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i just get sick sometimes of people writing off an idea that they are not familiar with as being 'placebo' or 'new age bs' without giving the response any thought, wasnt trying to attack you or anything, sorry if i offended
 
thanks :), i often measure how my life is going by how my room looks, and it is a beauty to behold in comparison to a month ago
 
By choice I haven't had sex since 2003 and I have not watched any porn for about the same length of time and I very rarely masturbate,maybe once or twice a year.
I do have the rare nocturnal emission but this is very rare now but was more common at the start of choosing to remain celibate.
I can't say that I have noticed any benefit or anything detrimental to myself through not having regular orgasms.
 
i think the amount of energy that is depleted from your body due to ejaculation is variable from person to person, so for someone it can have a significant effect on your energy to regularly masturbate, for another it could be unnoticeable.

can i inquire as to why you choose to abstain from sexual activity if you feel it has no benefit? i'm guessing you are not asexual if you are making a conscious decision to be celibate...
 
Mysterie said:
can i inquire as to why you choose to
abstain from sexual activity if you feel it
has no benefit? i'm guessing you are not
asexual if you are making a conscious
decision to be celibate...
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Basically my wife had passed away in 2002 and I had no interest in finding anyone else.
I had sex with one woman for a week in 2003 but before the week was over I found myself bored with the whole sex thing.
I also had got myself a heroin habit which killed off any sexual urges that I may have had.
After the week of sex in 2003 I just decided that life is much simpler without being in a relationship and that I could live without having sex.
I surprised myself at first because I had always in the past had a healthy and active sex life but that interest in it had now passed.
I am off heroin now and I still have no desire to have sex or a relationship with anyone as I just find life simpler without it.
I'm not asexual as I still find women attractive or sexy but I just have no desire to have sex anymore.
The old saying of 'use it or lose it' could be true I guess.
 
Mysterie said:
thanks :), i often measure how my life is going by how my room looks, and it is a beauty to behold in comparison to a month ago
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Did you have a pornography problem?

I could see that having a major detrimental effect on a man's life. All the "side effects" of masturbation I do not experience. I feel like a million bucks after a wank, but I rarely wank. When I was on drugs I wouldn't jack off. If I didn't have sex, well I didn't get off. I did have sex often enough though.

Anyways now I am clean (rather recent) and I had a wank. It was a major stress relief. I wish you the best of luck with your program, but I wouldn't attempt this unless I was paid well. (like a research study) But to each their own. I really have had the opinion that masturbation is healthy as long as you are not a lecher. My parents told me when I was a kid that it was ok to masturbate and it was natural and healthy.

I do remember at one time in my life which was rather brief where I would watch more than a fair amount of porno and have several wanks. I did get a bit pre-occupied and would seek out more sexual partners. I did see it as a problem further down the lines and kind of laid off. I am sorry but I guess unless I had a pornography problem I wouldn't really buy into this.

That being said I am pretty sure I went 3 months at least once without busting a nut when I was on a massive amount of opiates. Usually when my addictions come to a head I become a shut-in and don't have sex and wanking is something I don't do on drugs. So maybe my view is jaded.
 
dopemaster said:
Did you have a pornography problem?
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no its never been an issue for me, i think what im doing is probably especially useful for people who have issues following through with goals, because once you realise you can overcome something as basic as daily wanking, which for some is something unthinkable to stop over a length of time, shows you that you have the inner strength to follow through with other goals, and these effects cumulate to create significant positive change in ones life. i wasn't enjoying jacking off very much any more and now i feel that porn is inherently a bit disturbing so i am happy to have that out of my life. i didnt really view masturbation as having a negative effect on my life until i stopped though, i think i knew in the back of my mind it might be having a negative effect though.

im not really trying to convince you to start doing this or anything, everyone needs to feel they have to do stuff for themselves to do it anyway, just wanted people to know about it because its having such a positive effect on my life and i am a pretty typical bluelighter in terms of personality and addiction tendencies
 
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