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"FRIEND" stole from me. help.

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GroovySage

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kay idk where to put this thread lol but alright. it goes like this. i had 100 30mg morphine pills. my come up, i put 50 aside to sell at once for fast money my "boy" offered to sell them for me about a month ago he hit me up like 2 weeks ago saying that he had the money back for me and if i had anymore pills.... then i told him i didnt have anymore and we talked a bit and agreed on meeting up later on that week. but i hit him up like EVERYDAY on fb since and he not responding, even goin on to make statuses and shit. idk what to do. he goes to my school but rarely comes but when i do see him what should i do ? i dont understand why he would tell me he had my money if he was plannin on robbin me.... help me guys i aint no hoe ass nigga btw i just want to know what the hell im supposed to say to this nigga when i see him u kno ? i just want some one with experience to gimme some words of wisdom
 
Well, I suppose this thread could have had something to do with harm reduction (don't know why Sekio closed it, but yeah it was a bit misplaced)....that is to say that you have a choice to reduce harm or increase it here, the damage has already been done...he ripped off your pills or whatever, so thats like a few hundred dollars loss. You now can choose to get over it and move on...or take a more aggressive approach, which would be pretty much just antagonize the situation and increase chance of further harm. Let Karma take her course...but keep in contact with your friend and remind him perhaps that he should pay you back, he will surely feel bad about what he has done eventually...it's called conscience. (maybe he's too high to care about anything right now, or hes scared of you).
Hoped that helps a little.
 
Sundays got it right.

Remind him again and then wait for him to make the next move.

Not worth escalating the situation, jail and all that... Chalk it up to the game, be pissed, whatever, but dont fuck yourself over even harder for whatever money it was... Even if it was a stack.
 
a lot of the time drug friends aren't friends at all, mostly when it comes to uppers and downers.

weed, psychedelics and alcohol are more conducive to being used amongst actual friends IMO, other than special occasions.
 
I would just take it as the whole "dont give away things you need" lesson. When it comes to drugs, as it does money too, everyone will steal from you even your best friend. It is best not to test your friends because odds are you will come to find most of them failed your test.
 
szuko000 said:
I would just take it as the whole "dont give away things you need" lesson. When it comes to drugs, as it does money too, everyone will steal from you even your best friend. It is best not to test your friends because odds are you will come to find most of them failed your test.
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This dude knows whats up. Live and learn my man, I got taken for 1200 when I was young and dumb and thought I could trust "my boy". I really did cuz he used to front me large amounts at a time ($3000+) so if he was doing that you think he wouldn't of fucked me when I fronted him stuff. And this was just weed not any of the hard drugs
 
GroovySage said:
kay idk where to put this thread lol but alright. it goes like this. i had 100 30mg morphine pills. my come up, i put 50 aside to sell at once for fast money my "boy" offered to sell them for me about a month ago he hit me up like 2 weeks ago saying that he had the money back for me and if i had anymore pills.... then i told him i didnt have anymore and we talked a bit and agreed on meeting up later on that week. but i hit him up like EVERYDAY on fb since and he not responding, even goin on to make statuses and shit. idk what to do. he goes to my school but rarely comes but when i do see him what should i do ? i dont understand why he would tell me he had my money if he was plannin on robbin me.... help me guys i aint no hoe ass nigga btw i just want to know what the hell im supposed to say to this nigga when i see him u kno ? i just want some one with experience to gimme some words of wisdom
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Chalk it up to a lesson learned and let it go. I'd confront him, friendly but mean business and ask where's your cash he owes you. If he is an upstanding guy and a real friend he will have it or will promptly get it. If he isnt, he's spent it/used it whatever. In my world thats "Stealing from me" Tell him he owes you the dollar amount and your friendship is on the line until he pays up. If he doesnt then he wasnt really the friend you thought he was and cannot be trusted. At this point, write it off and let it go and move on, without him as a friend. Dont sell to him, to give him dont share with him anything. He's lost his trusted privileges. If at some point he ends up coming through with the cash, do NOT reinstate his trusted friend privileges. If you give him ANYTHING to sell, make him pay you for it UPFRONT. That way HIS money is on the line. Anything you do from this point is just going to make it worse, you'll be more mad and frustrated and nothing positive will come from it...
Drug Rule #1 Never give anything of value(drugs or money) to someone and trust them to return with it. You, your product and the money should never become separated from YOU, you either have the money or the product. Cash & Carry period no exceptions.

