And memph- I would have straight up called that fucking worthless *fine upstanding lady* to go fuck herself and I would have tried to throw her ass out of the restaurant myself. You're 100% right if the roles were reversed and she was white (which applies to you in real life, not her) but she called you "nigger" (which applies to her in real life, not you) then she would get kicked the fuck out of that place and everyone would have felt bad for you, but this ugly fat *fine upstanding lady* (I'm assuming anyway, that's the image I get when I hear this story) gets to call you a cracker and you're not even allowed to be upset about it? That's fucking crazy. Bitch is getting way out of line and needs to be smacked back in her place.
That story makes me mad even just hearing about it.
Is your manager who threatened to fire you a *fine upstanding gentleman* as well?