The EADD a trifle annoyed thread.

[Shambles]

I also curse FB. For its very existence

I'm not a single mother so obviously cannot compare. However, I can assure you being a single mother in and of itself doesn't mean a complete absence of social life. I've known plenty. Personal circumstance is another matter, but that is not the same thing as being a single mother.

And if you think being a single male is any easier, think again. At least on the social front. Can't argue everything has an added layer when a child is involved. That still doesn't mean end of social life though.

Try not to let it get to you so much, Evey. There'll be other opportunities. I realise they may be relatively few and far between but they do come around. Try to stop worrying about the one you missed and focus on the one yet to come

 

[Eveleivibe]

Very true, Shambles, very true. Being a single mam n circumstances are different.
I have so much guilt about all of it that I ended up misplacing as anger for a long time. I'm working through all that now in counselling. Feeling guilty because she doesn't have a father and a lot of other stuff, feeling resentful, then feeling guilty for feeling resentful.
I'm sorry I'm just having a moan.
Was really looking forward to going to the Brinx in Liverpool but never mind there'll be other times.

Anyway you know I'm always here if ever you need to talk to anyone, Shambles.
Off for a camomile tea...

 

[maxalfie]

then I see
pictures of them clubbing on Facebook.
I could curse Facebook it's the cause of
so much anger.

Hi Evey, I know it's not easy to do but if looking at Facebook makes you angry and creates negative emotions for you which hurt you then try to stop looking at it.
What's the point of reading something that you know will upset you? Are there no other single parent coffee mornings or suchlike that you could go to and meet new friends?

 

[ColtDan]

iI see pictures of them clubbing on Facebook. I could curse Facebook it's the cause of so much anger.

Its not facebooks fault, its your jealousy

 

[Shambles]

Hi Evey, I know it's not easy to do but if looking at Facebook makes you angry and creates negative emotions for you which hurt you then try to stop looking at it.
What's the point of reading something that you know will upset you? Are there no other single parent coffee mornings or suchlike that you could go to and meet new friends?

Excellent point, Max. They even have those where I live so surely must have 'em elsewhere. It's better than nowt and summat to build on

In annoyed news, forgot to buy bastard painkillers when at the shop earlier. Twice

 

[Eveleivibe]

Its not facebooks fault, its your jealousy

mmmm true.... still I like blaming Facebook lol

 

[Shambles]

Fuck Facebook. Get a life instead.

I am more than well aware of the irony in me saying that

 

[Eveleivibe]

Fuck Facebook. Get a life instead.

I am more than well aware of the irony in me saying that

I've started posting more on Bluelight than Facebook n I'm not half as angry as I was on FB. There's only so many times you can 'be happy for people' with their false photos splashed across it. As least on BL we actually TALK, as in HAVE A CONVERSATION lo with FB it's games, photos, more game requests, who 'like' this that t'other lol...

I went to the recovery group to "get a life" n make friends but it's just the same. If we'd gone to the Brink in Liverpool I could have gone because I'd have been back in time to pick my little girl who is now nearly 5 - but they went to Cardiff instead to give some talk on recovery and it would mean going for 5 am until 11 pm. Then they decide to put pictures up to rub my face in it. They know I was sobbing in the meeting over Knock last Thursday but do they give a fuck? No. Just like to stick the knife in that they're all having a good time n as usual I'm stuck at home.

It's times like this I wish I had some good opiates n fuck it all.
People are all self these day n little thought for anyone else at all.

 

[ColtDan]

Fuck Facebook. Get a life instead.

I am more than well aware of the irony in me saying that

ahaha

 

[Uncle Robert]

Yeah it can make you feel down if you're stuck somewhere and see pics of people having fun. Don't worry they wouldn't have put the pictures up to rub it in your face, and to be fair you can't expect them not to talk about it or put photos of it up on their own facebook pages just because you couldn't go.

Also when you talk about nobody missing you if you disappeared I'm sure your daughter would disagree! I would bet that you are her world

 

[Shambles]

People are not all self these days. Unless you wish to include all of us EADDfolk too? Maybe so. But I like to think we at least try...

The 'Get a life' comment is highly suspect. I have no life myself. Just a turn of phrase is all. Am a bit out of it and my words are not to be taken as is. They rarely are as a matter of fact.

I wish I had answers for you in regards to the above. If I did I'd be doing such myself. Apologies for any offence caused

 

[Eveleivibe]

People are not all self these days. Unless you wish to include all of us EADDfolk too? Maybe so. But I like to think we at least try...

The 'Get a life' comment is highly suspect. I have no life myself. Just a turn of phrase is all. Am a bit out of it and my words are not to be taken as is. They rarely are as a matter of fact.

