I need some help guys - with everything.

[JS031]

I'm gonna' go ahead and just say it all because I'm at a point where I'm near enough on the verge of getting a girlfriend and I don't want to screw this up because of downstairs.

I'm 17. When my penis flaccid it's about 2.3 inches, and when it's erect it's about 5.5 inches. I've never masterbated, the foreskin doesn't retract when my penis is erect and I can't pull the foreskin back over the penis head presumably because it's too tight and the penis under the foreskin is pink/purple and extremely sensitive to the extent that it hurts to touch it.

Basically, as far as it goes in this age and society for people around my age, I'm an unlucky guy.
- I've never masterbated and I don't know how to, like at all.
- I don't know what to do about my tight foreskin and being able to retract it..
- I don't know how to make my penis stop being so sensitive.
- I have no idea what to do in sex.
- I've never had a proper understanding of sex because the 2 sex-ed lessons my school has ever provided focused on STDs.

I haven't been circumcised, I don't think we get that offer at birth in the UK, and I've never done anything with a girl beyond kissing purely because of downstairs.

Because I don't have anyone to speak too about this, not my dad, not my brother, not my friends, I feel my best chance is to turn to the internet and pray you people don't think I'm a troll.

Please help me.

 

[citizen cained]

I'm gonna' go ahead and just say it all because I'm at a point where I'm near enough on the verge of getting a girlfriend and I don't want to screw this up because of downstairs.

I'm 17. When my penis flaccid it's about 2.3 inches, and when it's erect it's about 5.5 inches. I've never masterbated, the foreskin doesn't retract when my penis is erect and I can't pull the foreskin back over the penis head presumably because it's too tight and the penis under the foreskin is pink/purple and extremely sensitive to the extent that it hurts to touch it.

Basically, as far as it goes in this age and society for people around my age, I'm an unlucky guy.
- I've never masterbated and I don't know how to, like at all.
- I don't know what to do about my tight foreskin and being able to retract it..
- I don't know how to make my penis stop being so sensitive.
- I have no idea what to do in sex.
- I've never had a proper understanding of sex because the 2 sex-ed lessons my school has ever provided focused on STDs.

I haven't been circumcised, I don't think we get that offer at birth in the UK, and I've never done anything with a girl beyond kissing purely because of downstairs.

Because I don't have anyone to speak too about this, not my dad, not my brother, not my friends, I feel my best chance is to turn to the internet and pray you people don't think I'm a troll.

Please help me.

Right ok, first of all, your foreskin shouldn't be tight, you should be able to pull it back quite easily, if you can't and it hurts to do so then see a doctor.

Have you never seriously masturbated like AT ALL? Thats a bit strange unless you are strongly religious or something, surely you get urges?

I don't think you are ready for sex yet, you learn a lot about yourself through exploring your body (i.e. masturbating).

The penis is a very sensitive part of a mans body, especially the tip so I don't think it is over sensitive I just think that as you have never touched it before it feels very sensitive and weird but I am pretty certain it's not.

the lengths and colour you describe are normal btw

All in all, the best thing to do is see a doctor and he/she would be able to answer most of these questions.


You sound like me when I was about 7-8 and realised that the foreskin actually goes back (I was too scared to pull it back all the way incase it wouldn't go back lol)


Also, are your parents like super religious? It sounds like that you have come from a very religious family who don't talk about sex etc etc at all to the extent that you don't learn things you learn at like 8.

 

[COUSiNSEX]

I'm certainly no doctor, but does any activity involving your penis hurt? For instance, does it hurt to urinate? Does it hurt when you wash down there? If it's extremely sensitive to the point where just normal, daily day-to-day activities hurt you may want to consider talking to a specialist. Your doctor can refer you. Definitely don't feel down or ashamed to discuss this (even if it's with your family), it's a health problem that you don't have control over. Have you ever tried taking anything for the pain, prescription OR over the counter? Good Luck and Good Health. -db-

 

[JWills20]

Hey pal,

I actually used to be in the same boat as yourself. I was born with a foreskin which wouldn't retract but I had an operation at a very young age. The operation enabled me to retract the skin normally, but just like you, it was, and still is, overly sensitive. So, during my adolescence (after just dealing with it for years because it was bareable), I went back to the doctor where he told me it was too tight which was probably why it's still sensitive on the purple inside bit. So I had another operation rendering me as near to having a circumcision without actually having one. Nevertheless, my penis is still somewhat sensitive inside but it's manageable and doesn't effect my sex life so I live with it. It sounds like you need an operation down there to sort it all out. That's nothing to be ashamed of, I suggest you book an appointment with your GP right now. He'll probably tell you your options of having a slight circumcision vs. a full circumcision. If you're like me, I'd recommend going for the full circumcision as the partial one never completely alleviated the purple sensitivity, just made it easier to deal with. If it makes you feel more comfortable, ask for a male doctor specifically (that's what I did). The doctors are super professional about it because they know it makes people uncomfortable, so don't be scared about it.

Best of luck.

 

[TheGrasshopper]

I had this problem.. The foreskin, not lack of masturbation.
I just powered through it, alot of pain at times, especially when i first became sexually active, but eventually it stretches out and you wont have any problems.
The Pain is temporary, well worth it in the end.
Condom helps.
♪♪ Pussy pussy pussy marijuana! ♪♪

 

[neurotic]

sup bro since you're opening up i'm gonna open up too

i also had phimosis/tight foreskin and you don't need a surgery to cure it - go ahead if you want surgery though. it's pretty easy you can cure it yourself, you just have to stretch the foreskin for a while with some exercises. i won't go into detail man, just google 'phimosis stretching exercises', get ready to look at some dick pics and go ahead. it should take like 1-2 months and if you are responsible and do your stretching exercises often enough you'll be completely cured from it

also, at the beginning the dick head/glans IS very sensitive because it was never exposed, mine was, but you gonna have to wait as it desensitizes, it takes a while but it happens. i remember when i couldnt even touch it i would scream in pain, now it's ok

what's with you never masturbated man? just rub your dick... idk explore your body wtv i'm not a psychologist so you gonna have to figure out that sex-maturing yourself sorry

also don't let having phimosis stop you from going all the way with a girl man. i had phimosis my first two times with girls man - and then i was like 'shit i guess it's time to fix this now' - and tbh i was more worried/self conscious about it than the girls were. its not like it's gonna stop them from having sex with you

hope you work it out dude, good luck and peace