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lauren12k

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I'm 17 and still live at home with my parents, I came home today to see my remaining joints were missing from my drawer. My tobacco, papers and lighters were still there and there was nothing else there to be taken. My mother has been very angry with me for no particular reason since I got home but I'm guessing she found the joints and took them. She's been wondering where all my money has gone so she probably searched my room today as she got more suspicious.

When/if she does mention it to me what should I say? Should I be completely honest or lie and say they aren't mine? Also is there anything I could tell her that would maybe help her see the benefits to weed or something so she knows it's not as bad as she may think? Please give me some suggestions. :)
 
No one is going to believe the "I was just holding on to them from someone else." That's just going to make your Mom even more pissed cause you lied. I really think you just ask her if she found anything of yours, something to that effect. Don't say, did you find my weed. Just give her an opportunity to bring it up. Just be honest and direct with her. You are going to get yelled at either way, but if you come to your Mom first she might appreciate the honesty. If you really need to argue don't tell her weed is good for you. It will just start another argument. Just tell her you're 17 and soon you'll be able to make your own decisions and that until then you wont bring it into her house, or something like that. You are caught though, get this unpleasantness with your mother out of the way as soon as possible.
 
Tell her that someone you don't like in your class threatened you and made you hold onto their drugs, have them call the school and have a good laugh.

Not really. Just be honest with them, apologize for breaking their rules and if it's really an issue then don't hold onto anything at your house anymore. At the end of the day it's their house and you are merely their tenant that's obliged to follow their rules. You will be at college/uni soon enough to do as you please.
 
You hide your weed in your drawer? Seriously? Did it ever occur to you that would be the first place she would look?

But yeah, be honest.
 
mal3volent said:
You hide your weed in your drawer? Seriously? Did it ever occur to you that would be the first place she would look?

But yeah, be honest.
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I know it was stupid but she trusted me and never had any reason to search through my things so I thought it would be ok but I guess she was going to find out eventually.
 
A friends Mom once found my syringe and spoon and I tried to pull the "I'm holding it for a friend" move, that did not turn out well. Next time I was caught by my own parents with a couple of bowls and some weed I was straight up honest. That turned out a lot better than lying.

Just be honest like everyone else has been saying and you'll be fine. She'll probably be mad and won't listen to what you have to say especially if you start telling her how weed really isn't that bad and she's making a big deal about nothing etc etc... Honesty is key here ;)
 
She just confronted me about it and took the rest of my things, tobacco, papers etc. I'm not allowed out of the house any more and I'm also getting no more money. Didn't go well at all and I don't know what else to say to her to make her less angry.
 
lauren12k said:
She just confronted me about it and took the rest of my things, tobacco, papers etc. I'm not allowed out of the house any more and I'm also getting no more money. Didn't go well at all and I don't know what else to say to her to make her less angry.
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I would just let her cool off. Nothing you say right now will help the situation, only time will.

I highly doubt she will keep you locked inside for the rest of the year and never give you anymore money.
 
Yep..agreed. as a mom who went through this with my kid (of course in my mind I was a little more understnding but if the parent has never ever smoked weed or any other drugs they may not get it at all). Honesty is definitely the best policy. I did not want to be a hypocrite. My kids were not aware of any of my drug use because I felt at younger ages my job was to guide them in a way that they would make good decisions. I believe at a young age my children were not emotionally and mentally mature enough to make decisions that that might come back to haunt them. (Of course you are 17 and that is about the age I had an honest heart to heart with my boys). I never lied to my kids but didn't tell them of my experiences til they were older because I didn't want to influence them in a negative way.
We lived in an area at the time that had a psycho juvenile judge in backwoods Georgia that was notorious for putting kids away in facilities for first time offenses. That worried me to death. I also wanted them to completely be concentrating on school because I felt at that point in their lives that was their "job"...to do well so that they had the opportunities open to them later when they were old enough to make decisions about things. I didn't want them to burn any bridges.

So my point is...as mom..honesty is usually appreciated and won't cause as much distrust as if you lie. If she is anything like I was(and a lot of good moms) her biggest concerns will be for you getting in trouble with the law, concern for your health and if she has little personal experience she will worry that by smoking pot it might lead you to doing other drugs and ruining your life. Since I personally feel it is not abnormal for people to try out pot and smoke pot and NOT go onto bigger and badder drugs this did not overly concern me. But again I had experience with it.

