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First time trying E with my bf. Will I be in control of my behavior/actions?

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basically a month back my bf dumped me because i was misbehaving and dancing with guys in a manner i shouldnt be at a club. i was heavily drunk and under the influence danced in a way i shouldnt have, his friends told him about it and he ended it

we have since gotten back together and are stronger as a couple

anyway next week we are going to a house rave with his mates and he wants me to be on xtc with theem ive agreed but im now having doubtsi dont want to be under the influence of a narcotic and behave ratchet.....i dont want history to repeat itself

i wanna know if on mdma youre in complete control of your actions and wont get off with a random stranger
i love my bf and have never cheated and i dont want to but i dont know what the drug may do seeing as alcohol made me do things i wouldnt consider especially in a relationship

ive read and told its a love drug and intimacy is heightened i would hate to show that to anyone other than my bf that night

i will try and be with him at al times but its so easy to stray and get lost in such parties

help me out guys

kimora x
 
Don't believe the hype..
MDMA is no love drug. It certainly doesn't heighten intimacy anywhere near as much as say, good sex would.

Also you should listen to yourself.
No drug will make you 'do things' that you wouldn't if you were sober.
Just go out and have a good time. Be safe and take responsibility for your actions. :)
 
I had never done anything besides alcohol when I first tried E. I had never been around people using drugs, and so I had no idea what to expect. I was worried that I might lose my mind and run around and do stupid things. About 30 minutes after I took the pill I suddenly felt this wave where it felt like a lot of weight lifted from my shoulders and then I was overcome by a feeling of being at deep peace with myself for perhaps the first time in my life. It felt wonderful to be alive. Good E will give you a very clean and smooth high, not at all messy and rough like alcohol. It's really hard to describe because you will know that you are really high and intoxicated, but at the same time you may very well feel that you have never had such a clear head and been so in control of yourself. I remember looking at my friend with my eyes wide open and saying, "You mean this feeling of peace is what is they've always taught me is so terrible about drugs?" He just gave me a gentle smile and nodded and the rest of the night was magic.
 
vancbc said:
I had never done anything besides alcohol when I first tried E. I had never been around people using drugs, and so I had no idea what to expect. I was worried that I might lose my mind and run around and do stupid things. About 30 minutes after I took the pill I suddenly felt this wave where it felt like a lot of weight lifted from my shoulders and then I was overcome by a feeling of being at deep peace with myself for perhaps the first time in my life. It felt wonderful to be alive. Good E will give you a very clean and smooth high, not at all messy and rough like alcohol. It's really hard to describe because you will know that you are really high and intoxicated, but at the same time you may very well feel that you have never had such a clear head and been so in control of yourself. I remember looking at my friend with my eyes wide open and saying, "You mean this feeling of peace is what is they've always taught me is so terrible about drugs?" He just gave me a gentle smile and nodded and the rest of the night was magic.
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cool story bro

were u in control of your actions? did you know what u were doing all the time? did u do or want to do anything out of character
 
Cornishman said:
Don't believe the hype..
MDMA is no love drug. It certainly doesn't heighten intimacy anywhere near as much as say, good sex would.

Also you should listen to yourself.
No drug will make you 'do things' that you wouldn't if you were sober.
Just go out and have a good time. Be safe and take responsibility for your actions. :)
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nice to know

are u in control of ur actions whilst on it?
like on alcohol i do things i wouldnt normally do if sober for example dancing sexually when i have a bf ;(
 
kimora said:
nice to know

are u in control of ur actions whilst on it?
like on alcohol i do things i wouldnt normally do if sober for example dancing sexually when i have a bf ;(
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Yes you're in control.

It's kinda psychedelic in the way you feel connected to people around you. Especially other users.

Just a simple look and a smile from a significant other whilst under the influence seems to carry more weight/meaning than any amount of words would convey.

It's v awesome to experience.
 
In my opinion you are more in control of your actions on MDMA than if heavily intoxicated on alcohol. You may find that your attention span is like that of a 3 year old and you constantly wonder off. That tends to happen when I mix it with too much alcohol.

If you combine MDMA with alcohol during your night out I find you experience the complete opposite, depending on how much you drink. Your decisions will probably have more consequences than just alcohol alone. When I drink with MDMA I do stupid things like getting kicked out of nightclubs or calling my entire phonebook at 5am, without remembering that I did.

Edit:

The poster below me made a good point about dose. Take too much and you could end up floored. Start with small amounts and see how you feel. You can always take more not less.
 
No, MDMA will not make you lose control of yourself (if you dose reasonably.)

Alcohol often makes people lose their minds if they drink too much. Try to drink less!

If this is an issue for you, what you really need is to have a talk with your boyfriend about it. Why is it that you feel ok dancing intimately with strangers, while he's not ok with it? How would you feel if he danced with another woman?

I'm shooting in the dark here, but it sounds like your boyfriend dumped you based on hearsay from his friends without talking to you about it first, and if you're worried that might happen again it's something you need to discuss with him.
 
