It is a utopia told by dreamers. Think about it, sure the honest things sounds good and we dont want to be deceitful people but damn when it comes to drugs and parents it changes the relationships for a very long time if not forever. What parent, upon hearing the news of her child is doing drugs, is gonna go "its ok darling, lets talk about this." Trust is gone and everyone doesnt look at each other the same way. God help her if all they know about drugs is from the tube. She is really in for it.
The main problem is what happens after the initial telling of the truth. After that everything has changed. THey look at them different always in the back of their mind the question of is she on something or when is she gonna be on something? Is she really going here? Who is she gonna be with? Not only does the person get tired of being watched, but now you have set the parents on a road of worry that wont go away. There always gonna be on the road because they love their child and dont want to see them hurt. It never goes back to the way it was.
Or instead of this she deals with it on her own cause Adderall isnt the most serious thing to do and she learns from it, grows, and all the relationships stay the same. Again, ask yourself if what im gonna say/post does more harm then good.
So ya people need to have some caution when they post cause this does involve real people that can listen to whats on these forums and what you say can have an impact on someone situation and you cant just wash your hands freely of the situation cause you dont know this person and its not something you can physically see.
I'm largely with these words, you have to judge the knowledge of the person you are going to impart the information to or misunderstanding is very likely to follow, this holds true for almost anything but the stakes here are so much higher.
I always promised myself that if my parents ever asked me directly if I used drugs I wouldn't lie, my father (although I never saw him smoke any) was vocal about how he had used cannabis in the past and felt it should be legal, my mother has always been one of those that would rather not know.
I couldn't and didn't hide my mental illness from them and my mother dealt with it well, my father much less so. My alcoholism was another thing I couldn't hide once I'd stopped drinking but like most people they don't view that as a drug problem.
I'm much older now and my drug use much less so the situation seems unlikely, especially given my parents but just to come right out and hit parents that have little knowledge of drugs that their child has a heroin or other serious drug issue seem foolish. If you need to tell them you're going to need to start with some education and plan the conversation carefully.
I would have thought a drug counselor would help you with either planning or actually planning and attending a meeting with you're parents to start making them aware of your situation. Not many parents are going to be 100% OK with such news regardless, I'd hope I'd be understanding and immediately want to offer comfort and support but words are cheap and there could well be some resentment for what I might see as their own stupidity for getting themselves in the mess to begin with....I hope I wouldn't do that.
In my family there's is a great tradition of not talking about or discussing or sometimes even acknowledging a difficult problem, when I've broken through that barrier it's never been easy but certainly in the case of my mother it has been positive, but in over 20 years my drug use beyond alcohol has never been mentioned but I know she knows I've had problems, it's an imperfection I'm prepared to live with as nothing would be gained in my situation with telling a 70 year old mother her little boy was such an irresponsible hedonist.
