Parent Problems

[Redman42]

Hello all. I smoked weed for only the second time, and had to go home earlier than I had hoped. So my mom quickly found out I was high, but didnt talk to me til the next day. I denied it of course, but she didn't believe me. She hasn't mentioned anything about it since. I'm wondering if I should just admit it to her, and try to show her how safe it actually is, and also try to build some trust back. Have any of you had any luck doing something like this?

 

[Artificial Emotion]

edit: who am I kidding? I don't give a shit lol.

If you want to tell yourself smoking weed at your age is harmless that's your problem.

 

[Redman42]

I'm not saying its harmless, I'm saying its less harmful than many activities, and that in moderation it really isn't that bad.

 

[tripnotyzm]

How old are you??
Some parents have strong views and sometimes very minimal or incorrect knowledge on drugs...
My parents absolutely flipped out every time i admitted to getting stoned before i was 18.
To my mum (and a lot of other parents), cannabis seems just as deep as any opiate or hallucinogenic compound.
But since I have grown up, got a job and proved to them that I can sustain a good creative lifestyle as a stoner, their views have swiftly changed.
So it's up to you I guess..
Honesty with your parents is a healthy option, but if your mum is somebody who will lose her shit and force you into a rehab clinic, then maaaaybe you should just kick back for now and let it pass by.. It will pass by

 

[Morphling]

Save the partying for college, when your brain is more fully developed. Your mum is right to be concerned. I started smoking pot at 12, and it did me no good at all. Sure, pot may be 'not that bad' insofar as it's effects are physically innocuous, but there are other ways it affects you, including cognitive development.

 

[HCandKROD]

Yeah, I saw on another thread where you are 15 n/o. Try making good grades and dating girls. Like it or not it's your parents house and if they don't want you to do drugs and you go ahead and do them....it'll be a hell ride for all of you till you're 18. Best of luck friend.

 

[Redman42]

Thanks everyone. I think I'll not talk to her about it, and smoke very very rarely.

 

[dopemaster]

Im sure your mom has already made up her mind on drugs and she might just be having a laugh fucking with you or she might think its pure evil. I dunno what to tell you. Id make my own decisions but I cant tell you if using mj or any drug is the right one. If you do choose to smoke weed your parents will know unless you want to go to crazy lengths to hide it. I would find that downright stressful and I mean I smoked it to relax. I can tell you first hand drugs fuck your life up. Not mj so much but as much as I didnt believe in gateway drugs when I just smoked pot I kinda believe in em now when I just shoot up.

 

[Jibult]

Thanks everyone. I think I'll not talk to her about it, and smoke very very rarely.

Smart man.

Truthfully, though, we wouldn't be able to tell you what the best course of action in this situation would be without knowing your folks. Personally, I never told my family dick. I still don't know what they know, lol. My family always seemed shocked about my weed use/abuse, but I'm always shocked that they're ignorant enough of my personal habits to act surprised when someone brings up the subject around them.

 

[xx001]

It would probably be best to not say anything about it to her unless she brings it up or accuses you or something.

 

[LOGan1314]

How old are you??
Some parents have strong views and sometimes very minimal or incorrect knowledge on drugs...
My parents absolutely flipped out every time i admitted to getting stoned before i was 18.
To my mum (and a lot of other parents), cannabis seems just as deep as any opiate or hallucinogenic compound.
But since I have grown up, got a job and proved to them that I can sustain a good creative lifestyle as a stoner, their views have swiftly changed.
So it's up to you I guess..
Honesty with your parents is a healthy option, but if your mum is somebody who will lose her shit and force you into a rehab clinic, then maaaaybe you should just kick back for now and let it pass by.. It will pass by

This...exactly. Even with today's knowledge my parents STILL think cannabis is just as bad as hard drugs or will lead to hard drugs no matter what. Some people will never change their point of view no matter what, so stop smoking till you move out or try and hide it better!

 

[Artificial Emotion]

Redhead sorry if my post seemed harsh but when I was your age I had the same attitude and outlook only to now have regrets, so I would hate to see you make the same mistake. At the end of the day it is better than you getting drunk but it's not something I could in all honestly recommend.

It's up to you whether you keep it from your mum.

