sexism- attitudes towards libido and how they influence the opinion of either sex.

[Effuzion]

evidently you don't naturally associate sex with emotions or love, as some people do...but also those who have unresolved emotional problems and often unresolved psychological issues too, therefore no, you cannot understand it.

Also - it's an ego boost for a while, matter or hours or days usually...sometimes months, then you ar still left with an empty hole, which ultimately you cannot fill with anything but yourself.

Myfinalrest - I totally agree with ya brother - great post.

Pretty sure you misunderstood my post. I'm not defending people using other people just for sex. I feel like if you're out just to fuck and have fun, you need to make it clear to the other person before you get involved that that's what you're after.

Also, just because I can talk about sex rationally doesn't mean I don't associate sex with love.

 

[Pagey]

^I dunno, I kinda feel like 'if you're out just to fuck and have fun' it's pretty likely you're gonna go pick someone up in a bar or something, and then if the person you pick up is expecting more than just sex I'd tend to rather blame them....I don't think you'd be leading them on.

 

[Effuzion]

Pagey I get the impression that you'd be really fun to party with. (Seriously. That sounded sarcastic when I read it, but I'm being serious.)

 

[MyFinalRest]

^I dunno, I kinda feel like 'if you're out just to fuck and have fun' it's pretty likely you're gonna go pick someone up in a bar or something, and then if the person you pick up is expecting more than just sex I'd tend to rather blame them....I don't think you'd be leading them on.

That's what I mean about one-nighters and recreational fuckers not having much consideration for other people's feelings. Short of spelling out for somebody directly like "I'm just going home with you tonight and then I never want to see you again and I don't give a shit about you," you are leading someone on if they like you. That would be a pretty cold thing to have to say, but people like this are cold people.

That's the truth of the world of opposite sex interactions. You'll end up leading people on whether you want to or not, and I have never blamed a girl for liking me and wanting more than I would give her. That would be pretty evil.

Be a man or a woman about and take responisbility for the fact that you don't like them. Be thankful someobody liked you - don't trash them over it.

 

[pofacedhoe]

I don't see how sleeping with a bunch of different guys would ever be an ego boost for a woman.

oh dear

with one sentence you've failed to understand the huge similarity between men and women plus individual variance.

some men would find being promiscuous doesn't boost their ego either

the boost in ego is often related to a feature that's attractive. for example if they were really bad personality/looks wise wheres the boost. a boost shag is like a shallow power up in sonic the hedgehog. if your sonic it will work but if you're mario your might need a jump suit with a tail to fly. i digress

 

[Pagey]

Pagey I get the impression that you'd be really fun to party with. (Seriously. That sounded sarcastic when I read it, but I'm being serious.)

Haha well thank you

That's what I mean about one-nighters and recreational fuckers not having much consideration for other people's feelings. Short of spelling out for somebody directly like "I'm just going home with you tonight and then I never want to see you again and I don't give a shit about you," you are leading someone on if they like you. That would be a pretty cold thing to have to say, but people like this are cold people.

That's the truth of the world of opposite sex interactions. You'll end up leading people on whether you want to or not, and I have never blamed a girl for liking me and wanting more than I would give her. That would be pretty evil.

Be a man or a woman about and take responisbility for the fact that you don't like them. Be thankful someobody liked you - don't trash them over it.

What?! How the hell do one-nighters not have much consideration for other people's feelings? I'm sorry but that's complete bullshit and I like to think I'm proof of that myself. It's happened that I've hooked up with someone and wanted more afterwards, but if he didn't then fine, he never lead me on, I never expected it to go anywhere, I just wanted it to. It's my problem and it's not his fault. Same if I do that to someone. I mean come on, if you're gonna have drunken sex with a random person you met an hour ago at a club or something and you then expect them to become your life partner and they say no, are they really the ones being inconsiderate or were you just being naive?
One-night stands are just that, one-night stands. It's delusional to expect more from them and it's certainly not the other person's fault.