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Has MDMA ever caused you to have gay feelings or thoughts?

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I did MDMA for the first time in a club the other day with one friend. I was absolutely loving the high; hugging everyone, loving the music. I really wanted to kiss a girl because I knew it would feel amazing whilst high.

Me and my friend were holding hands and putting arms round shoulders etc and for some reason I stupidly asked if he wanted to give each other blowjobs. I know this is VERY gay but I am certain I'm not gay and have never felt attracted to a guy and the idea of having sex with a guy kind of grosses me out.

At the time I just really wanted to for some reason and when I asked my friend got kind of freaked out and asked if I was gay to which I said I wasn't. I think it was just because I was feeling so happy and in love with life that I just wanted to experience it and getting high for the first time with him made me feel closer to him as a person.

Since then he's been pretty disconnected and I think he's worried that I've got a crush on him or something! I'm really not sure how to handle the situation, any help would be really appreciated.
 
Wow this is very interesting.. Though I have to tell you this happened to two of my guy friends years ago.. You can pm me if you want me to discuss the details but I find that posting the details here would be inappropriate. I think this is the euphoria feeling since MDMA is a "love drug". You should just tell him that what happened was absolutely unacceptable and that it is therefore the "drug" that has caused you those feelings. At this point you can't undo what has happened but if he is a true friend he would be more understanding of what has happened.
 
MDMA tends to blur genders, lower your inhibitions a lot, and make you open and ready to express love to everybody and anybody, hence what most people call PLUR. I believe we have all experienced this sort of thing to varying degree...

One of my first rolls was with my best friend from child hood. Me and him would never touch or hug, we are both straight, and we both were in relationships (with girls). When we were rolling we spend most the time hugging and getting really close to each other, which we would never do sober.

The best thing to do is just talk about it and explain that it was not in either of your control. Just be happy you didn't wake up naked in his bed the next morning.
 
I think most people are not totally straight or totally gay, they are somewhere in between, but social rules prevent them from considering it under sober circumstances. MDMA changes all that, plus it shows you that if you really feel total love for someone (even if drug induced), then you will be more likely to want their body because you just want to be as close to them as possible.

The problem with MDMA is that it also blurs boundaries between people. Your friend is probably a bit freaked because your proposal was at such a random moment with no warning, and yeah... he probably is wondering if you're gay. You might need to clarify that it was drug induced, but that might be a tough sell. :)
 
I'm pretty sure I wouldn't lick vagina on MDMA. I'm in love on it and love touch and interaction with my SO, but don't think it would turn me gay.
 
It depends how you define "gay". If you use the term loosely to simply mean having desire to do something sexual with a member of the same sex as you, then yeah that's pretty damn common on MDMA. But most "gay" people use the term "gay" to mean a sexual orientation, not just a thought or an act - being gay is being almost exclusively or exclusively attracted to members of the same sex and wanting to have romantic relationships with them. MDMA can't "turn you gay" (this sentence is directed at what Lysis said). Wanting to fool around with a friend of the same sex while high on MDMA does not make you gay. Hell, wanting to fool around with a friend of the same sex while totally sober doesn't even make you gay. Most people are actually somewhere on a spectrum as far as sexual attraction/desire/turn-ons go anyway. I really wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe you could explain things to your friend? Tell him that you are not romantically interested in him and it was just a random thought that popped into your head because you were loving everything and everyone and sensations felt good because you were high?
 
this one (pretty sure he's gay) person started texting me while on it and said "if you were here i would wrestle you haha"

i think i stared at my phone for like a minute
 
There are so many threads like this popping up recently

Must be something in the "water"
 
I too can relate to this in one way or another. A few months ago when I was rolling my tits off on 200mg of MDMA, I had a desire to kiss (and did so) a few of my bi-sexual friends who are male. Thinking back on it, this happened not because I feel any sexual attraction to males in any way, but rather a way for me to create an outlet to express the huge amount of empathy I was feeling. Even under the influence, there was no desire to engage in sexual activity with any individual (male or female), but rather a compulsion to love everyone by any means necessary!
 
yeah idk bro I mean I get the sense of empathy but it never made me go that far

like that is a pretty extreme jump to go from just being regular friends to offering him a beeg

hes probably disconnceted because you offered to suck his dick and were probably completely serious about it
 
Well the only times I voluntarily kissed chicks I was on MDMA. It was more just because I felt so happy and in love with the world that I wanted to try something emotionally new though, and it never went as far as wanting to sleep with them. Try not to obsess over it too much though, it does sound like a very molly-ish experience, albeit kind of a strong one. Give it time with your friend - when you think about it it really is perfectly normal for him to be a bit distant from you atm, but if you act perfectly normal and like yourself before this experience, I'm sure after a little while he'll forget about it.
 
As has been said, any drug that makes you feel more sexual will lower your inhibitions and make it more likely that you'll be interested in things you wouldn't normally. I don't find MDMA sexual but give me some coke & alcohol and I'll be happy kissing anyone attractive, regardless of gender.
 
Yeah, I come rely agree with this. I know I was so high as it was my first time, I had had 250mg in 2 bombs and I only weight about 50kg. Reading this really describes how I was feeling really well.
 
