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Whats Behind The Dirty Things We Say During Sex?

rangrz said:
Note that I originally only stated my subjective preference. Then a poster came in and started shit, so I trolled back.
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Note that I said the argument was pointless and both sides were wasting their time, and didn't in fact 'call you out.'
 
rangrz said:
Note that I originally only stated my subjective preference. Then a poster came in and started shit, so I trolled back.
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I didn't catch that.


All I saw was you trolling hard. Entirely conceivable that I missed the post, but also entirely possible that you overreacted to a valid and entirely respectful post? Or that your original post was more offensive than you perceived? No need to derail a thread every time somebody disagrees with you (not that this thread will go far anyways).
 
^ agreed, poster-whose-name-I-forgot-to-copy-and-paste :)

rangrz said:
Note that I originally only stated my subjective preference. Then a poster came in and started shit, so I trolled back.
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Am I that poster? Quote me where I started shit? If I recall rightly I said you were sweet, and then you started talking about my low IQ and then said I was thick as a brick :)

Please in future can you try and cram a few more tired, lame internet-speak cliches into your posts, because that will only serve to make you even funnier, if thats humanly possible. You're a regular laugh a minute, just full of lulz and lawls :D
 
badandwicked said:
^ agreed, poster-whose-name-I-forgot-to-copy-and-paste :)



Am I that poster? Quote me where I started shit? If I recall rightly I said you were sweet, and then you started talking about my low IQ and then said I was thick as a brick :)

Please in future can you try and cram a few more tired, lame internet-speak cliches into your posts, because that will only serve to make you even funnier, if thats humanly possible. You're a regular laugh a minute, just full of lulz and lawls :D
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Your original reply was snark and sarcasm.

Actually, forgive me if that was not your intent, in which case disregard my trolling. But I'm pretty sure it was just snark.
 
It was me, if and only if your first reply to me was not intended as a troll itself. If it was, my response was justified.

So, which was it?

That's to say nothing of the fact you are still acting butt hurt, ya dumb ho.
 
Pariahprose said:
Some people just straight up like to fuck and not exchange any dirty sexual talk during the act. I personally love it when my gf talks dirty to me while we have sex and I enjoy talking dirty back to her. But one has to wonder,whats really behind some of the dirty things we say during sex?
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IMO it's surely learned from society and things said in porn. I suspect no one who grows up lacking that exposure ends up saying dirty or degrading things during sex. I know that power and lust work well together, and sex can be a very animal thing with a lot of people, so that can lead to more intense sexual acts, but the specific wording, well... that's learned.
 
I'd say when done in earnest talking dirty may often simply be a way of focusing on whatever gets a person off as a fantasy and is not necessarily indicative of what they actually want to pursue in real life (I doubt many girls who say daddy want their dads to fuck them but maybe their dads represent authority and power over them and "daddy" best evokes the time they were a girl and felt most dominated or vulnerable). Dirty talk helps to imagine a role. If domination gets a person off they might verbally abuse their partner, or if submission does they may ask to be verbally abused.

Talk can also come out almost involuntarily through increased focus on what's going to naturally happen in the height of of passion (I'm going to cum in you/you're gonna make me cum/yeah eat my fucking cum). It all sounds kind of funny, filthy and ridiculous after the fact, but if you're thinking in an embarrassed socially self-aware or judgmental way during sex you're doing something wrong.

Try driving a car while saying out loud "I'm driving, I'm driving right now ..." and you'll find yourself start to worry that you have less control since driving is so largely automatic and unengaged by reflective awareness. However, during sex, unlike driving, you want to immerse your awareness in particulars of the moment. By describing something that's happening or you're imagining you deepen your awareness of it, whether it's simple literal description or fantasy. By telling a person these things we make them aware of what we are aware of in the moment -- we share dirty secrets about what's going on inside us -- and such candor heightens a sense of interpersonal unity. I'd say there's so much dirty talk in porn precisely both because it's a transgressive thrill to hear it and because it's just video and people in the industry know the viewer is aided in projecting themselves into what's on going on in the actor's heads if it's said out loud (granted it's mostly made up, but it doesn't matter).
 
I love it when a man talks dirty. If he does it right, I really get off on it.
 
when sexually aroused and really caught in the moment, our brains release all kinds of wonderful chemicals to allow us to reach heights of pleasure that our bodies generally wouldnt.

similar to when on mdma, expressing these feelings and emotions verbally when our brain is under this influence is a fantastic and healthy release; that only adds to the pleasure we are already experiencing.

how much truth is involved? how much truth is involved in the ramblings of someone whilst under the influence of mdma?

you decide <3

...kytnism...:|
 
psood0nym said:
I'd say when done in earnest talking dirty may often simply be a way of focusing on whatever gets a person off as a fantasy and is not necessarily indicative of what they actually want to pursue in real life (I doubt many girls who say daddy want their dads to fuck them but maybe their dads represent authority and power over them and "daddy" best evokes the time they were a girl and felt most dominated or vulnerable). Dirty talk helps to imagine a role. If domination gets a person off they might verbally abuse their partner, or if submission does they may ask to be verbally abused.

Talk can also come out almost involuntarily through increased focus on what's going to naturally happen in the height of of passion (I'm going to cum in you/you're gonna make me cum/yeah eat my fucking cum). It all sounds kind of funny, filthy and ridiculous after the fact, but if you're thinking in an embarrassed socially self-aware or judgmental way during sex you're doing something wrong.

Try driving a car while saying out loud "I'm driving, I'm driving right now ..." and you'll find yourself start to worry that you have less control since driving is so largely automatic and unengaged by reflective awareness. However, during sex, unlike driving, you want to immerse your awareness in particulars of the moment. By describing something that's happening or you're imagining you deepen your awareness of it, whether it's simple literal description or fantasy. By telling a person these things we make them aware of what we are aware of in the moment -- we share dirty secrets about what's going on inside us -- and such candor heightens a sense of interpersonal unity. I'd say there's so much dirty talk in porn precisely both because it's a transgressive thrill to hear it and because it's just video and people in the industry know the viewer is aided in projecting themselves into what's on going on in the actor's heads if it's said out loud (granted it's mostly made up, but it doesn't matter).
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Exactly what I was trying to explain to my girlfriend the other night when I took it over the line a little bit while geeked up ~.~With many things in life though you are better off just left with things as nothing more than fantasies...because often if you end up living a fantasy out it ends up not living up to the expectations set in your mind...
 
One of the sexiest things a guy ever said to me was, "On your knees, bitch."

<3
 
One of the hottest things a girl has ever said to me was "So, the broadened iron emission bands are indicative of a black hole due to a core collapse supernova as the terminal product of stellar nuclear fusion is iron, and the emission bands would be broadened due to gravitational redshift on the event horizion"
 
Illyria99 said:
One of the sexiest things a guy ever said to me was, "On your knees, bitch."

<3
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Come to think of it, that would be kind of sexy to hear the right woman say especially dressed the right way ^.^....but I am the kind of guy that feels that if you are doing this kind of thing in a relationship that it should be equal for both parties in more nontraditional sex. So I would want to experience it from her as well in the correct fantasy. Make a relationship equal in all ways...
 
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