Told my female best friend today either be my gf or don't ever talk to me anymore..

[manboychef]

Is that girl the only one that lives in a fifty mile radius?

It would be incredibly easy to find another girl to take advantage of your generosity. If there is one thing I've learned from being a nice and caring soul its that there are those that will never return that kindness, and hey will make themselves apparent everytime. You can do way better in a friend.

 

[shahab6]

"give me a back rub" then "arghh you're molester". nah she's not good to be around.

she either does fancy you but gives mixed signals OR loves the power of pricteasing you then making you out to be an asshole.

NONE of my non sexual friends EVER ask for back massages. its just too much touching for genuine friendliness.

imagine two straight men and one asks the other for a back massage.

now you have it in context. if its completely innocuous then why does that above situation i conjured sound wrong?

Or ask to cuddle....

 

[token901]

Just don't get in the game, or play it hard. If this relatopnship came to this part, when you have to wait for a yes or no answer, it will hardly work but there is nothing lost! Switching the status from friends to partners are coming by itself, not by saying "yes" to a question. If you want to get in touch with her you still can, but start to dominate her. The time/place she say is never good for you at first ask, try suddenly change your mind most of the time, but don't be unbearable. If she let you do this, you can win the game, if she won't let you then she will disappear by the time. If you have any specific question (eg : what to answer this or that etc) feel free to ask me, I will help !

 

[shahab6]

Just don't get in the game, or play it hard. If this relatopnship came to this part, when you have to wait for a yes or no answer, it will hardly work but there is nothing lost! Switching the status from friends to partners are coming by itself, not by saying "yes" to a question. If you want to get in touch with her you still can, but start to dominate her. The time/place she say is never good for you at first ask, try suddenly change your mind most of the time, but don't be unbearable. If she let you do this, you can win the game, if she won't let you then she will disappear by the time. If you have any specific question (eg : what to answer this or that etc) feel free to ask me, I will help !

I know I can still talk to her, but theirs no point for me to do that, plus im sure she will contact me again she has no other friends..

 

[pofacedhoe]

im sure she will contact me again she has no other friends..

for a reason

 

[shahab6]

[QU. OTE an=pofacedhoe;11762626]for a reason[/QUOTE]

Im over it now... and shes out of my life now.. and im glad she didn't make a scene Or do anything.. we both peacefully went our way... maybe in the future she mo ces closer to my area and gets a job and we both have a partner we can become friends again... but as of now its not working for me.. anyway thank you for all your help everone. I really appreciated It

 

[90sdance]

Im over it now... and shes out of my life now.. and im glad she didn't make a scene Or do anything.. we both peacefully went our way... maybe in the future she mo ces closer to my area and gets a job and we both have a partner we can become friends again... but as of now its not working for me.. anyway thank you for all your help everone. I really appreciated It

Fair play. You might feel a bit depressed now but i guarantee youl feel much better in time. If it was me id spend some time on a hobby, or join a club and meet new people.

 

[shahab6]

Fair play. You might feel a bit depressed now but i guarantee youl feel much better in time. If it was me id spend some time on a hobby, or join a club and meet new people.

I was a bit yesterday, just waiting for her calls. but luckily i was busy with my birthday.. Im focusing on my other friends now, as she took so much of my time, that I didn't really have much time for my other friends. Today I did feel a bit sad, here and their, but now Im pretty much over it. But we did care for each other a lot, but we both want something else from each other, plus I feel she needs me more as a friend than I need her, which i felt was not fair. as friendship needs to be balance and equal, not one benefits more than the other...

 

[shahab6]

So her gay friend message me and invited me to his house, this was the convo..

Conversation started today

6:14pm
Jake
HEY FEEL FREE TO COME BY
BRIJAE IS HERE
BUT I KNOW YOUR TWO ARE NOT FRIENDS ANYMORE

6:14pm
Shahab
Thanks you
But im shoppinf

6:15pm
Jake
LOL

6:15pm
Shahab
But it would be awkward if I cone

6:15pm
Jake
TRUE

6:15pm
Shahab
Thanks anyway

6:15pm
Jake
LOL
BYE

6:16pm
Shahab
Bye
U have a lot of people coming

6:18pm
Jake
YES COME BY
IT WONT BE AWKWARD

6:18pm
Shahab
K ill try to come thanks

6:18pm
Jake
JUST TELLING U BRIJAE IS HERE
IF YOU COME BY YOU SHOULD APOLOGIZE TO HER

6:19pm
Shahab
Ok I know.. but I doubt ill com3

6:21pm
Jake
OK
TTYL

6:21pm
Shahab
Ttyl

6:21pm
Jake
HAVE A GOOD NIGHT!
MISS U

6:22pm
Shahab
U too

 

[floatingaround]

Not sure how relevant your last post was. But u seem to be missing your gay mate..

 

[shahab6]

Not sure how relevant your last post was. But u seem to be missing your gay mate..

She was staying at his house.. And I think she told him to message me

 

[shahab6]

ok after 3 weeks of not talking, we talked today, and she said she wants me to propose to her... Now its big jump from being friends to being engaged.. So confused. Plus I meet another girl Im dating... Things got so complicated..

 

[llama112]

ok after 3 weeks of not talking, we talked today, and she said she wants me to propose to her... Now its big jump from being friends to being engaged.. So confused. Plus I meet another girl Im dating... Things got so complicated..

She seems crazy to be honest. You haven't even been dating and she wants to be engaged? Really?
Plus, it doesn't seem like she'd be a great wife anyway... ignoring you for three weeks....

