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adgjmptw

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Read here- www.google.co.in/gwt/x?client=ms-samsung&gl=IN&u=http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index%3B_ylt%3DAwrBzq8m8.5QpUwAyFHsy6IX%3B_ylv%3D3%3Fqid%3D20130106234630AAyE4G1&ei=JvPuUMqKHoedkgXCroD4BQ&wsc=tb

Additional detail- Yesterday she was using my Facebook account. I'm happy to know that she hasn't forgotten me yet or moved on and I feel weak today as I was hoping she night text me.
 
from that link:
3-4 weeks ago my gf broke up giving some lame reason, although I think she broke because I was getting insecure, possessive about her, (although I trust her), always used to say that we will get married and all. So, when she broke(she said she loves me and wants to stay friends) I made the typical mistake I shouldn't have made that is- begging and pleading to her not to end it. 2 days passed after the break up, I didn't contact her, as my cousin told me not to. Then I get her call, she says she just call like that, no reason, I end up asking her will she meet me the next day(as we decieded she would, when we were togther), she said she can't and all. One day passed, I asked her why she was ignoring me, she says she isn't, then I asked her if its over, she said "idk", then I asked does she want it to? and she said "no", 5 minutes later she calls me and says its over. Two days passed, I get her text at night, we talk, I end up asking her is she undergoing depression (I know dumb, right lol) because she said she was pissed off from life, wished she dies (idk if she was serious or not), she says she doesn't know. Next day I ask her to atleast tell her mom about it, she says I shouldn't put my nose in her life. Next day she texts me a "hi", I didn't reply because I was not happy with her behaviour towards me. Next day I asked her if we could meet the day after, becuase I was going to her city (we lived in different cities, 60 km apart). She said she will try, we met for 10 minutes, as I didnt have much time. Same day in the evening she calls me, says she got selected in an interview and was happy and then she ended the call pretty quickly in 5 minutes. Two days passed I didn't get her text or call, so I texted her asking how she was, the convo lasted only for like 5 minutes. Next day I called her in the morning, she doesn't pick up nor did she call back, so I call her again in the evening, still didn't pick up but returned my call after 30 minutes, then I asked her why she was avoiding me, she said she wasn't and then she why don't I get it that it's over, then I had to end the call for some reason. The same night I was at my friends house, told him about it, he told me text her a long message, asking her if its over, I did and she said it is, so I just said goodbye (on 26th december, it is). I didn't contact her, then I get "happy new year!! :)" text on new years day in evening, I replied after like an hour. That's it and she hasn't contacted me since. Is there any hope left, what should I do? Please help.

P.S. Sorry for the long read.
that was a hard read...

somebody on yahoo answers told you:
In my opinion, if a girl says it's over, then it's over. You should just move on.
in this case, i tend to agree.

alasdair
 
I disagree here, why? Because 2 months ago she did something similar and I didn't care much about it then and we got back together within 2 days because at that time I guess she was the one chasing me.
 
You need to find a hobby and just tell her that you're getting a blow job from <insert her best friend's name here> the next time she contacts you. Guaranteed way to get her to come back.
 
You need to find a hobby and just tell her that you're getting a blow job from <insert her best friend's name here> the next time she contacts you. Guaranteed way to get her to come back.
lol

How old are the two of you? I don't think you should stick around and wait for her to make up her mind. It would honestly be so much easier if you started moving on rather than clinging to a last hope when she changes her mind every two minutes. Understand it as it's really over for now, start getting on with your life without her and if one day she's sure she does want back in, then you can deal with it then - but waiting for her to make up her mind is just going to hurt you even more.
I would also suggest you work on the stuff that made you 'possessive' (your words, not mine) because that would definitely help you in your future relationships. It sounds like being single for a bit and working on yourself really might not do you any harm in the long run :)
 
Lol I can tell you that she was really very jealous of her best friend(hottest chick of the school) because she used to talk about me a lot to her. Then she just created a difference between us, I didn't really care about it, when I think about it now, I realise she was the one controlling the relationship. And we're both 17 to answer the other guy.
 
Lol I can tell you that she was really very jealous of her best friend(hottest chick of the school) because she used to talk about me a lot to her. Then she just created a difference between us, I didn't really care about it, when I think about it now, I realise she was the one controlling the relationship. And we're both 17 to answer the other guy.

To answer the other GIRL :)

Yeah I know a lot of people who acted like the two of you did around that age...not that I'm that far from it myself. I know when I was 17 I was considerably more clingy in my relationships than I am now a couple years later. Anyway my previous advice still stands.
 
Oops! Sorry :P
Right now I feel as if I'll forget her and move on but this thing has happened a couple of times to me and I end up getting sad and missing her in 2 days.
 
Dyou mean in general you always end up missing an ex after two days or are you referring specifically to her?
In any case it's perfectly normal to miss her after a break-up, I mean it is painful to end a relationship - but it does sound like your relationship wasn't the healthiest or happiest one and I do honestly think it'll do you good to be single for a bit. It's very often tough and depressing at first but you'll start to feel better soon enough, don't worry. You can't judge whether or not you'll miss her in the long term based on the first few days though.
In any case, I don't think you should try and hold on to her anymore...it's really not cool of her to bring your hopes up every other day and then just say no :\
 
Reading that was a major whipping. She probably sent a mass text and that was the message to more than one person. You should leave it alone. She said it was over, man. Fuck it.
 
I disagree here, why? Because 2 months ago she did something similar and I didn't care much about it then and we got back together within 2 days because at that time I guess she was the one chasing me.
Maybe you disagree because you are seeing what you want to see.
 
It's over.

Don't be the co-dependent cringeworthy guy, trust me, I been him years ago, I feel your pain - just learn, find yourself a fuck buddy or drinking buddy quick, and move on.

I echo the suggestions about working on yourself - make yourself strong, confident, independent, and someone with a passion in life - this will attract no shortage of gorgeous women, it's a beautiful process.
 
It's over.

Don't be the co-dependent cringeworthy guy, trust me, I been him years ago, I feel your pain - just learn, find yourself a fuck buddy or drinking buddy quick, and move on.

I echo the suggestions about working on yourself - make yourself strong, confident, independent, and someone with a passion in life - this will attract no shortage of gorgeous women, it's a beautiful process.

such good advice.

either way if you move on and make yourself seem more happy and like you've moved on it takes the power out of her hands and puts the two of you on even ground.

the best revenge is being someone that she missed out on who is happy and has options of their own in life
 
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