Drug deals gone bad, only get worse. I learned a long time ago, if you get burned, cut your losses and move on.
 
baggerr said:
Chalk it up to a lesson learned and let it go. I'd confront him, friendly but mean business and ask where's your cash he owes you. If he is an upstanding guy and a real friend he will have it or will promptly get it. If he isnt, he's spent it/used it whatever. In my world thats "Stealing from me" Tell him he owes you the dollar amount and your friendship is on the line until he pays up. If he doesnt then he wasnt really the friend you thought he was and cannot be trusted. At this point, write it off and let it go and move on, without him as a friend. Dont sell to him, to give him dont share with him anything. He's lost his trusted privileges. If at some point he ends up coming through with the cash, do NOT reinstate his trusted friend privileges. If you give him ANYTHING to sell, make him pay you for it UPFRONT. That way HIS money is on the line. Anything you do from this point is just going to make it worse, you'll be more mad and frustrated and nothing positive will come from it...
Drug Rule #1 Never give anything of value(drugs or money) to someone and trust them to return with it. You, your product and the money should never become separated from YOU, you either have the money or the product. Cash & Carry period no exceptions.

Drug deals gone bad, only get worse. I learned a long time ago, if you get burned, cut your losses and move on.
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I really cant agree more with this. Have a word with your "friend" without making the whole thing worse. And wether you get your cash or not live and learn, take somthing from the situation.
 
I dont think he wanted to rob you. Probably he just spend the money he earned and got money fronted from other people to buy new ones. A lot of people operate ponzi schemes like that.

My personal opinion is that as long as people arent fair to me, i dont see any moral obligation to be fair to them.

You could lie and tell him that you got more pills to sell. If he shows up, take the money. Then tell him it didnt worked out with the pills and that you are now quit with the money.

But this depends a lot about the personality of your "friend". If he is agressive and violent, its not a good advise! Things could go really bad.

I have done similar things, but never because of drugs. Everytime it worked out, but the people were kind of harmless and even understood it.
 
rujex said:
I dont think he wanted to rob you. Probably he just spend the money he earned and got money fronted from other people to buy new ones. A lot of people operate ponzi schemes like that.

My personal opinion is that as long as people arent fair to me, i dont see any moral obligation to be fair to them.

You could lie and tell him that you got more pills to sell. If he shows up, take the money. Then tell him it didnt worked out with the pills and that you are now quit with the money.

But this depends a lot about the personality of your "friend". If he is agressive and violent, its not a good advise! Things could go really bad.

I have done similar things, but never because of drugs. Everytime it worked out, but the people were kind of harmless and even understood it.
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Dont make excuses for poor behavior. 2 wrongs dont make it right, if you do them like they did/do you, you are no better than they are...
 
Supeudol_Sundays said:
Well, I suppose this thread could have had something to do with harm reduction (don't know why Sekio closed it, but yeah it was a bit misplaced)....that is to say that you have a choice to reduce harm or increase it here, the damage has already been done...he ripped off your pills or whatever, so thats like a few hundred dollars loss. You now can choose to get over it and move on...or take a more aggressive approach, which would be pretty much just antagonize the situation and increase chance of further harm. Let Karma take her course...but keep in contact with your friend and remind him perhaps that he should pay you back, he will surely feel bad about what he has done eventually...it's called conscience. (maybe he's too high to care about anything right now, or hes scared of you).
Hoped that helps a little.
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I believe that is the right thing to do. Just one observation, maybe he wasn't planning to rob you. It happened
 
