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Yes I totally have invited him to hang with these people, repeatedly. Most of them are ok with him, but the guy hosting the new years party has social anxiety and Rangrz didn't make a good first impression last year on new years. (I don't know WHY the host found him sketchy, but its his party and he has the right to invite who he wants). I admit I did the wrong thing by going without my fiance, but I have invited to mostly everything else.
 
rangrz said:
Hey SLR: I've got a question. So, Ms.G is currently hanging out with her EX, the one right before me. She insists on doing so, and I don't think it's cool. It trips me out, particularly since the fellow assaulted me about a month and a half ago. Not to mention some other things that happened due to her hanging with him. So, I'm going to ask SLR (and show her) does SLR think it's cool or acceptable behaviour on her part?
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Aw man I like both you guys! I hate taking sides when it's between two friends (even online :p ).

I don't think I would do it, but it would be really hard to avoid someone if he/she was my friend for a long while. I understand what you're getting at though. The Ms Monogamy in me would tell the BF that he's free to go out with the ex, but I'm going out with some boys too then. :D


ETA: Man I have my own little love octagon going on. Went out last night with work people again, had a blast as usual, but this dude and me have a really strong connection and it's testing me. I told him I refuse to be #2 to some other chick in the office, and he's dumped her, so now he's all like "OK...you're #1..when are we hooking up?" LOL I really wasn't expecting *that* to happen.
 
rangrz said:
Except that you banged him the night he assaulted me, and made out with him one time after that. Made out with a stranger on your birthday at a club which you diddnt invite me to, and made out with someone on New Years at the same party you went to when I wasn't invited, after you made a point to promise you wouldn't do so, and indeed promised you'd only stay half an hour but slept there.

Also you left me alone in a cold office right after he assaulted me, and you threw my medicine on a roof. Then the next morning went to hang out with someone else (and again, diddnt behave yourself w him either.)

Sorry to bring personal drama into SLR like this, but I'm just seeking some suggestions on how to put this stuff in the past and improve my relationship.
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You really really brought other people into this huh.

I wouldn't say he assaulted you anymore than you assaulted Ms G - you were restrained, in his defence of her. It's fair enough. And if he doesn't like you yet, well, just wait until he does by showing him and other people how friendly you really are.

I think you need to man up and accept she is going to have friends you don't get on with. Why is it exactly other than the restraint that you don't like him? As I think this is actually either your problem with yourself, but one you see in him, or there is actually something truly deviant about him...which I doubt because she wants to be friends with him (Ms G-AK - are you under this wizard friend's evil spell?)
 
Lysis said:
ETA: Man I have my own little love octagon going on. Went out last night with work people again, had a blast as usual, but this dude and me have a really strong connection and it's testing me. I told him I refuse to be #2 to some other chick in the office, and he's dumped her, so now he's all like "OK...you're #1..when are we hooking up?" LOL I really wasn't expecting *that* to happen.
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Beautiful! That feels nice :)

Sorry if I missed something but what about the single dad (I don't know how else to describe him) ?
 
I still see him. It's why I haven't done anything with this guy. It's two different types of guys. One wants to have fun and the other wants to settle down. Kinda hard to decide which way I'm going so all I have is slr to vent. I have to decide because I know I can't string them both around forever.
 
@B1tO'Rough: he is a wizard, but I am not entranced by him. He's legitimately a friend from a long time (has been friends with my brother since grade 5).
He does have a rap sheet apparently, but has never done anything remotely threatening to me or my family. I am also friends with his older brother, and we have a bunch of mutual friends.
 
Well, roughjack. The assault was still not justified. I.e. I was using force inline with the criminal code of Canada. He then used it to interfere with self defense from an unprovoked assault. Not unlike jumping a police office or security officer while they're trying to effect an arrest.
 
the way drunk people react is going to be entirely different than the way trained professionals act in a situation like that. alcohol fucks things up like that.
 
yeah but you have to think laterally mate - how do you know he DIDN'T think you were going to smash her back?
rangrz said:
Well, roughjack. The assault was still not justified. I.e. I was using force inline with the criminal code of Canada. He then used it to interfere with self defense from an unprovoked assault. Not unlike jumping a police office or security officer while they're trying to effect an arrest.
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Serotonin101 said:
tis why I personally don't do "open" type relationships. the rules of who's off limits, stipulations of when its okay, etc. plus I'd get jealous as a motherfucker if I knew someone was mackin on my girl. probably bury his ass in a hole later that night...
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That is the kicker when you enter into an open relationship, at some point one of the couple will become attached and jealous. It's annoying when it's the other person, horribly heartbreaking when it is you.
 
rangrz said:
I wasn't drunk, and I am a trained professional. He was, but that does not remove culpability.
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i am aware that you know what you are doing. i doubt the other guy is also trained in restraints or was able to predict/know how you were responding. he saw you raise a hand and made a split second decision to step in.

and i assumed if your woman was wasted, everyone else was most likely drinking too. if you combine alcohol with violence and strong emotions, it isn't going to turn out well. let alone it playing out in a logical fashion.
 
Whatever. This whole situation is bullshit. This guy assaulted me for no reason which would one could raise a legitimate defense to in court. I don't think it's all that cool for her to go hanging around with this guy. (Not just cause he's her ex, his record is quite disturbing.)

"she blinded me with science"
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Lol. I'd like to see her try to best me at QFT.
 
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