 

[T. Calderone]

Wonder how she came up with that idea? It just seems so random, when you have only been friends and she told you she was not attracted to you. Neither of you have any idea how it would work out. Also it would bother me she told your other friend that you need to apologize to her. What happened between you is personal and who knows what she is telling other people! I would keep seeing other girls and move on because she sounds pretty immature.

 

[shahab6]

Wonder how she came up with that idea? It just seems so random, when you have only been friends and she told you she was not attracted to you. Neither of you have any idea how it would work out. Also it would bother me she told your other friend that you need to apologize to her. What happened between you is personal and who knows what she is telling other people! I would keep seeing other girls and move on because she sounds pretty immature.

yes your right, its just to random she would say that.. I mean I know she is crazy as a fact, but we have a lot of fun together... The thing is your right I have no idea how it will work out, as I said shes nuts, so u never know with crazy people... But unfortunately I missed her a lot the last three weeks. And I felt something is missing in my life.. And she also missed me a lot to, as she tried to contact me few times. And I wasn't happy. Even through I started dating this new girl, I don't feel that connection with her. Deep inside I know being with her is wrong.. Big time.. And nothing good will come from it. But sadly I think I have fallen in love with her.. We just got so used together.. And she feels the same way, thats why she wants me to propose to her too..

Again its complicated.

 

[alasdairm]

it doesn't seem that complicated. do you want to marry her? if so, propose. if not, don't.

alasdair

 

[Animal Mother]

Just propose. You don't have to actually mean it.

 

[B1tO'RoughJack]

IT isn't "wrong" there is no[ wrong here.

This was a bit ridiculous though. How old are you and how old is she?

Just sounds really infantile. But ya know - so many people are really immature these days. if it is too much hassle to be friends then meditate on why you feel bad.

If you went a lil too far, then next time you give her a massage don't be an ass - respect her boundaries.
You should not beat yourself up but at teh end of the day you feel bad for a reason, because you acted like a drama queen.

You cannot be her friend because she is broke. That's ridiculous. You're always paying for her - that's yoru choice, but if she bitches and moans, then she is a user and you just need to be more assertive. This is all your fault at teh moment. Moving onto the next - if you are an hour away from each other, then how often do you guys see each other?

if it's too much hassle just take a BREAK from each other - don't swear everything off because you;'re both acting ridiculously... You will both regret it.

It is all part of the learning curve, but use your heart, use your head, and think about being in her shoes.

So my female best friend came over my house few days ago, and shes like massage my back, I went a little bit too far, so two days later, she got mad at me, saying what I did was not appropriated. And she said will never stay at my house. Or come over that night for my birthday... So I told her, I can't just be your friend anymore.. She got angry, and said Im not attractive to you , and blah. So I said its fine, but I can't be your friend anymore.. At first she said, fine. Then shes like drop this conversation and apologize, and I will forget about it. But I said im serious.. She's like fine, then blocked me on fb. then she text me saying how I hurt her feeling, and if i drop this, she will come over tonight... Then 30 mins later, She said I want to meet you, and lets talk in person. I told her it fine...And that was that...

Was this wrong what I did? Few reasons I can't be her friend, one shes broke, so Im always paying for her.. 2. She lives so far. It takes us 1 hour drive to see each other.. Its just so much hassle to be friends. Also I feel like Im doing to much for her, as a friend, as shes getting most of the benefits from this friendship, than me..

I feel bad for what I did, but I feel like I did the right thing..

IF you are giving more than you are getting - you need to learn to love yourself more. There are many techniques out there. Email me if you want to know any.

PROPOSING?!?! She sounds nuts. Ignore this and take a break from her. Tell her you guys need a break from hanging out coz things are getting nuts. I reckon a few weeks is a good idea.

 

[PurpleKush1]

Girls and there friendzones.... '' I cant get no bf thats loves me and is this and that blablabla'' look at all your male friends you put in the friendzone bitch

 

[shahab6]

IT isn't "wrong" there is no[ wrong here.

This was a bit ridiculous though. How old are you and how old is she?

Just sounds really infantile. But ya know - so many people are really immature these days. if it is too much hassle to be friends then meditate on why you feel bad.

If you went a lil too far, then next time you give her a massage don't be an ass - respect her boundaries.
You should not beat yourself up but at teh end of the day you feel bad for a reason, because you acted like a drama queen.

You cannot be her friend because she is broke. That's ridiculous. You're always paying for her - that's yoru choice, but if she bitches and moans, then she is a user and you just need to be more assertive. This is all your fault at teh moment. Moving onto the next - if you are an hour away from each other, then how often do you guys see each other?

if it's too much hassle just take a BREAK from each other - don't swear everything off because you;'re both acting ridiculously... You will both regret it.

It is all part of the learning curve, but use your heart, use your head, and think about being in her shoes.




IF you are giving more than you are getting - you need to learn to love yourself more. There are many techniques out there. Email me if you want to know any.

PROPOSING?!?! She sounds nuts. Ignore this and take a break from her. Tell her you guys need a break from hanging out coz things are getting nuts. I reckon a few weeks is a good idea.

Im 30 shes 19, I didn't say I don't want to be her friend because shes broke, I said I don't want to be her friend because I like her way too much to be just friends, if that makes any sense. We see each other about 2-3 times a week. After 3 weeks of no talking we went back to talking again, I realized she did miss me a lot, and I felt bad for doing that.. We ended up hanging out for 6 days nonstop.

But at the end of 6 days, I'm back to square one.. So this will happen again..Idk will see