My Story... Dealing With My BF's First Time Relapse

[Wolfmans_BrothEr]

^^uve never heard that saying "if you truly love something you'll let it go and if they truly love u they'll find their way back"? ...or something along those lines

It seems like you did alot for him, and he's not grateful for it, so make him grateful. "u dnt kno what u got til it's gone" type shit. He WILL eventually realize what he had and will feel like a piece of shit for fucking it up

And mayb it was hard on her but fuck her. I never lied, stole or put my hands on her. I knew for a fact i treated her right bc i kno about her past relationships. Ive treated every girl i was with right. I made it clear that I was going thru a hard time and instead of occasionally asking me how I'm doing with it, offering any sort of real support, she would ignore me and cheat on me. That's not how u help ur addict bf stay sober

 

[keiko14]

^^uve never heard that saying "if you truly love something you'll let it go and if they truly love u they'll find their way back"? ...or something along those lines

It seems like you did alot for him, and he's not grateful for it, so make him grateful. "u dnt kno what u got til it's gone" type shit. He WILL eventually realize what he had and will feel like a piece of shit for fucking it up

Yes, well, I have heard a saying like that. I'd like to think that time heals all. As for your ex, I am sorry to hear that and even though we all make mistakes in life, that is no reason to be mistreated. You do not deserve to be treated poorly just as the next person does not. I hope you are finding the support you need.

 

[Pagey]

keiko, I just wanted to add you seem like a genuinely nice person. Just the amount of sympathy you're showing to addicts in this thread considering all the shit you're having to deal with with your boyfriend & his addiction is really impressive, and I hope that he can see that and you get the recognition you deserve, despite what's been going on.

 

[keiko14]

keiko, I just wanted to add you seem like a genuinely nice person. Just the amount of sympathy you're showing to addicts in this thread considering all the shit you're having to deal with with your boyfriend & his addiction is really impressive, and I hope that he can see that and you get the recognition you deserve, despite what's been going on.

Thank you Pagey, and the same goes for you also. I don't know if BL is the right place for me, someone with very little knowledge about drugs, but I'm glad I found it. I had a very hard day today emotionally, just experiencing the conflict between missing my boyfriend and wanting to call him, but keeping my distance instead- what you wrote cheered me up.

 

[Pagey]

Thank you Pagey, and the same goes for you also. I don't know if BL is the right place for me, someone with very little knowledge about drugs, but I'm glad I found it. I had a very hard day today emotionally, just experiencing the conflict between missing my boyfriend and wanting to call him, but keeping my distance instead- what you wrote cheered me up.

There's actually a surprising number of people on BL who don't know much about drugs either but are here because of family members, friends, etc. As you can see you're not obliged to give people drug-related advice.
I think keeping your distance is probably a good call - do you have a close friend or good support system you can talk to when you're really feeling bad about the situation with your boyfriend?

 

[keiko14]

Thank you Pagey, that is good to hear there is a place for friends and family. Something my boyfriend does not understand is how he is not the only one affected by his using, the problem can seem very self absorbed. I haven't confided in many people in my personal life and my posts here are somewhat 'anonymous', but I do have a best friend who's been very supportive. When I am lying awake at 4am unable to fall asleep, like now, I find myself coming to BL. I feel less lonely here.