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georgieroley

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Hey guys,
There is this girl who I know likes me and I like her and I want to ask her out on a first date.
Currently I'm stuck between two types of text and I want to use the one that will garuntee a good response and not seem too forceful or weak either.
A little background is that I met this girl through a friend once a while back and I saw her again last week at a club and we danced together and she told me she liked me and I told her I liked her back.
We exchanged numbers then I left.
So here are the texts, let me know which one you'd choose and why. Thanks!

Hey ******, how are you? Was wondering if you wanted to grab a drink with me sometime soon? x

Hey ******, how are you? We should grab a drink sometime soon, how's your week looking? x
 
If you really want to ask a girl out through texting, which is very impersonal, then go for the second option.
 
I tell you this society is headed towards mental insanity lol. Wondering all day what text to send to a girl...no matter what you say, she'll think you want to fuck her. By changing the way you phrase it, you might give her clues that you prefer to fuck her sideways, or doggy style but no matter what you say, she'll know you're not there to drink. Drinking is with your hockey buddies. Conversation to some extend too, unless you wana talk about her aunt, shopping sprees or make-up techniques with her. Same goes with "can I buy you a drink?" Means, "can I expect to fuck you tonight?".

Why can't people be open with each-other. It is nothing but natural and beautiful when you meet a beautiful girl to want to spend time with her, so say that. "I like you and would like to spend time with you." She knows you want to fuck her anyways, why say you want a drink? She'll think you try to fool her into thinking you're interested in conversation to hide your real intentions. This doesn't work in relationships. If you want to fuck her...you have to say you want to spend time with her. Spending time means 1,000 things, going to drink means you don't get to fuck her.
 
sekio said:
what kind of texts are you sending to girls, i wonder.
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I usually say "[...] I like you and would like to spend time with you."

Then you wait. You leave it up to her. If you say come to drink she can say she doesn't drink, if you say come to a hockey game she can say she hates hockey, if you say come bowling, she says she hates bowling. Let her decide.

Because this is the truth! You want to spend time with her right or wrong? If you say you want to drink with her it's a lie! You don't want to drink with her you want to fuck her. Why start a relationship with a big flat lie?
 
I hardly get to see this girl and I'm not asking her to be my gf over text just for a drink, and no I actually do want to have a drink with her.
 
does it really matter which one you send this girl? they both pretty much say the same thing

I would ask her out over the phone at least, but man, I'm getting old now. in the future dating and even sex will be done thru the text message
 
georgieroley said:
I hardly get to see this girl and I'm not asking her to be my gf over text just for a drink, and no I actually do want to have a drink with her.
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Ok then take her to a restaurant, order a specific type of wine and make sure you can talk for an hour about that wine brand alone. You chose the hard way. If you really really want her to have a drink, it means you have some wine passion and rich culture that you die to share with her. Otherwise it's unjustified. It's insulting her intelligence, it's like a girl wanting to take you shopping to show you the Christmas tree in the shopping center. Don't do that.
 
you might consider being a bit more conversational. "what's up", "how's your week going?", etc work fine. then once you've gotten a couple of responses from her you can ask about hanging out. not only is this a bit more natural (and thus less awkward), but it also gives you a lot more information about her interest in you. and if she's not into you, it's better to get no response to "hey" than to "hey do you want to go on a date?"
 
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Texting on the whole seems too impersonal but I'm just old fashioned I guess. What if you text and you get no text back? Then you wonder did it go through or is the phone shut off? Is she in a bad mood or not feel like talking to me? When you phone somebody, then you can actually speak and get your point across. Especially with a person you don't know so well, direct phone calls work better. <3
 
I am with Calderone on this one mate, call her up. Think of it as a dry run for the date man, if you cant get the courage up to call and ask her out how are you going to be when out with her? May as well start the conversation now. Beside you can get more from a persons tone and inflection then from the text, you end up missing all the subtext that some ones tone can give you. But I digress, guess I am a tad old school.
 
Go with the second one and then if the text convo goes on makes sure to flatter her but don't be creepy! Guys can be really super creepy through text without realizing it. Good luck!
 
Just don't over think it too much, I mean I think its cool and actually more the norm to text a girl. Like if a guy called me to asks me out for drinks I'd be thinking, "He could have just texted me." Actually, maybe you should just be like "hey how are you? blah blah blah...anyways I was thinking of going to such and such place, you should come through and chill with me" I think that comes off as chill.
 
Why not ask her in person?! Seems to me you lost a golden opportunity when you were dancing with her last time.
 
I'd go with

" Hey ******, how are you? Was wondering if you wanted to grab a drink with me sometime soon? x"
 
Tude said:
Why not ask her in person?! Seems to me you lost a golden opportunity when you were dancing with her last time.
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Seriously man, this was a lost opportunity, a lot of women equate dancing to sex. They figure if he is nice and smooth on the floor he will be in bed.
 
Cheers for the feedback so far guys, I mean she told me straight up last time she liked me. Also I would have done it to her face but unfortunately she ended up getting really really drunk so that wasnt a good idea.
 
Also I would call but I just think thst chances are shes gonna be busy or with friends and if I text she has the freedom to respond when she wants
 
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