Let Kids Drink at Your House and You Could Go to Jail, Maine Couple Warns

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High school graduation and prom season have arrived, and along with the corsages, caps and gowns come the parties. It's a notion that can strike fear into the heart of any parent, and for good reason. These days a child's bad behavior doesn't just lead to disappointment but can actually lead to a jail cell -- for the parents.

Ask Paula and Barry Spencer, from Falmouth, Maine.

Last June, after their 18-year-old son Nicky's high school baseball team won the state championship, they agreed to host a celebration for the players. The Spencers set out the ground rules: no more than 50 guests, and absolutely no drinking or drugs.

As guests started arriving around 7 p.m., they were served barbecue along with lemonade, iced tea and water. In an interview with "20/20," the Spencers said they weren't naive to the fact that their teenage guests might try to sneak in something harder.

"I thought people were going to attempt to bring in beer and alcohol, but we were watching for it. I was actually right at the front of the house watching kids come in," Barry Spencer said.

As the sun set, the atmosphere at the party started to change. More kids were arriving, and Paula Spencer, who was stationed at a window looking out onto her backyard, had a harder time monitoring the scene.

At 10:30 p.m., an anonymous tip came in to the Falmouth Police Department that the Spencers were hosting an underage drinking party. Sgt. George Savidge responded to the call.

"I pulled up to the house and there were probably 30 cars in the roadway. Immediately a gentleman came out and identified himself as Mr. Spencer. He said he was hosting an alcohol- and chemical-free party. He asked that I help them monitor the area for kids that would sneak in with alcohol or drugs," Savidge said.

Savidge told Barry Spencer he would monitor the street, but that Spencer was responsible for his property. Savidge saw no evidence of underage drinking, so he left.

But by 11 p.m. the party had ballooned to around 100 rowdy teens, some of whom had snuck in alcohol and many of whom were now openly drinking. Rather than shut down the party, the Spencers attempted damage control, dumping whatever alcohol they could grab down the sink.

"I invited these kids to our home to celebrate, and I didn't have clear evidence that they were all drinking. I just felt like, is it fair to shut it all down because of a few kids spoiling it for everyone else?" Paula Spencer said.

At 11 p.m. another Falmouth police officer made a traffic stop and found a drunk underage passenger in the car. When the officer questioned her, she admitted that she had just come from the Spencers' party. Police decided to head back to the house.

"At this point everyone seemed to be in a much higher state of intoxication. Now it looked like there was a party going on," Savidge said.

Police reports from that night noted 20 to 30 alcohol containers scattered around the back patio, a large marijuana pipe sitting on a table, vomit on the ground and a teenager passed out on a neighbor's lawn.

cont at
http://abcnews.go.com/US/social-hos...391725&google_editors_picks=true#.UbuQTb9h6FU
 
The Spencers went to trial last February, and Cumberland County District Attorney Stephanie Anderson was determined to have them serve time.

"The people responsible for making sure that drinking didn't go on at that party were Paula and Barry Spencer, and they did not take appropriate steps to prevent it," Anderson says.

But Anderson could not get the whole jury to agree with her. The case ended in a mistrial, with the jury split right down the middle. Rather than retry the Spencers, Anderson offered them a deal. They would not serve jail time but would pay $17,000 in fines and restitution, write a letter of apology for the local newspaper and serve 100 hours of community service each. The Spencers took the deal.

"We did not intend for kids to drink. It happened, and I'm sorry that it happened," Paula Spencer said. Although the reaction from the community and local media has been harsh over the past year, the Spencers decided to tell their story so that other parents could learn from their mistake.

As for having another party, the Spencers said that next time, they would ask a parent or two to stick around.

$17,000 and 100 hours of community service each? Sounds pretty harsh really. Parents here (in Aus) who host parties that have under age kids drinking are hardly ever charged with anything (I dont think).
 
^ I think that they did realize that. It says that they wanted no more than 50 kids there, but I imagine that things got out of control.

A similar thing happened to me once. My sister was in high school and decided to have a party. She invited about 2 dozen people, but word got out, and several hundred showed up. I had been in charge of music, and I was playing Jimi Hendrix, but after realizing that things were getting out of control, and having my sister ask me to send everyone home, I simply switched to Gregorian Chants. 8o The whole place emptied out very quickly! ;)
 
A similar thing happened to me once. My sister was in high school and decided to have a party. She invited about 2 dozen people, but word got out, and several hundred showed up. I had been in charge of music, and I was playing Jimi Hendrix, but after realizing that things were getting out of control, and having my sister ask me to send everyone home, I simply switched to Gregorian Chants. 8o The whole place emptied out very quickly! ;)

I wonder which musical selection would accomplish that task the fastest. I'd go with Demis Roussos:

 
I wonder which musical selection would accomplish that task the fastest. I'd go with Demis Roussos

The problem is that if there any hipsters thereabout at the party they'll probably just think you're playing it ironically and think 'Damn, this party's even cooler than I had thought it was! I'm staying put!'

:D/;)
 
'Hipsters' appreciate culture that is outside of mainstream attention, tbh that seems like a good stance for most topics in general, do you admire the person voted into power in your country?

I just don't like the overused notion that hipster like weird and freaky shit because they think it makes them look cool.:|
 
I was thinking Beethoven's 9th would be nice

but then again classical music might start making sense for teens while high and drunk
 
USA is a wierd country. It gives out resposibility in a wierd way. At age 12(or 14 ? i forget) you can babysit - huge responsibilty, then at 16 you can drive a car again potentialy risking lives, at 18 you can vote and influence the shape of things to come but only when you are 21 you are given the right of responsibilty for your self.

"At this point everyone seemed to be in a much higher state of intoxication. Now it looked like there was a party going on,"
so as long as you don't party it's ok to party :D
 
Water, yes...

Correct me anyone if I'm wrong but from my understanding they can let you drink under their supervision. Certain close relatives (granparents) can also let you drink. If you get a DUI or get in trouble there fucked.

Disclaimer: Not only am I not a lawyer I'm making claims from memory because I'm too lazy too look them up.
 
^ I have heard rumors that this is true, but I have also heard rumors that parents who let their children drink have gotten in trouble because of it. Maybe someone with more knowledge will chime in...

But, as far as this story goes, you are definitely not allowed to let your kids and their 100 closest friends drink!
 
I thought it was legal for parents to let their kids drink...

When I went to the US my mum bought me a beer to go with my meal, think I was about 16 and the owner comes out going batshit like he's going to ring the police, strange country indeed. You are allowed a beer with a meal if you are 16 in the UK.

Also it's illegal to be underage and intoxicated lol?
 
fuck that a party whitout drinking and drugs aint a party in my opinion. Yay lets party with some lemonade! hell no. They shouldve just not permitted a party and everybody wouldve gotten fucked up in another place. No way you can control 50 kids. A party sober aint a party.
 
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