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Insecure that my job drops points in attraction.. am I over paranoid?

The fact that you didn't go home crying to mommy after you broke up is an awesome sign that you're mature and able to stand on your own two feet. You have your own place and work full time. A lot of people your age actually can't say the same, so give yourself some credit. Also, coming out of a long term relationship makes you sound like more of a nice guy. Personally, I would be open about your job, because while some will think it's fine, others will be snobby about it. Either that, or just say you simply work at a restaurant.

Try plenty of fish, I found plenty of people there willing to chill, hookup, whatever, and it's free.
 
I would get rid of the "cute things" but I don't know, that's just me. What are you talking about when you say that? Like puppies?
 
^ I don't like to lie, certainly not to someone who is trusting me with intimacy.

Pretty_Diamonds said:
I would get rid of the "cute things" but I don't know, that's just me. What are you talking about when you say that? Like puppies?
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Baby animals is likely my biggest example. I guess it's kinda hard to describe in a summery what I could define as cute considering it's an adjective. Perhaps it makes me sounds immature to a degree
 
If you still haven't got any responses, you should change your description:

Get rid of "cute things", it's vague and weird. You already said animals so that's good enough.
Get rid of 420 friendly, some people are weird and paranoid about stuff like that.
Get rid of "only FWB/casual sex", it'll be easier to get dates with women who just want to talk.
 
I don't smoke pot but cool with it. I would feel kind of weird and not swipe someone who had that in their description, just saying. :P
 
alasdairm said:
op, do you take pride in your work? who cares what you do, if you care about doing it well.

you have a job. you have a place. you look fine. you're well ahead of about 50% of males :)

if somebody looks down on you because of your employer, why would you care what they think?

alasdair
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Exactly!

One Thousand Words said:
Bedroom selfies scream no friends. Try and take a photo with both hands in frame, use a timer if necessary.

And for gods sake take your hat off inside.
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Good point.

ChipTrippyFox said:
^ I don't like to lie, certainly not to someone who is trusting me with intimacy.


Baby animals is likely my biggest example. I guess it's kinda hard to describe in a summery what I could define as cute considering it's an adjective. Perhaps it makes me sounds immature to a degree
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Cute is an adjective but it's seen differently from person to person.
You don't need to jump in in a serious relationship and tell everything about your history.
This is like an experience so you can do this better on the next occasions.

Take it easy. Lighten up. You are young and this is very natural.
Having your own place and a job. Who cares where it is. It would mean a lot if you were 40, but it does not matter now.

Good luck!!
Erik
 
Just lie about your job.

You can be anything you want to be, just lie and say you are.

Do it now before they pass "rape by fraud" laws.

(Also use a burner phone fake name etc.)
 
It is all about how you present it. What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? EXAMPLE I write so when people ask me what I do I tell them I am writer. I mention where I work, but I say, thats just for money, it isn't what I do. See??
 
The only job that almost universally impresses women is investment banker. Tell them you are a cook, mechanic, teacher, professor, engineer, writer, artist, medical scientist trying to cure cancer, and most will run.
 
From someone who has worked in restaurants for 20 years, maybe get a job waiting tables or delivering pizza. You will make twice as much at least, with an easier job and probably fewer hours. I have delivered for all of the chain pizza places and made 3 times minimum wage, and they will hire anyone. Youll get minimum wage plus $50 a night in tax free tips. Please don't take me the wrong way, I worked at Mc Donalds once, I got a sucky job at waffle house waiting tables because I wanted experience waiting tables so I could go anywhere. 6 months later I was bartending at Chili's for over $200 a night, mostly tax free and you could do that as easily as I did. That's prob more than your store manager at Mc Donalds makes. I feel bad because no one should be forced to live on $300 a week before taxes, that's ridiculous. That's barely enough for pot, not to mention rent, food, etc.
 
If your embarrassed about your job maybe it's time to move up and out..waiting tables is perfect work to do till u figure out a career path
 
The guy that said switch to being a waiter is right. It's way more respectable for some reason, way more relaxed, pays better, and most of the girls you work with are hot.

As for McDonald's, the way you are as a person is way more important, tons of guys are unemployed and get all the women they want. That said I agree with not mentioning it. Since it's the universal example of a bad job no reason to stack the deck against yourself.

It's funny how fast food chains are the only job that lose you more respect than no job at all, but people are dumb.
 
THECATINTHEHAT said:
If it is that much of an issue then lie.
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I agree if you're working on a one night stand thing but not if you wanna get serious with someone. I will always say you should own who you are, and not tell others what you think they want to hear. UNLESS you're out at a club trying to bring a girl back to you're place. Tell em you're an astronaut leaving for a mission in 2 days I don't care.
 
socko said:
The only job that almost universally impresses women is investment banker. Tell them you are a cook, mechanic, teacher, professor, engineer, writer, artist, medical scientist trying to cure cancer, and most will run.
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I saw your post and knew immediately it was you who posted it socko before I even checked.

You know, I would be more likely to date ALL those others before I dated an investment banker, sounds like the dullest person I can imagine. You sure it's just that you have a low opinion on western women and it's not that you have a low opinion of all women?
 
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