SLR Social vs. Hello Nurse

[llama112]

People deal with stress in different ways. Maybe it is true that females are more emotional when they are stressed, but I think it's more about personality. When I was in college, I would be a complete wreck around exam time. I would try to avoid being around my boyfriend, family, friends, etc. though.

It seems like you're comparing her stress to your stress though. You talk about her exams being stressful and then you talk about your really difficult exams plus all these other things being stressful to you. Perhaps it is just how I'm reading it. But just because you're under more stress than she is doesn't mean she's not allowed to be stressed at all.

Honestly, I would say that some people just take out their stress in different ways. Perhaps she needs to find a way to get rid of the stress? A lot of people can relieve their stress by relaxing, going to the gym, and other things. Perhaps she should look into things like that, maybe you could help her with it?

 

[rangrz]

Well, she knows it and agrees, but does not seem able to control it. Which sucks. Like she trolled me *hard* last night. It sucked. It taught me a lesson, cause I was kind of trolling her earlier (but much less severely) and am troll in general. But still, sucks yo...

On a semi-related matter... Does SLR have any suggested strategies for finding partners to join us (male and female) for threesomes and/or BDSM scenes?

@Llama. Well, I compare it to myself, and to others, as way of establishing the expectation value of a reaction to a given stressor. It's sort of like the "reasonable person" test in law, to determine if a reaction to a situation was justified/acceptable or if it was overboard. I've tried to get her to try something like working out, or trolling online, or tumblring for a bit, or something like that. But she just gets so obsessed with studying that she doesn't want to try anything to relax.

 

[Lysis]

Hugs for rangrz.

People deal with stress differently, my friend. I'm like you and don't take it out on my SO, but I can also bitch all day long with coworkers if I want to. I really hate when people take out their bad day on me IRL (online it's ok LOL). My sister can get really bitchy and take things out on other people, and it just plain sucks.

You know she loves you, so after exams are over, she'll probably realize that she's being bitchy and apologize, but right now she's so in the moment and stressed out that she can't think.

Hugs for Ms.G too and hope she does well on her exams.

 

[rangrz]

Thanks Lysis. Yeah, she already said sorry and I guess, sort of said sorry in advanced for the fact it's going to be ongoing for another few weeks.

I think she's extra stressed cause she did badly on a recent Org Chem test, and has another one coming up, plus she has to restudy for a deferred exam that she missed in Dec due to being sick.

It's still, like no fun tho.

On lulzier note: We both have Okcupid accounts, mostly just for the lulz, and I have two gay men hitting on me. One is a tattoo artist (lol) and the other is a Ph.D student doing research on the social aspects of armed conflicts. Then there is the weird gay man who works for the Canadian Security Intelligence Service that I met years ago. He has a boot/uniform/military/police fetish and keeps trying to convince me to come to his place in my duty gear and like let him fawn over me.

wtf...seriously...halp SLR...wat do?

 

[kaywholed]

I made fun of a girl at work, because she was horny and couldn't get her boyfriend to have sex.

 

[kaywholed]

On a semi-related matter... Does SLR have any suggested strategies for finding partners to join us (male and female) for threesomes and/or BDSM scenes?

I will call you next time I am in Toronto. But I might just fight you to the death for Ms G. But I think she would kinda like that.

 

[kaywholed]

Then there is the weird gay man who works for the Canadian Security Intelligence Service that I met years ago. He has a boot/uniform/military/police fetish and keeps trying to convince me to come to his place in my duty gear and like let him fawn over me.

seriously sounds like fucked up Canadian indie art film. very Atom Egoyan

 

[Cohesion]

like let him fawn over me.

If you don't want him let his fetish be his own problem. You are not a social service agency.

What do YOU want?
Do that.

 

[rangrz]

rangrz what do you do exactly, without going into too much detail (self-preservation and all that)? You study particle physics and suit up for trips to Eye-Rack on your time off...? I'm intrigued. a/s/l ?

I'm a student, part time/Doing it while working. Work? I'm an Lieutenant in the Army, I'm an M.P. I do some pretty interesting work, but a lot of boring shit too. Some of the more interesting stuff is like COINT and C.T. work. I'm one of the types who tends to dress up a little more than I really need to... I'll put on the level IIIa body armour, and rifle and helmet and all that just for routine stuff. I like looking bad ass. 25/m/T muthafucking DOT.

Also man if your girl apologises before AND after then, well, count yourself lucky. I've never had a girl apologise to me Once for flipping out at me when in PMS/exam stress/whatever the fuck, so IMO just suck it up and accept that since she knows she has a "problem" she's doing her best. You do your best too to be supportive and put up with her shit, because that's kind of part of the deal.