I wish I had answers for you in regards to the above. If I did I'd be doing such myself. Apologies for any offence caused

Heyyyy you've not caused me offence. No one on EADD has. I was bitch about my recovery group not going at anyone here. I'm so sorry if it came across that way. Shambles, you've been nothing but supportive xxxx

 

[Eveleivibe]

Yeah it can make you feel down if you're stuck somewhere and see pics of people having fun. Don't worry they wouldn't have put the pictures up to rub it in your face, and to be fair you can't expect them not to talk about it or put photos of it up on their own facebook pages just because you couldn't go.

Also when you talk about nobody missing you if you disappeared I'm sure your daughter would disagree! I would bet that you are her world

Of course not because people are all self. Sparring others feeling is too much hard work. They can't complain about me talking about alcohol or what- not either. If people are affect well hmmm that's too bad. I'm thinking about my self n thinking of others' feeling is too much like hard work too xxxx

Oh I think they did it deliberately cancelling the other trip which I could attend. They knew I wouldn't be able to attend the other. Telling me there's only 5 places n then yesterday I see that everyone in the group went but me. This is just the icing on the cake I'm never invited for coffees or to the drop-in. As soon as a new girl starts she'd invited there for a bacon butty.

All my trolls said they'd not want me when they got to know me well they were right. Anyway I'm not going again. Not to hear them all go on about what a great time they had in Cardiff n rub my face in it.
Yes one of the members encouraged me to go back but I reckon it was to make the numbers up.

I've bought some wine n going to have a nice drink later. Can't wait then I can forget about people who don't want me included n expect me to sit there while they rub my nose in it.

 

[bummer]

it isn't that simple when you're a single mother, no one to have your child and your friends don't have time for you anymore, they "too busy,"

Before I had kids having a sensible night in with a friend, keeping the noise down to not wake the kids wouldve been my idea of hell.

Now ive got kids standing around in a noisy club surrounded by twats is my idea of hell.

Im a single parent so can understand. I dont have a mum i can offload my kids onto on weekends. I was also the 1st in my group to reproduce so go left behind years ago.

Some people are much better at maintaining a social life after kids. I never managed it and it used to bother me too.
Not anymore.

Those parents in your newsfeed... chances are they wake up saturdays and and just leave the kids to rot in front of the tv while they recover, and if they were really having so much fun why do they feel the need to take photos and show the world how much super fun they are having ?
Maybe its not as much fun as they are trying so hard to make it look.

There is more to fun than drinking over priced drinks, listening to shit music and dodging fights on the way home

 

[curious_24]

I don't do Facebook, but surely the whole point of it is to share with others what you've been up to. If people are meeting up and attending events, it's inevitable that they'll be posting about it on Facebook and sharing pictures. I don't think it's about rubbing anyone's nose in it, just how these things work.

 

[Eveleivibe]

I don't do Facebook, but surely the whole point of it is to share with others what you've been up to. If people are meeting up and attending events, it's inevitable that they'll be posting about it on Facebook and sharing pictures. I don't think it's about rubbing anyone's nose in it, just how these things work.

No? When everyone attended but me. When I was told there'd onky be 5 places yet the whole attended bit but me. It was mean n spiteful to show those photos of them all knowing I couldn't attend. If that's the sort of recovery group I want nothing more to do with it. I was one of the original members of that group. They clearly had no regards for my feelings whatsoever n I don't want to go on Thursday hearing of their day knowing I was excluded.

 

[Uncle Robert]

^ I think you're over analyzing it Eve. You make it sound as if they posted the photos on your wall with a har har comment attatched.

 

[Eveleivibe]

^ I think you're over analyzing it Eve. You make it sound as if they posted the photos on your wall with a har har comment attatched.

They posted it in the group n I was the only member who couldn't go. They cancelled an event that I could attend n went to this instead. They knew I was sobbing like hell the last meeting n they leave me out n rub it in my face like this.

Can we drop this now please? I just needed somewhere to vent that's all n going over it is winding me up again when I've calmed down over it.

I don't find it easy to make friends n I think I'll just give this finding new groups up it doesn't working. I'm not liked. Last group I attended was a parent group n they were all going for a night out. Was I invited? No. They spent the whole two-hour session going on about it n I was depressed as f***. No I never went back.

 

[Chatative]

I just put through an order for aMT, I was quite chuffed I managed to do so whilst there was a 10% discount code available.... I seem to always miss them. Good right?

That was probably about 3 hours ago... now I got an e-mail from the site telling me it's the 'Easter Sale' & giving a 20% discount code...

Argh!!

 

[Shambles]

Doh!

*makes mental note to order amt whilst on easter offer*

Not right now I can't though cos I'm a trifle annoyed at how skint I am. I've deliberately not made any expensive purchases - not bought any drugs (not been asked to pay for the pills I had t'other day so far) and only gotten drunk once this fortnight that I recall - so got no idea why so skint. I did act a bit sensibly and pay off some of my intrawebz bill before it's due and have bought a number of dull but essential stuff that I needed. Think I've frittered away on vital things I only need to buy occasionally but ran out of all at once. Skintness by a thousand cuts. Bugger.