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Are Teenage Relationships Just Better? Vs. Puppy Love

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Jimmy_Pop

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There's something that's been on my mind a lot lately.

Namely, the fact that I don't think I've had as much fun or as many memorable moments in any of my 20s relationships, compared to the relationships I had in high school... Especially my first girlfriend.

I dunno what it is, but it's kind of similar to drugs I guess: once that novelty of doing everything for the first time goes, stuff sort of loses its flavor.

When I date girls these days they just don't seem to know me as well, and there aren't those inside jokes...

... Some aspects of getting older really suck.
 
Mmh...I dunno. I'm 19 so I've got no idea what my non-teenage relationships will been like, but so far I have to say I like to believe they'll be better. I've had a few boyfriends, one of whom was an adult so not gonna count it, and one long-term one from when I was 15 to 18. Yeah there were lots of new things, first person I had sex with, first person I fell in love with, etc. but at the same time there was so much stupid teenage drama and so little maturity on both of our parts that I can't help but hope my relationships will be better and more stable in the future.
Maybe your doubts right now can simply be attributed to you not having found a person you properly 'click' with in a while? I doubt you need to give up on adult relationships altogether! :)
 
Teenage relationships are better. Nothing like fucking in your parents' house, having a curfew, and having to be driven everywhere.
 
Ugh, no. Sitting in my BF's room smoking weed and having no money so going nowhere was ok when I was a teenager, but now, no. Just no.

Time to grow up, OP. Life is what you make of it, and if all you can do is think about how great life is as a teenager when you're in your 20s, the girls are likely getting bored. Dating the guy who can talk about nothing except his high school pranks is pretty annoying.
 
^Lysis: tellin it like it is here in SLR since '08.

OP: some background on you might help us too. Hat are you doing with your life since high school? Are you in college? Did you graduate college, if so what kid of degree did you get. Job? Living situation? Hobbies? Dating history?

If you're 23, never went to college, are currently unemployed, live in your parents basement smoking weed all day and playing WoW then yes, high school was probably way better than life is now.

You said that girls now 'just don't know you' and you guys don't have 'inside jokes'. Are you letting these girls know you? And inside jokes come with time. How many girls have you dated since high school, and what was the respective length of each?

We need more info to give decent advice bro.
 
Jimmy_Pop said:
There's something that's been on my mind a lot lately.

Namely, the fact that I don't think I've had as much fun or as many memorable moments in any of my 20s relationships, compared to the relationships I had in high school... Especially my first girlfriend.

I dunno what it is, but it's kind of similar to drugs I guess: once that novelty of doing everything for the first time goes, stuff sort of loses its flavor.

When I date girls these days they just don't seem to know me as well, and there aren't those inside jokes...

... Some aspects of getting older really suck.
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Growing up sucks. :(

I think you might be missing the carefree life of a teenager...I don't blame you, darling.
 
Lol I was just talking to my boyfriend about this. I'm only 22 but I'm done college, working, etc. so I'm done with those teenaged years and whatnot. And I have to say my relationship is FAR better than my relationship with my ex when I was a teenager. I mean, he was a good guy and everything, just not right for me. But when you're a teen, there are so many rules! I mean, living at my parents house, I had a curfew of 11 PM, and I was only allowed to take the car sometimes (which sucked when my then bf didn't drive and he lived 20 mins away and there was no public transit within 2 hrs of me). Having all those rules and stuff ... I dunno. And the money! Money was ALWAYS an issue! I was too poor to do anything. Now, I'm an adult, I have a real job. I don't have a curfew, I can go out whenever I want. I earn money so I don't have to worry about things like that. I have a lot less worries now than I did when I was a teenager. I'm soooo glad to be done with all that lol.
 
i think this probably has to do with looking at the past with rose-tinted sunglasses

i used to hate school, but now I look back at school as if it was the best time of my life

everything in retrospection seems a lot more rosey
 
Jimmy_Pop said:
Namely, the fact that I don't think I've had as much fun or as many memorable moments in any of my 20s relationships, compared to the relationships I had in high school... Especially my first girlfriend.
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There is going to be a point in your life when you look back and realize how childish those relationships really were.
There's nothing you can do about getting old, so the sooner you start to embrace your life in the present, the sooner you'll come to finding a nice relationship with actual substance.
 
Speaking only for myself, a relationship of any kind would've been impossible in my teen years. If I woke up in my first period HS history class tomorrow, I'd blow my brains out by lunch break.
 
Mysterie said:
i think this probably has to do with looking at the past with rose-tinted sunglasses

i used to hate school, but now I look back at school as if it was the best time of my life

everything in retrospection seems a lot more rosey
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Lol, I hated school, and I would HATE to go back. There were good times but I'm so glad it is done. I know so many people who stay in school for like forever and I just can't imagine it. lol I think I'm just more of a realist? I dunno.
 
Well, I think fondly on my teenage relationships because they were exciting, filled with angst, full of new and exciting sensations, etc.

But probably it was just that I had a safety net...I could trust that my parents would rescue me if something really bad happened. There was no pressure because I knew that these relationships were solely for fun and not for forever.

IDK...it seems like the stakes get a little higher when you get out into the "real" world....
 
I hated my high school relationships. I wasn't really part of the "in crowd". I had popular beautiful and frankly pretty amazing girls tell me if I was popular they would date me but we would be strictly friends since that wasn't the case (I don't blame her, I woulda done the same). but as was mentioned rules sucked. generally it wasn't my parents rules but those of my girl. I could pretty much do as I please, I had money, had a car of my own, etc. now I'm broke, got my own vehicle, but enjoying my relationships moreso. the ones I have now seem more deep than what I had in my teens and I'm only 22! I can't wait til late 20s, early 30s when I got my own place, money, AND more experience.
 
When you meet the right girl, trust me--it'll feel like high school all over again! You just haven't met her yet. Be patient. :) Be open.
 
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