So reassure her like others said that you won't bring it into her house, let her tell you how much trouble you could get in, reassure her you understand. Don't argue the positive point of weed with her as it will most likely be a losing battle AND she will question your judgement. Soon you will be old enough that any trouble it might or might not cause you will be only YOUR responsibility and not on her.

Good luck dear..put up with her anger for a bit..be careful from now on. She obviously cares and if you have never been in trouble like this before she will be over this soon (hopefully!). <3
 
Thanks everyone for the advice, doesn't seem like this will be over anytime soon but I can hope. She said she'll be searching any of my friends if they came over too, soon I'll have no friends. I think she's definitely overreacting.
 
Parents overreact, ce las vie. We've all been there. Your friends probably understand more than you think. Almost every stoner has to deal with this type of issue if they're dependent minors. Don't worry, you only got another year of this. Do remember that your mom loves you and the reason she is doing all this annoying stuff is cause she thinks it will be better for you. She's not doing this cause she hates you.
 
bennyZA said:
Parents overreact, ce las vie. We've all been there. Your friends probably understand more than you think. Almost every stoner has to deal with this type of issue if they're dependent minors. Don't worry, you only got another year of this. Do remember that your mom loves you and the reason she is doing all this annoying stuff is cause she thinks it will be better for you. She's not doing this cause she hates you.
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Suppose you're right, thanks. :)
 
It`s kind of insulting your mom`s intelligence if you say it`s not yours. She knows, so time to be out in the open, you could explain to her why weed is not that bad (at least you don`t have to tell your mom you were doing heroin cuz she found all your burnt foils :) ). Moms just want the best for us usually, and explaining the pros of smoking the reef and maybe why you choose to smoke would probably be a good thing, even if she dosn`t believe it, it`s usually (not always) better to be open I think.
 
yeah i would just let her cool off and DONT LIE. that always got me in trouble.

@downfallin- i cant believe you didnt tell your mom it was from making a foil weed bowl.

lol both of my statements are contradicting. whateva
 
First off, buy yourself a decent stash box/tin.
You can now buy Monster energy drink stash cans.

Personally I think you should come clean, I went months of pretending 'it wasn't mine', eventually you will start stressing more than your parents.
You need to make them aware of how having a toke isn't anywhere near as harmful as they believe - parents aren't as clued up as they think.

The only way you're going to prove to them it isn't as bad as they think is if you're totally in control of what you're doing.
Having them learn smoking weed isn't for down and outs is your mission.
You are smoking purely for pleasure, let them know that after smoking 10 doobies last night you're still up bright and early... Can the same be said for them after consuming alcohol the night before? ;)
 
If your mum's ever smoked weed in the past, which she probably has, she probably won't have much to say. I'm 17 and living at home too, and my mum found a small amount of weed in my room a couple of weeks ago when she was searching for rizlas as we both smoke and regularly nick rizlas/filters/baccy off each other. All she said to me was "I was looking for rizlas in your room earlier and found something not very nice. If you're smoking it, fair enough, but I don't want it in the house." Most other parents of my friends have said similar things. Usually parents don't mind too much as weed obviously isn't a hard drug, so you're best off being honest and promising to keep it out of the house in future if that's what she wishes.
 
Oh shit I didn't read the posts about your mum already confronting you, sorry :') you should just explain to her how cannabis is actually less harmful and less addictive than alcohol etc. and let her know you're not going to extremes with your smoking. As I said previously though, tell her you'll keep it out of the house from now on.
 
EmLee said:
Oh shit I didn't read the posts about your mum already confronting you, sorry :') you should just explain to her how cannabis is actually less harmful and less addictive than alcohol etc. and let her know you're not going to extremes with your smoking. As I said previously though, tell her you'll keep it out of the house from now on.
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I said all to her but she's still not happy as it's illegal and considered a drug which she hates. She doesn't trust me at all now and she thinks I'm going to end up a typical druggie. She definitely overreacted but I'm sure it will all calm down soon.
 
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