your old days is not important to me.
 
How in gods name is having lots of sex making the most of life, sex is just one part of life. Theres a lot more to it.

And the media just sexualized everything to sell you stuff.

Mindlessly following the crowd is pathetic. It's what sheep do. If you want numbers go get them. Cause think about this. Odds are those girls wont keep up that lifestyle indefinitely, theyl have kids and have to stop. So you CAN catch up.

But whatever, I'm rapidly getting sick of this thread.
 
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