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Can a Lesbian and a Gay person have a relationship?

Maya

Maya

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Ok so I just spoke to my gay bff and he has told me that one of his gay friend is currently dating a lesbian. I am really confused about this. I don't even want to believe it but I don't think my gay bff will make up things like this. Has anyone of you known a couple like this? Shouldn't they just call themselves a regular couple then?
 
sexuality is a broad spectrum, it's not black white or grey.

You can even move across that spectrum as you wish. They can call themselves whatever they want, why are you so hung up on labels?

and to answer the question; of course they can, they are two human beings, that's all that's needed for a relationship.
 
Plus, IIRC, there are studies showing a decent number of "lesbians" (35% or something) identify that way as a political/social statement but have attraction to or actually have sex with males...i.e. they are bisexual rather than lesbian but prefer to identify as lesbian.

A lot of bisexual guys do that too, though usually identifying as straight but having sex with men. (Go look at craigslist casual encounters m4m section and you'll see what I mean) I'm sure some guys who identify as gay, may, like those 35% of lesbians, actually be bisexual but have some quasi-political motive for identifying as gay.

Whatever, as long they are happy, IDGAF what they call themselves or who they bang (with consent ,of course)
 
Well clearly neither of them were 100% gay or lesbian. Either that or it's a scam ;) but one of my lesbian friends has recently been telling me about this guy she's sort of into. So it's not unheard of.
 
Pagey said:
Well clearly neither of them were 100% gay or lesbian. Either that or it's a scam ;) but one of my lesbian friends has recently been telling me about this guy she's sort of into. So it's not unheard of.
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It's unfair to say that neither is 100% homosexual. Sometimes you can't realize you are until you've tried a relationship with the other sex.

In answer to the OP, yes they can. A relationship depends on how you feel about each other, regardless of sex or orientation.
 
How d'you mean?

I mean yeah of course, but I was assuming that they're in a happy relationship where they have feelings for each other, otherwise I don't feel like the question would need to be asked. Especially since if they already identify themselves as gay and lesbian, it wouldn't appear that they needed this relationship to realise it.
 
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You can be considered 100% oriented one way for most of your life, and then start questioning yourself. So you try dating the opposite and realize that it's not for you, even if you have the best relationship. I know many people who have done this, myself included, and the sexual relationship may end but you remain the best of friends.
 
So they're probably both bisexual instead of gay / lesbian. If it works for them, awesome.
 
Liza Minnelli was married to peter allen for years.

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Gay and lesbian are just labels. What people identify as may not conform to whatever program is running in the background. It's like guys who are married and say they are straight but are having sex with men on the side, yet still think of themselves as being straight. If you gave these guys a lie detector test and asked them if they were straight, they'd probably pass; but if you asked them if they've ever had sex with men and they say no, they'd fail.

For me the label of "gay" conforms to my pattern of desires and behaviors toward a specific sex, not what I conceive myself to be.

In other words it's the labels that confuse matters, not the behaviors. Sexual identity politics is confusing enough as it is.
 
clearly a bunch of people too caught up in labels - don't think anything of it.

I would guess that maybe he prefers guys, and maybe she prefers women, but they just happen to love each other so the hetero thing is coming through. Sounds interesting.
 
Relationships shouldn't be disregarded due to race/gender. I actually think a homosexual man and woman could mesh very well. I don't see why it can't work if they both are falling for each other. Maybe they just never found the right person from the opposite sex.. In any event that's a pretty cool situation and I hope it works out.
 
I have known of a few gay/lesbian couples, even if it wasn't for life.

I liken that kind of pairing to the connection I forged and still have with my gay ex.

I identify as bisexual, but I feel more physically attracted to women than men.
 
Semi-tangential question:

Does anyone know of/heard of people who are romantically (as in the emotional aspects of love/romance) attracted to one sex but sexually attracted to the other sex? Like exclusively. That would kind of suck I think.
 
hmmmmm..... that is an extreme that might warrant a dedicated thread....
 
Perhaps. But I'm not in that in position (Bisexual but like 85% heterosexual and 100% heteroromantic) so I don't really know how to start such a thread.

I'll think about it and see what I can come up with. It's just a curiosity out of pseudo-academic interest. (I'm academically 85% STEM but the other 15% is dilettantism in sociology and psychology. :P)
 
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