my ''friend'' took my thousand dollar camera and never gave me anything in return, not one single thing. i was so hurt and pissed for a long time over it. i would confront him and be a bitch to him and bug him a lot. i finally had to choose to let it go and learn from it. i could have worried more and more but it did me absolutely no good so yeah... after some time i finally got the idea that i had to forget about it because i couldn't make him give it back to me, i couldn't change what happened and i was only making myself miserable. i'm much happier i let the situation go. i don't mess with him at all anymore. and he was my one and only dealer, still, never again will i do some kinda favor like that for anyone. sorry for your misfortune my friend. it's kind of something that comes with the business of selling drugs, it's almost bound to happen if you haven't set serious boundaries for yourself. which at first can def be hard to do but this is one of those things you learn from IMO... maybe your situation will be diff and you'll get what you're owed.
everyone here has spot on advice on the situation really.
 
Spot on! We choose our daily battles with the objective of being happy not stressed or "miserable".
What goes around comes around!!
 
Erikmen said:
Spot on! We choose our daily battles with the objective of being happy not stressed or "miserable".
What goes around comes around!!
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thanks erik! it's good advice and i wish i remembered to live by it all the time, picking and choosing my battles. it's a great way to rationalize a lot of things. seems easy enough to keep in mind but every now and then, a reminder is crucial.
 
When it comes to drugs & money no one is your friend-I don't care how long you've known the person for. Even if all is good for some time & you got a system going it is only a matter of time before your "friend" gets greedy & thinks you owe them more than their already getting. This isn't the wild west so I don't suggest you get even by causing physical harm to this person-this never solves anything & only makes things worse. Many of the people in this lifestyle, although will claim they're down to fight, just aren't up for physical confrentation when it is time and will get back at you in an even shittier way... as in: smashing up your car, throwing a brick through your window, etc. And I'm guessing you live with your parent's so now others would be at risk because of your actions. Also... in response to something you said-He told you he had your money to buy himself time... He probably already had it made up in his mind way before he told you, that he was going to steal from you. He just wanted more time to go, hoping you'd either forget about it or not mention it again.

You could try asking for your money again but in person this time (if possible outside of school). At this point though, after him ignoring you for days & all, the chances of you ever seeing that cash flow from your pills is HIGHLY unlikely.

I think almost everyone has had something stolen from them, especially if you are involved in the "drug lifestyle" or whatever you want to call it. So don't beat yourself up too bad over it-just consider it something you'll NEVER EVER do again no matter who it is. Even if you don't say anything or get even with this person it doesn't mean you are a "hoe ass nigga". It just shows your not a dumbass who cares more about drugs than their safety.
 
Hit hit with a metal garbage can in front of everybody, then emty it on him. Then kick him a couple times, dont say anything at all while you do it, dont say anything to anyone about why you did it. You will get your money back and when you do take his chain and tell him its interest. Then get him another 100 pills and enjoy your new puppy
 
Too much time has passed now. He doesn't have the money from selling the pills. If he pays you back it will be with money from elsewhere. He was going to pay you back and get more pills if you would have said yes WHEN he asked you, but since you didn't have any he said to himself, "I don't want to pay this dude back and then be broke without any pills to sell. So I'm gonna keep his money, like I've been tempted to do this whole time, and have an awesome time with it."
 
the way you wrote my "boy" makes it seem like this guy was more of an acquaintance than a real friend. Seems like because you guys had such loose communication from the start he realized he could scam you. How often did you communicate with him to check if he'd sold the pills already? and why didnt you tell him to bring you your money right away after he told you he sold them all? Such loose communication basically sends "your boy" a message that A) the money isn't really that important to you, if it was you would have wanted it back right away, and B) that you are not likely to confront him about it if he decides to just keep it.

Basically, you're now in the position where you have to be very up front and direct. When you talk to this guy, don't ask him for your money. Demand it. Don't put him in a position where he can say no or not respond at all. You need to be very direct and just say "I need my money ASAP".
 
baggerr said:
Dont make excuses for poor behavior. 2 wrongs dont make it right, if you do them like they did/do you, you are no better than they are...
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Yes, i am not Jesus nor do i feed on moral and ethics.
 
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