Why does he want this?
When you use e you "feel" people much more acutely. And if you are attracted to somebody you are much more likely to show it.
I think it would be better if the first time you rolled you rolled alone with him.
Then you'd know what to expect.
Anyway I thinks he's a nasty asshole for censuring you because you were too flirty with his friends when you were drunk.
 
vancbc said:
I had never done anything besides alcohol when I first tried E. I had never been around people using drugs, and so I had no idea what to expect. I was worried that I might lose my mind and run around and do stupid things. About 30 minutes after I took the pill I suddenly felt this wave where it felt like a lot of weight lifted from my shoulders and then I was overcome by a feeling of being at deep peace with myself for perhaps the first time in my life. It felt wonderful to be alive. Good E will give you a very clean and smooth high, not at all messy and rough like alcohol. It's really hard to describe because you will know that you are really high and intoxicated, but at the same time you may very well feel that you have never had such a clear head and been so in control of yourself. I remember looking at my friend with my eyes wide open and saying, "You mean this feeling of peace is what is they've always taught me is so terrible about drugs?" He just gave me a gentle smile and nodded and the rest of the night was magic.
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^This is a great post! You don't really go into a lot of detail about the experience, but you manage to capture the essence of what draws a lot of people into trying drugs, IMO....

the question we all ask ourselves from time to time, "Is it real?!"....

If it gives you insight into the nature of life and yourself and you can take something out of the experience that stays with you while living in the mundane reality that is most of existence, I personally think it is "real"! If all it does is fill you with a desire to keep getting high, maybe not so much!

OP, you sound like a young girl with a normal sex-drive.....However, what you see as an innocent expression of your sexuality others may perceive as "sluttiness".....In other words, if you're rubbing your ass on a guys crotch while dancing, it may be no big deal to you, but you'll most likely get the guy all worked up and piss off your boyfriend at the same time!

I see nothing wrong with this kind of behavior, but it sounds like you may be a little naive to the signals you're putting out there that other people may be picking up on....If you wanna explore your sexuality and have the freedom to flirt and dance around in sexually provocative ways with whoever you want, you should either find a partner who's cool with it or not be in a commited relationship, TBH....

And no, ecstasy is not gewnerally the type of drug that's gonna cause you to make poor decisions like alcohol would IME....It can be sexual, but it's not necessarily sexual....It's more euphoric than anything! You can have a great time just going swimming or having a great conversation with somebody or just about anything....It soesnt have to be sex!
 
I am sure you will be fine, its no way like in alcohol. really drunk is way worse than high on E control and behavior wise.


If your bf is experienced user, I am sure you guys will be ok. But I would be more concerned about him than your behavior given what happened before + setting you are going to do it in.
 
Cornishman said:
Don't believe the hype..
MDMA is no love drug. It certainly doesn't heighten intimacy anywhere near as much as say, good sex would.

Also you should listen to yourself.
No drug will make you 'do things' that you wouldn't if you were sober.
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MDMA is no love drug? I beg to differ, I felt like I loved everything and could see all good possiblities
it sounds like you never did drugs? psilocybin made me stare at my wall and forget to catch up with my friend, mdma changed my look at life

kimora, if you indeed have MDMA.... get your boyfriend to take it with you.. relax and wait for the rush. You will never be the same again, and i ASSURE you, nothing will go wrong. If you got real MDMA, youll feel amazing and totally in control
 
You will end having sex with all his friends, trust me..


Ofc not. Nothing will happen, you are in control of what you are doing when on MDMA, you will just feel rly good and be friendly.
 
I think most rational peole see the "drugs made me do it" excuse as just that, a hollow excuse. I have been drunk beyond drunk and high byond high and never once have I been unable to control myself. now I will concede that the decsions I was making may have not been the best but they were still my decisions. my body did not go into atoupilot and do things I did not want to do.
 
Cornishman said:
No drug will make you 'do things' that you wouldn't if you were sober.
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sorry man, I respect you and all, but I gotta call BULLSHIT on this one line. Lots of drugs will make you do and say things you wouldn't if you were sober. MDMA is one, for sure. IDK about you, but I have said stupid ass shit, given away too much shit for free on MDMA. I'm sure lots of people have too, as I've seen several threads on it over the years.

If anything she should take responsibility for taking the MDMA... Since that was a sober conscious decision to begin with. Whatever happens afterwards is history.
 
matt2012 said:
now I will concede that the decsions I was making may have not been the best but they were still my decisions when I was fucked up. my body did not go into atoupilot and do things I did not want to do.
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.... This is such a contradictory statement on so many levels. and I fify.

I have done tons of shit on amphetamines, xanax, crack, MDMA and/or high levels of alcohol that I would not have done in a sober mindset. I have laid out examples.

Was it my fault? YES! I took the drugs knowing they would have an effect on me.
 
Cornishman said:
Actually it does sound ridiculous. Considering some of the stuff I've done under the influence.

I should of said 'no drug - if used correctly'. :|
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No, I would still completely disagree with you tbh. Most of the antics me and my friends get up to on MDMA we'd never do whilst sober. It makes doing really silly things a hell of a lot of fun.
 
Honestly, you want my honest opinion how to try MDMA if you are set? Try it with him and maybe a close girl-friend. I have heard too many stories of "sharing" that ended badly, for all parties. Mates that weren't mates anymore etc.

But I wouldn't personally try MDMA with random strangers unless you are familiar with the effects.
 
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