 

[samnslumberland]

I would personally advise you against bringing it up with her. If she wants to say something about it, she will. If she does ask about it, then you should be honest about the whole situation.

I've been through a similar scenario with my mother, but after calmly discussing my smoking habits and explaining my reasons for doing it, she started to back off. She doesn't necessarily agree with it, but she tolerates it while I'm living under her roof. We actually have a better relationship all around, especially because I'm extremely helpful and positive after smoking a bowl and she's recognized that.

 

[dcraver877]

i'd say smoke as much as possible to show them it doesn't affect you negatively. thats what i did. now i changed it around and ask them why they are drinking every night. I basically proved to them alcohol was more harmful than cannabis and made them feel bad about being hypocrits.


now we both enjoy our vices in private. perfect.

 

[nekointheclouds]

i'd say smoke as much as possible to show them it doesn't affect you negatively. thats what i did. now i changed it around and ask them why they are drinking every night. I basically proved to them alcohol was more harmful than cannabis and made them feel bad about being hypocrits.


now we both enjoy our vices in private. perfect.

I'm sorry but smoking as much as possible to try and prove you can handle it is a stupid idea given that was only his second time smoking and he cant really know if he is the kind of person who CAN handle that much weed and be better than fine. Some people just do not get as many positive benefits from green and more of the negative side effects. Every person reacts differently to different drugs, I have known many people to enjoy smoking green at first but later get anxious or have a bad experience.

Hello all. I smoked weed for only the second time, and had to go home earlier than I had hoped. So my mom quickly found out I was high, but didnt talk to me til the next day. I denied it of course, but she didn't believe me. She hasn't mentioned anything about it since. I'm wondering if I should just admit it to her, and try to show her how safe it actually is, and also try to build some trust back. Have any of you had any luck doing something like this?

I really feel this depends on how your mom is, you really havent discribed what kind of person she is and what kind of opinions she holds on different drugs. My parents are old hippies, both smoked weed when i was a kid and my dad still does. I got caught with weed when I was 15, it was the first time i ever bought weed for myself. When they found out i had gotten it they sat me down for a talk....

Thing is they actually did not punish me, they said it would be hypocritical to do so because they dont think weed should be illegal. But they were disappointed in me(which is so much worse than being ground imo) because i was stuggling in school due to learning disabilities and was too young to be getting into smoking green so much that I was buying it for myself.

Also tell us more about yourself. what age are you(we wont judge), what are you grades like and do you struggle with school? Do you get in trouble ever?

All these things will have an impact on how you should handle this.

 

[double ewe]

Thanks everyone. I think I'll not talk to her about it, and smoke very very rarely.

probably the best thing you can do.

the trick with getting parents to accept you doing things they don't agree with is to show yourself to be a happy, healthy and successful person. for the most part, this is what parents want to see, and their worry about things like pot is that they will create barriers to you becoming that person.

 

[I<3Hallucinogens]

all you have to do is start being high 24/7, that way shell get used to the high you and wont even notice any more...
JK dont do that. thats a bad road to go down xD
best thing i have done is i told my parents about it, told them i know the risks and benefits, and showed them i was responsible enough to handle school, work, and smoking. i also dont lke alcohol, so it is my release at the end of the day and my go-to party drug. sure they didnt like it for a while, but it was just more motivation for me to do well and prove them wrong. after i started smoking, my gpa went from a 1.5 to a 3.5, so they werent complaining haha

 

[Phase0)))]

Trust me bro, you do not want to be sent to a rehab for just MJ. If that does happen, say you're there for other drugs too so you can relate better with the other folks.

 

[dopemaster]

I had never really talked to my parents about smoking pot till I got caught smoking in my room. My mom had run in my room to tell me some good news and Im blowing smoke into the pillow. Shes like "well I do agree with you son that your dad is a prick and maybe we will just keep this between us, just promise me you wont do exstsasasasy." I never came across that but I did get into ecstasy. That might have been what she was trying to say. She could never pronounce that word right no matter how much I took.

 

[shimazu]

I wouldn't say anything until they bring it up

they're the parents not you

good grades are the trump card fyi

if you get good grades and still smoke weed most parents won't say anything

that's really all being a pothead is in general, balancing getting shit done with smoking weed.