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kaywholed, I wish you would use the same awesome moves you pull here IRL. ;) You have a way with words. Even in your PMs, you are such an awesome character. I wish you would find that same charisma IRL.
no practice, always busy with sports, school, work, etc.
failure is less of an option IRL.
 
I tried the Skype nudity thing with my love. It was pretty fun. Dopamine moving around, why not.

Thanks for the encouragement everyone : )
 
I tried the Skype nudity thing with my love. It was pretty fun. Dopamine moving around, why not.

Thanks for the encouragement everyone : )

Good for you! Glad you were able to do it, I bet it was hot!

So last night I was so in the mood but both us us were exhausted. My husband was already snoring, so before I put my earplugs in I woke him up and said, "hey, wake me up in the morning and fuck me, ok?". He mumbled something and drifted back off. However he must have heard me because at four am I was awakened in the best way. Plus, it was extra hot because since I was in a dead sleep I was not dripping wet or anything and the extra friction made it feel incredible. I love being woken up this way.
 
^I love that. My ex used to randomly wake me up in the middle of the night to have sex, I'd be half-asleep, groggy and not quite sure what was going on but it was really hot nonetheless.
 
Yeah, it really is hot.

So last night, after fucking in various positions, he still had not come. I was up by three at that point. When I got back from the bathroom, he was jerking off. Instead of taking over like I normally would, I just put my head down there with my mouth open, and right when he came I plunged his cock into my mouth so he could come in my throat. For some reason it was really a turn on. I have never done that before. I liked it. I think he did, too.

Also, (sorry I have work to do so I am procrastinating on BL and thinking random thoughts from a lot of adderall) I am really excited about my party tomorrow. My husband is a chef and I used to be a major events planner, and this thing is coming together like a champ. We are planning for dinner for 50. When people get there, we will have an incredible crudités display (like multi level), crab/blood orange/phyllo tarts, various crostini, sweet potato and country ham biscuits with apple butter, deviled eggs and some hot dips. Dinner will be carved roast beef, an incredible chicken and sprouted rice/quinoa casserole, a mashed/sweet potato bar, haricot verts with lardon, pasta salad and various other tidbits. Desserts are this delicious trifle, sweet potato cake with cream cheese, Texas sheet cake, pecan tarts.

All of this homemade. It is really going to be incredible.
 
I wonder if they've ever done an fMRI or SPECT experiment to determine what structures of the brain are involved in love (not in lust/sexual arousal, that's been done a lot.) Dunno how to design the experiment tho... I guess stimuli using the sound or picture of someone the subject loves and noting the changes? But that would have confounding variables with memory/recognition of faces/sounds and with sexual arousal.

I guess you could control them by stimuli with other people they know, and find the difference between the two.
 
^^ would also need to measure other physical alterations when "love" is perceived such as redirection of blood flows, levels of certain neurotransmitters, hormone level fluctuations, perspiration levels, even changes in electrolytes levels as I seem to be more prone to excitation (jitters reminiscent of fight or flight) where nerves and neurons are primed so probably sodium and potassium levels are altered to improve electrical signal transmission across synapses. that would be more in relation to an all inclusive study. if one could find a way to make an implantable device for long term use to read the responses that would be neat as that moment of "love" one experiences on the first kiss, first time having sex, etc seems to never be replicated with that partner ever again (at least for me) so one could see how love progresses as well with the same partner(s) and how "in love" they were/are with these partners.
 
I'd speculate it must have been done before now? Not that I've looked for it/seen it anywhere, but I'd be very surprised if it hasn't.
Serotonin, I suppose rangrz meant when the two people are 'in love'. So not the first kiss or anything, I mean it takes a while to fall in love with someone. I feel like before that you'd be studying something else because you're feeling completely different - it's more about the excitement and the novelty etc.
 
Ya, I mean what separates romantic love from familial/platonic/pets type love, and what separates it from being platonic/bro love + sexual attraction?

Re: I think a mix of just fMRI and positron emission tomography and single photon emission computed tomography, with appropriately labelled radio-tracers to trace neurotransmitters. But I don't even that's totally required, fMRI and radio-labelled glucose, the spatial and temporal resolution is decent and by knowing the structures involved, you'll already know the neurotransmitters involved by cross reference in a brain atlas.

Pagey: Yeah, there are some studies on it actually. (LOLOL, and they use the basic methodology I posited as an idea in my first post. Yay science.) It involves very specific paths in the anterior cingulate cortex, and few other places. Notably, the amygdala too, which usually seen as being the anger/aggression/fear/hate centre. The activity in the amygdala is inhibited during stimuli of one's romantic lover, which makes sense. The major neurotransmitters released are oxytocin (we all seen that coming) dopamine (In your face psychedelicfags, it looks like the stimulant chemical is more linked to love than the psychedelic chemical as there was no particular release of 5HT) and vasopressin (lolwut...that one confuse me. also; double in your face psychedelicfags, cause that one is also strongly associated with stimulants :P)

It appears that it is indeed a phenomena that is distinct from other forms of love, and even more distinct/unrelated to sexual arousal/lust. Pretty cool stuff. I'd link, but I looked them up on an intranet/internal network and it won't work if I link it lol.
 
That's quite interesting, especially the activity in the amygdala (curious to know why you said that makes sense? I'm finding it very surprisign haha). I mean they say there's no srtong love without strong hate as well but I doubt that's what this is about ;)
 
It makes sense cause the activity in the amygdala is inhibitory in nature during stimuli regarding/from the person's lover. It makes sense that there would be an inhibition of fear/anxiety/hate/etc involved in romantic love.

It was also interesting to note that romantic love is closer to a "drive" or "urge" (i.e. it's better described as a state of arousal, not sexual arousal, arousal in the more generalized meaning) than it is as emotion.
 
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Ooh okay.
I suppose the fact that it's more of an 'urge' makes it seem like a more primal/animalistic state, which would explain our absolute inability to control it and our feeling that the world is ending when we lose someone we love. I suppose.
I'm going to have to look into this more, it's really interesting.
 
just got some fantastic head :D she almost made me cum and told me that itd have to wait til we have sex. :/
 
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