What were you thinking when you offer such an exchange? I DO NOT WANT TO KNOW, but I do understand as it was your first time you were talking to much without processing your thoughts ...

Your friend deserves a honest explanation face to face, if he ever want to be face to face with you LOL
Common mate ! everyone I know has said something stupid while rolling that then is very very shameful just to think about it...

Cheers!
 
I identify as asexual and dislike intimacy, but find that when on ecstasy I don't have the little anxieties that make me shy away from being too intimate with people. However, I still find that I have no sexual inclination, but have no hangups about it and don't care about the possibility of anything being misinterpreted as romantic interest

What I mostly find with me and my friends is taking more of a respectful interest in one another - asking questions about someone's interests and endeavours and explaining to them why they are good at what they do etc.
 
Swimmingdancer said:
It depends how you define "gay". If you use the term loosely to simply mean having desire to do something sexual with a member of the same sex as you, then yeah that's pretty damn common on MDMA. But most "gay" people use the term "gay" to mean a sexual orientation, not just a thought or an act - being gay is being almost exclusively or exclusively attracted to members of the same sex and wanting to have romantic relationships with them. MDMA can't "turn you gay" (this sentence is directed at what Lysis said). Wanting to fool around with a friend of the same sex while high on MDMA does not make you gay. Hell, wanting to fool around with a friend of the same sex while totally sober doesn't even make you gay. Most people are actually somewhere on a spectrum as far as sexual attraction/desire/turn-ons go anyway. I really wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe you could explain things to your friend? Tell him that you are not romantically interested in him and it was just a random thought that popped into your head because you were loving everything and everyone and sensations felt good because you were high?
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It would not make you gay to want to have sex with the same gender while on drugs or while sober but it would make you bisexual.

I disagree that most people are somehow inbetween gay and heterosexual or are bisexual. If this were true there would be no point at all in LGBT (lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and trans people) coming out, no fight at all for same gender marriage or rights that heterosexuals have that they take for granted, hate crimes and genocide against bisexual and gay men would not exist, and there would be no stigma associated with being bisexual or gay and a man like you see in various societies and cultures and religions/spiritualities. This is not to say that people can't be bisexual since they can, and bisexuals do make up a sizable percentage of the human population or for LGBT people bisexuals both men, women, and trans people outnumber gay/lesbian men, women, and trans people.

I'm gay and I have been on various drugs and I have never wanted to have sex with the opposite gender while on them. I have never had any desire to have sex with a woman or any women at all even while sober. If you fantasize about having sex with the same gender while you're on drugs or sober then you're not heterosexual. If you were actually heterosexual you wouldn't fantasize or think about having sex with the same gender at all while sober or on drugs. Don't beat yourself up about it OP, sometimes this aspect of yourself can come out while you are on drugs.
 
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DrunkardsDream said:
It would not make you gay to want to have sex with the same gender while on drugs or while sober but it would make you bisexual.

I disagree that most people are somehow inbetween gay and heterosexual or are bisexual. If this were true there would be no point at all in LGBT (lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and trans people) coming out, no fight at all for same gender marriage or rights that heterosexuals have that they take for granted, hate crimes and genocide against bisexual and gay men would not exist, and there would be no stigma associated with being bisexual or gay and a man like you see in various societies and cultures and religions/spiritualities. This is not to say that people can't be bisexual since they can, and bisexuals do make up a sizable percentage of the human population or for LGBT people bisexuals both men, women, and trans people outnumber gay/lesbian men, women, and trans people.

I'm gay and I have been on various drugs and I have never wanted to have sex with the opposite gender while on them. I have never had any desire to have sex with a woman or any women at all even while sober. If you fantasize about having sex with the same gender while you're on drugs or sober then you're not heterosexual. If you were actually heterosexual you wouldn't fantasize or think about having sex with the same gender at all while sober or on drugs. Don't beat yourself up about it OP, sometimes this aspect of yourself can come out while you are on drugs.
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Yep, totally agree. Some people are bringing up kissing, but the OP was a blowjob and that's a whole 'nuther level. No way I would ever desire vagina even on MDMA.
 
DrunkardsDream - Don't you think the fact that there's such a cultural stigma associated to homosexuality/bisexuality might be the reason why some people claim themselves as 100% heterosexual though? Honestly the only people I know who've told me they've never, ever had a sexual thought about the same sex are people who have problems with the idea of homosexuality in general. They're not necessarily homophobic, but they could never admit to themselves that maybe they weren't completely straight. Whereas all the people I've actually had deep, genuine conversations about sexuality with have told me they've fantasised about someone of their own gender before. Or someone of the opposite gender, in the case of my gay friends. That isn't to say they would necessarily act on it, but the thought has certainly crossed their mind, which in my opinion is enough to put them on a spectrum between homosexual and heterosexual. For instance I've been attracted to women and I've kissed women at clubs and such but I've never wanted to sleep with one. I suppose there might be some people who are 100% one or the other but I do honestly think that's rare. So when drugs or anything that erases usual boundaries come into the picture, especially something like MDMA that makes you adore everyone, it's normal for the 'real' sexual self to come out.
 
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