Yeah, I know. I was just venting cause I needed an outlet, and to be honest. SLR has ALWAYS given me excellent relationship advice, over the course of 5 years. The best advice I've gotten anywhere. Props to the Mods- They are all awesome. Props to all the regular posters too. I hope I've also contributed to this forum and given some people good advice that helped them though a rough spot, or helped them to find the G-spot.

In the meantime, take advantage of her rage - you have a BDSM sub fetish so what better way to let her vent her rage in a positive manner?

I just had a great conversation with her on the phone and basically told her just that. That she can take her stress and all that out me. As long as she makes an effort to try and lay off on the super heavy personal trolling, I'm cool with it....I love way too fucking much for this kind of stuff to be a real, serious issue. It's just short term upset. At the end of the day, to me she is perfect. I wanted her so badly for 5 years before we really had a romantic relationship. We've though SO much together... I met her when I was fresh back from a brutal, ugly deployment. I was totally fucked up in the head. She basically brought me out of that, and got me focused on her. We went though our meth addiction and recovery together. All that kind of shit. So it's a REALLY tight bond we share.

I will call you next time I am in Toronto. But I might just fight you to the death for Ms G. But I think she would kinda like that.

I guess, but I'd rather just skip right to the threesome and the BDSM...I'm sick of fighting.

seriously sounds like fucked up Canadian indie art film. very Atom Egoyan

Yes, this guy is weird. He's doing a Ph.D in Pol Sci and does HUMINT analysis at CSIS. He's a spook. But he's a soft spoken, shy gay, submissive man with a fetish for uniforms. I guess it's no weirder than myself though. If you see me at work, no one would think I'm submissive, or cuddly and affectionate, or for that matter, a BLer. I guess one can't really judge a book by it's cover eh?

If you don't want him let his fetish be his own problem. You are not a social service agency.

What do YOU want?
Do that.

I dunno, he is kind of cool and a very nice and intelligent gentleman. I am not into guys per se. Most certainly not in that way. I'll make out with a guy for the lulz. Or during a threesome, if the girl finds it hot (which Ms.G does) But I don't want to be a fetish object/Dom for this guy. I don't mind hanging out with him tho. How can I ask him to tone it down? I'd like to have a beer with him and talk shop or academia... but not have him grovel on the floor at my boots...

 

[Cohesion]

A beer sounds like a nice time. I vote let him grovel away in a public setting. It's fun to be admired : )

 

[rangrz]

Hmm, maybe I will do it...he's been on my case for MONTHS.

 

[kaywholed]

was talkin with a friend, as part of the convo she said she was lazy and out of shape. i said her shape was perfect (it is, she is lil but hot as fuck)

my friend came over and we got baked.

she helped me make my painters tape christmas tree (yes ghetto tape on a wall in a triangle add 1 christmas ball and call it a tree) bigger (moar branches)

best thing ever.

 

[rangrz]

That sounds like a good idea. I'll take him out a dive, rough bar. Or maybe to the Mess. I think he'd check himself there lol.

My job is a lot of fun. I'm at work right now, but just sitting my in office. (Yes, I get a real office, with a locking door, a big desk with leather on it, one of the green lamps, over stuffed brown leather chairs, the works..I is a supervisor..somehow, someone thought it was a good idea to give *me* that much authority. )

Hmm.. I've been fond of Semtex when I've encountered it overseas. It's great stuff. I can just picture you as like a teen sitting in the basement refluxing glycerine with nitric acid or something like that. You don't have to be into guys for threesome... Could do something like one sucking her breasts while one noms her, or even bangs her with her on top, still access to breasts without man on man contact. Or biting her neck, or sucking fingers/toes (she likes that) etc....if you ever end up in Canada, let me know... you're pretty good lookin so I think she'd be down. Then we can all get high on our choice of chemical and discuss shaped charges and air burst frag vs H.E. cluster munitions for anti personnel use or something.

 

[nooneanymore]

I should have joined the f-ing army. ...now I'm stuck with student loan debt. And it took me forever to find a "real" job.

F the poor choices we make in life.

 

[kaywholed]

I should have joined the f-ing army. ...

yeah but you didn't die in Iraq.

 

[Serotonin101]

two guys enjoying a beer or three and having intelligent conversation. I'm sure you'd be fine.
Just remember the Lube.

fixed.

