What makes you pretty sure? Because that's how you'd feel?
I don't mean to pick on this one post. It's rampant throughout the thread. Everyone has made up his own version of the story (based on very minimal facts) and has reacted in line with that story. But, we don't know the real story. There's too much missing. All of the assumptions about the marriage, infidelity, the domestic situation, how Indian men behave, how a daughter might react ... they're all just made up. We've created a fiction around this situation that may be wildly inaccurate.
Whatever the case, I think that if the audience is going to pepper Cohesion with aggressive and uncomfortable questions, it would be fair to let her answer them herself. Can't we just reserve judgment for now? And maybe not call her a whore?
1- Yes you did mean to pick on this post other wise you would have spoken in a more general fashion and quoted more then just mine. If you disagree with my post that's fine, great part about the inter net we can discuss things with differing opinions, hell I joined the Army to make sure that other have this right.
2- Yes it is based on how I would feel I stated that in the post.
3- I said nothing about Indian men in my post reread it and frankly correct your self on that matter.
4- whore: noun derogatory
noun: whore; plural noun: whores
1.a prostitute. a promiscuous woman.
verb
verb: whore; 3rd person present: whores; past tense: whored; past participle: whored; gerund or present participle: whoring
1.
(of a woman) work as a prostitute.
"she spent her life whoring for dangerous men"
synonyms: work as a prostitute, sell one's body, sell oneself, be on the streets
So yes the usage of the word is correct when applied to this situation only if she takes the job, as it will be sex in various forms for money. I never out right called her a whore but rather asked would you want to be treated as such, so again if your going to call me out on it read my post.
5- It would be naive to think that her husband would not be adversely effected by this situation, any male would be, and based on the posts on here it is a very fair assumption based on simple human nature and observation thereof. I think most women if their husband did this would also feel badly about it. If you are going to deliberately take me to task, and make an example of me in front of the forum, separate what I said from what every one else said and take me to task for what you disagree with in my post.
6 - I never made mention of Indian men in my post, a few other posters have but I did not, because frankly It was not relevant to any thing. Race rarely is, the only time I will bring race up is in the description of a person for classification, in one of my papers, dealing with specifics relating to the race and implication and bearing on my paper. I take offense to this greatly, specifically because I have a good many friends of varying races, and fro future knowledge I am part Native American Diné to be exact so I do not make assumptions based on peoples race as traditionally between my Native American Heritage and the fact hat my other racial background is Scottish ( MacGregor a clan that was outlawed for a period of time) My back ground has a rich history of persecution, and my girl is A Russian Jew, and we all know about that quagmire so having some one imply that I mad a comment that may have been construed of as racially bias really chaps my ass.
7 - As you stated we have all made assumptions. you included, next time you plan to make a point about a group as a whole don't use a single person as an example. And make sure you read a post and make your response about that post not read one and hammer him fro every ones post.
8- The whore situation, I never called her directly a whore, see # 4 again. Also I would never call a woman a whore regardless of the situation, even if she was in fact one. it is a degrading term, and frankly one I find distasteful especially when sexuality is a complicated issue and sensitive, and one should not be judged based on their choices in said arena. I just feel that the guy with which this business proposition is being considered will treat her as such, seeing as men with that kid of background of having such toys, often feel that when they buy some thing they can treat it any way they want. She is already seeing the controlling aspect of this in clothing and the specific demands he has. I will say this again, if it was just her, she was single and had no children then hell go fro it, if she is into being treated like that turns her on. I have a few fetishes my self. But seeing as she has a husband, and a child, this may have a spill over effect, well it will have a spill over not might. Even if she can compartmentalize her life this has ramifications, I speak from experience trying to keep what I did away from my loved ones, while I was deployed over seas.In the long run it leads to having emotions that cant go any where and can turn sideways and crop up in strange ways, as will trying to hide this from her husband or child. And if she is open there is still going to be issues between her and her husband and child.
9- I am frankly more concerned about her having to deal with some one that has the kinna money to indulge sixths kind of passion. I hope for her sake that this guy is just into sex, and not the darker side of shit. And before you go off about BDSM being a choice I am fine with it, I just think a guy that has this kind of cash can get carried away with his control. That and you have to ask your self about a guy that has to pay for his pleasure daily. I am thinking sex addict, though I am not in a position to judge and if I were I still would not to each his own.
10- The point being that while yes every one here mad assumptions, including your self there grace. You are the only one that chose to take a single person and their post, and bash them, fro their post and every one else post. Did I blast Cohesion yeah a little, but not nearly as baddy as a lot of other posters did, and with no where near the venom of other posters as well, yet you chose to single me out and hammer me fro making assumptions. And frankly I take deep exception to some one saying "What makes you pretty sure? Because that's how you'd feel?" Yes it is, but does this in any way invalidate the opinion? Or my feelings in such a fashion? I can ask you a similar set of questions what gives you the right to call me to task, when the OP posted this in hopes of getting varying points of view in order to help her make a decision that I am sure she is agonizing over? Or perhaps you figured because I wasn't nearly a vulgar and mean spirited as other posters that I would not reply? Or take offense to begin called to task?
I will say this again, I hope that she makes a decision, with all the facts. Not just one based on the its your life do what ever you want mantra some people pus. The fact is it is not just her life, she is sharing it with a husband and a child, and while doesn't mean she can't do it it means she has other people to factor into the equation this means that some times when your life is bound to some one else you have to take that bond with a hefty amount of respect and weight when weighing out a decision. The fact that you think it is not fair assumption based on the information provided to us that her husband would take this badly, well then that's your opinion, and I sure as hell wont bad mouth you fro it because in a way you are right we need more information then we are given in order to give better advice. What we got is what we got.And there are a bunch of cats on this board that will back me up when saying if this happened to them they would take it badly, and that the OP needs to look at it from not just her needs stand point but that of her husband and child, and the fall out it will create. And if she still wants it go fro it, but cut the poor bastard free and let him nurse his wounds instead of basically begin cuckolded or let him have a few women on the side and see how that makes her feel. That was all I was saying. Despite being blasted fro the rest of the crap you hit me with.
To the OP- just look at it from your husbands point of view. And I wasn't judging you just giving my advice ( fro a point similar to your situation).
TO the rest of the people on the forum sorry for the long ass reply post, but it just rubbed me the wrong way and I felt it necessary to air my grievance.
