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Single again after basically a lifetime.

New beginnings, new chance to be the person you want to be. Grab the opportunity with both hands.

Go travelling, learn a new skill, pick up an old hobby you've not done in a while, see friends.

I think getting laid is overrated. It might blow off some steam to start with, but the feeling of freedom and determination you'd get from building yourself back up is far better than a quick orgasm at best.

You'll probably start to learn some home truths about yourself too - what you did wrong, why you might not have been happy etc. Don't push them away, feel free to self criticise and question your feelings and learn from them in the future. New beginnings, new chance to be the person you want to be.
 
RLP said:
New beginnings, new chance to be the person you want to be. Grab the opportunity with both hands.

Go travelling, learn a new skill, pick up an old hobby you've not done in a while, see friends.

I think getting laid is overrated. It might blow off some steam to start with, but the feeling of freedom and determination you'd get from building yourself back up is far better than a quick orgasm at best.

You'll probably start to learn some home truths about yourself too - what you did wrong, why you might not have been happy etc. Don't push them away, feel free to self criticise and question your feelings and learn from them in the future. New beginnings, new chance to be the person you want to be.
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Good post :) thanks for the advice
 
gayorstraight said:
Good post :) thanks for the advice
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No worries. A breakup doesn't have to be a bad thing. Given time (and yes, time is a healer) you can go from strength to strength and the breakup can be a positive.

I went from a semi-breakdown after a breakup to become the leader of the EU elections winner. It can be done.
 
Think I might go and stay in a few hostels in Eastern Europe. I've wanted to do it for years and I now have the time and the money to do so :)
 
LOL This is a serious post! lol

I'm pretty shure the average wage in Bulgaria is like £450 a month, so you could go with what a English person considers not a lot of money and live it up and holiday like royalty.
 
Oooo, congrats - hope you're okay, anyway. And I agree with what owen and RLP said.

Definitely go travelling if you get a chance.. I've only done the occasional weekend on my own but really want to head off on some proper travels at some point. Tis quite liberating being independent. :)
 
swampdragon said:
Oooo, congrats - hope you're okay, anyway. And I agree with what owen and RLP said.

Definitely go travelling if you get a chance.. I've only done the occasional weekend on my own but really want to head off on some proper travels at some point. Tis quite liberating being independent. :)
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I want to go to a few hostels, I reckon it'd be pretty fun.
Where did you go for the weekend on your own? I think Edinburgh would be good
 
Yeah, hostels are great, assuming you pick carefully.. hostelbookers.com is the best site for booking, I find.

The last weekend I had on my own was Glasgow which was great.. though I tried to go to Amsterdam recently and my boyfriend decided to tag along, sigh. Shall probably have a mini-break for a few days of surfing in Cornwall next month, though. :D
 
Don't sit at home and mope around. Be around people, as much as possible, that helps massively. I was in bits after my ex of 5 years finished with me, but felt much better after 3 months, and almost happy being single after six months. I've been single for 2 years now, and it doesn't bother me that much. I can do what I want, when I went. Obviously I miss those things that couples do together, but at the same time I look at my past and other peoples relationships and realise how stress free being single is. No effort or mind games required.

You'll be reeeet in no time, all the best x
 
Sarajevo is a nice city to visit if you want to go somewhere a bit different. Cheap and with a decent nightlife and lots of interesting modern history (place was still absolutely war torn when I went there in '06) and the old town is pretty. Close to Belgrade too which is a good night out and a cheap city, I didn't like Zagreb as much which is in the same locale but lots of people do, and the coast of crotia is beautiful.

Going on holiday alone is all good, just make sure you go somewhere with an interesting social scene. I went to Thailand alone (although I met a mate out there for a few days) and I'd definitely recommend that.
 
afctu said:
Don't sit at home and mope around. Be around people, as much as possible, that helps massively. I was in bits after my ex of 5 years finished with me, but felt much better after 3 months, and almost happy being single after six months. I've been single for 2 years now, and it doesn't bother me that much. I can do what I want, when I went. Obviously I miss those things that couples do together, but at the same time I look at my past and other peoples relationships and realise how stress free being single is. No effort or mind games required.

You'll be reeeet in no time, all the best x
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Thanks :)

I'm just going to keep busy and do what I want!
 
I once went on a camping trip to Wales with just a dog for a travelling companion. Well, not just a dog; she was awesome .....

But, yeah, nothing to worry about going on your own. If you meet anyone you like, you can do stuff with them; and if you don't like anyone you meet, you don't have to hang around with them.
 
I'm dying to go on holiday this year but doubt its gonna happen as I wouldn't go on my own. I'm don't think im quite loud/confident enough to easily make friends with strangers. And I reckon I'd get bored with my own company after a bit. Trying to arrange a camping trip with the lads to Shell Island but probably isn't gonna happen as they're all being really specific with what times they can get off work etc...
 
I'm going to give it a go for a weekend at least. I think it's one of those things everyone has to do in their life
 
I want to go back to Snowdonia this year, loved it when I went a couple of years ago to do a few different peaks over the weekend. My feet hurt like fuck by the end though, I can't imagine a BL meet making much headway on the old hill walking.=D
 
Heh, did you see the loooong thread a while back discussing a potential Snowdonia camping/hiking meet? It sounded fun but obviously didn't happen.
 
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