The "best" Christians are those who chose to be Christian, rather than being brainwashed into it. Having not grown up with Jesus being forced down my throat (my entire extended family are atheists), I consider myself lucky to have found the NT... The anti-Christian mentality often - indeed - stems from trauma, for lack of a better word. And, I totally get that. If I was forced to sing to Jesus when I was a kid, I doubt I'd be able to see beyond that. I'd probably hate everything about the church. Thankfully, I wasn't brought up Christian - I hardly stepped foot in a church, before the age of 25 - so, I don't have any reason to hate or dismiss the NT...
I was similar in moving away from the Christian paradigm but when I started the course back towards such things I moved into a spirituality area, not Religion. I can't see the Christ story ever meaning much to me but I am learning a lot about things spiritual.
While the NT isn't the greatest source of spiritual wisdom in the world (far from it), it is an amazing book.
Holy texts, generally, are limited in the sense that they are another person's account of the divine.
It is better, without question, to experience God yourself... though, why not do both?
Most people use religion as a path to God, but it's better the other way around IMO.
If you know God personally, the NT - and all other holy texts - start to make a lot more sense.
It is very difficult to truly know God, vicariously, through other people's experiences.
Most priests will tell you that your relationship with God is more important than your understanding of the Bible.
Yet - from my observations - the majority of Christians focus on the Bible, rather than God.
The Bible, ironically, has become somewhat of a false idol. But, it doesn't have to be.