Hey there,
Sure I can give you some guidance.
First of all, the key to tantra is not abstaining, but redirecting sexual energy. Abstaining makes the energy build and build over time until you are so frustrated that you become overly emotional, or you end up needing to ejaculate. Your body needs to do this, whether you are self-pleasuring or having sex. You can't avoid it. Using sexual energy is not optional... it's your creative force as a human being and repressing it leads to health problems. The key is to learn to use the sexual energy in a different way, so that you can orgasm over and over, but without ejaculating. Using this method, your body will re-absorb all that sexual energy (called jing), and it will vitalize and energize you. Jing is essence, and the root of everything in the body, including the 4 treasures: qi, blood, yin and yang. When jing is expelled in the semen, you lose some vitality. Guys who jerk off and cum to porn all the time are literally screwing their brains out. If you conserve jing and redirect it, it will turn into the 4 treasures. This preserves youth and essential nutrition.
The best modern book on this subject is called the Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia. It's a practical how-to manual and serves as a good guide.
You start by strengthening your pelvic floor, by flexing the PC muscles over and over like you would exercise any muscle. You do this by starting and stopping the urine stream when you're peeing, or just flexing it whenever you feel like it. Over time the muscle gets stronger. They say if you can lift a towel with your erect penis, then your PC muscle is strong. But... it just has to be strong enough to hold the energy of an orgasm when it clenches.
The second thing you need to realize is that ejaculation and orgasm are two different things. Most men are used to them occurring simultaneously, but in reality they don't. Orgasm occurs about 10-15 seconds before ejaculation. It happens before the "point of no return", where you can't help but cum. It's a narrow margin between the two, but an important one. An orgasm is bioelectric energy, but ejaculation is just mechanical contraction that expels semen. When your PC muscles are strong, you flex them hard once you get close to cumming (but not at the point of no return), and hold in the sexual energy. This takes practice and you'll cum many times before you get it right. Eventually, you will be able to get close to cumming and stop as many times as you want. This is what it means to be multi-orgasmic, because the sexual energy is never expelled from your penis since ejaculation does not happen. What most men don't realize is that the height of their sexual experience is not the ejaculation, but the orgasm before it. Once ejaculation happens, the energy plummets, and then there is nothing left. The orgasmic experience is the plateau where the energy is at its absolute highest.
The next step is learning to channel this energy from your pelvic floor (called the perineum), up your sacrum, and up your spine, to your brain. So when you start having an orgasm, you visualize it going up the spine. Eventually the energy actually goes there. Your body switches from parasympathetic (which is what happens when you ejaculate) to sympathetic (which is when your whole body is in action mode), and that intense orgasm energy that normally you only feel in your penis, goes to every part of your body. It's like a strong but sublte pleasure wave... and as long as you keep clenching your PC muscle, you never ejaculate. You can ride the wave all night if you want, alone or with a partner. Women can do it too. It's the exact same process for them, using the PC muscle. As they reach climax with clitoral stimulation, then channel the energy up their spine.
Eventually so much energy goes up that you begin to feel light headed, so you then have to channel the energy down the front of your body, to your Dan Tian (the belly button). The Dan Tian is also known as the Sea of Qi, and the energy gets stored there. This energy then joins the Life Gate, where its Jing is transformed into the 4 treasures that make you more vital. The cycle up the back and down the front is called the Microcosmic Orbit. If you're taking Qi Gong you should be familiar with it, or will be soon. It's an essential technique if you want to learn to conserve essence yet have powerful sexual experiences. It's also just a great technique for making sure energy flows smoothly in your body.
I'm only giving you a synopsis. You should lookup that book and read it because it explains things a lot more thoroughly. I've read many books on the subject and some are way too traditional, delving too deeply into the Daoist terminology. All you need is the practical know-how. What I describe is very real, and it's out of this world. Once you have a full body orgasm, you will never want to go back to ejaculating... and you will feel energized and vital all the time. Abstaining alone is just repression. You have to keep pleasuring yourself, but learn how to put the energy elsewhere instead of just expelling it. It takes practice but the rewards are well worth it. With your female partner, you'll be able to orgasm many times while still being inside her, but without ejaculating. (You should still use protection though because pre-cum contains some sperm.)
So, bad news is, you've gone 55 days and will probably end up ejaculating until you understand this technique. The good news is, once you can do the technique, you can abstain for as long as you like because the sexual energy can be transferred to your bodily health. And you don't have to "save up" to do this technique. You could cum now and still achieve the technique tomorrow. Admittedly though, if you abstain for a long time, the full body orgasms get way more intense, and feel totally spiritual. Some practitioners claim that initially, if you abstain, it frustrates your body into automatically attempting the Microcosmic Orbit because it needs relief from all the pent up energy. But it all relates to your ability to bring yourself close and then clench to hold it in the energy, without ejaculating. Uusually, guys who have never tried non-ejaculatory orgasm can't do it at first. Don't view ejaculation as a failure in this case, just look at it as a pleasurable consolation prize.
Foreigner
. It will last about a month before your body starts getting used to it so cycle it if you're really interested in keeping it in the works. my 2 sense