 

[rangrz]

I love that I understand all of that terminology perfectly. Man my crowning achievement was building a 6" calibre mortar that used a Cyclonite/TATP primary charge as propellant to fire shells made of spray-paint canisters filled with gel silicone and ball bearings. A total bitch to get them evenly distributed, took a fucking week to make the munitions but man oh man was it worth it to see entire trees blasted to pieces by the impact.

That sounds fucking sweet.

But the first time you successfully make nitro and burn-test is equal to losing your virginity in terms of satisfaction and glee. Well when you're 14 it certainly is.

Oh fuck yes it is. I was 16.5 when I joined the Reserves (I went regs at 18, cause you have to be 18 to go regs)

Fuck man, I was in HEAVEN when we got to use the 84mm Carl Gustav, shoot a Eryx anti-tank guided missile, and probably the sweetest thing was the 105mm recoilless rifle. But then on deployment..sweet mother of God...The things you see, it's like having 50 dicks all being brought to climax at once. (These are Iraq, not Afghanistan, but same shit, it illustrates how epic it be. Plus the narrative in the first one is so fucking win it's indescribable.)

Yeah, this is the only gay guy I've met who's overly pushy with the gayness despite knowing I'm straight. But he is very smart, so I'll try the bar thing for sure.

 

[rangrz]

Well, I got wounded by an RPG too, but it was minor enough to treat in theatre with a few weeks of light duties. (Office work, patrolling Kandahar air field inside the wire stuff.) FYI: I got soo lucky from that wound...I had a British M.O. and the first thing he does? I.V. of Diamorphine from the vial. Sweet Jesus have mercy.

Well, essentially, I am ok with it because the Taliban are fucking cunts. So, I was on a check-point detail. At a school, for girls. I'm standing there looking around, and I see this bicycle coming towards us. The guy riding has something weird looking in his hand. I yell stop/khalass/wadrega. Nope. He lifts up the thing. Looks like a water gun... In any case, he won't stop despite my yelling, and despite the obvious signs. Even if he can't understand me cause I said it wrong, if he was not up something fishy, he'd stop when I a soldier holding a rifle pointed at you is yelling. Well, what do I do? I'm sure you already figured that out. *BANG BANG*...*BANG* He goes down like a sack of potatoes, well a sack of potatoes with a gory spray coming out of it. So, now I run up, and make sure he is neutralize (or if not, to start applying first aid and radio for a priority medevac). He's gone...shot though both lungs, heart and one through neck. I investigate the water pistol. Guess what's in it?...A thick, slimly, yellowish liquid with very acrid smell to it...H2SO4. That mother fucker was going to spray sulphuric acid on young girls, because they're getting a fucking education? Fuck him. No remorse at all. As my supervisor at the time said me "Good kill! good kill!" over the radio.

That, had nothing to do with politics or puppet states or natural resources. That was something that needed to be done. Girls deserve the god damned right to go to school. They deserve the right to go outside, alone, or *oh noes* with a boy of their choice. They deserve to feel safe when they do so. If that means I have to go that hell hole, and stand in burning sun and shoot and maybe even get shot. Let's do it. FUCK THAT SHIT man, that's why I fight. IDGAF about the politics. I just want to do my part to give people a chance at having a good life, and not to be maimed or disfigured or killed for learning, or dressing how they want, or loving who they want.

Fuck...this shit really upsets me. I've witnessed this shit go down, and it's awful.
*Removed explicit pictures*
This is why I go. This shit needs to to stop. I managed to stop some of myself, with my rifle. I'm proud of that, and that I saved some innocent people, who where targeted for nothing more than having two X chromosomes, and wanting to learn mathematics, or hold a boys hand, from being maimed and disfigured or killed, justifies it to me.

It's kind of funny tho, that here I am talking about having killed people, and blowing shit up. With no remorse. But in most of my posts, I make geeky jokes about math and physics, and I ramble on about how much I want to squish a cute girl and kiss her all over and have her forever and all that romantic, soft, emo stuff. Oh right, and also about being submissive to that same girl.

It's a juxtaposition is it not...?

 

[kaywholed]

sexytimes thread = ruined by the bomb twins

 

[rangrz]

Ok, ok.

So, I was thinking about how if kaywholed comes to Toronto. Me and Ms.G will set up a BDSM scene. We'll get kaywholed cuffed up and stuff. Ms.G will start playing with a bit, get him into it. Then, out of the closet, comes DeSean, who we hired off craigslist, because we saw his add for a "Stacked, 6'4", and 10 1/2 bbc" then we leave him to place that bbc in kaywholed's cornhole.