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Borrrrrrrrrrrrrrreddddaaah!

God dammit tomorrow starts a full 5 days of work. Back from last month after never working a full week in weeks. I think I've read every Lounge and SLR thread on the first page. After the scroll, forget it, I'm not reading.

I guess I have to be all "officially on topic and shit" and say I shall have sexual relations tonight even if I must..... ooops, not the Lounge.
 
I just took a glance ^ saw nothing wrong with it so far, will give it a deeper look.

I didn't see anything NEGATIVE in a sociopathic way - I saw some manipulation,s but fuck it dude this is advice for people who are totally shit with women, they will of course act normal once they are in the swing of things, but to start with it's nice to have "dating for dummies" and "dating 101" unless your father/uncle taught you how to pick up women...and I see more and more young men who haven't had this guidance...it's not instinctive for everyone anymore - this is an extremely backwards society we live in - constant fuckery.
 
Kay so I got the courage to ask that guy I was talking about out and he said yeah, so thanks for the advice people =D so we're seeing each other 'some time soon' (my words) normally. Gneheheheheh =D

He sent me a kinda cryptic message afterwards; after he said yes I said something like 'awesome, I'll text you in the next few days then?' to which he replied 'we'll see ;)', I asked for an explanation and he just said 'cryptic message ;)'. So I dunno what that means. But I figure it can't be bad.

I'll stop talking now.
 
Hey SLR: I've got a question. So, Ms.G is currently hanging out with her EX, the one right before me. She insists on doing so, and I don't think it's cool. It trips me out, particularly since the fellow assaulted me about a month and a half ago. Not to mention some other things that happened due to her hanging with him. So, I'm going to ask SLR (and show her) does SLR think it's cool or acceptable behaviour on her part?
 
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Hey SLR: I've got a question. So, Ms.G is currently hanging out with her EX, the one right before me. She insists on doing so, and I don't think it's cool. It trips me out, particularly since the fellow assaulted me about a month and a half ago. Not to mention some other things that happened due to her hanging with him. So, I'm going to ask SLR (and show her) does SLR think it's cool or acceptable behaviour on her part?
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I vote no, its not ok. my ex fiance (when her and I tried again) wanted to hang out with an ex while we were together (he was my childhood best friend). within a week after her and I broke up she was banging him again. if she asked to hangout with him AND you (like you join her hanging out with a group a friends the ex happens to be a part of) I'd be cool with that. my 2ml...
 
rangrz said:
Hey SLR: I've got a question. So, Ms.G is currently hanging out with her EX, the one right before me. She insists on doing so, and I don't think it's cool. It trips me out, particularly since the fellow assaulted me about a month and a half ago. Not to mention some other things that happened due to her hanging with him. So, I'm going to ask SLR (and show her) does SLR think it's cool or acceptable behaviour on her part?
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completely unacceptable, only because he assaulted you a month and a half ago. What is her problem? This guy is obviously a nut. How did you provoke him btw? ;) I can understand how less evolved characters than you or I might easily take offence at the way you wangle words into a confusing web of trickery and ridicule, and decide that it's not use trying to string more than a few syllables together, but give you a good hiding instead.

I like that you show her what's on BL. That's a nice relationship. She's really not being cool at all...why didn't you make a thread about this, incidentally?
 
rangrz, i don't think you can stop her from spending time with a person. you can either have her tell you what is going on like she currently is or start sneaking around behind your back. maybe you can compromise about how she spends time with this person. like she and him can't hang out unless there are some other mutual (you and her) friends around.
 
I agree, animal cookie, and we actually talked about exactly that today. I'm not going to start sneeking around though, I'll continue to be honest. As for the assault, this is what happened: I assaulted Rangrz, (repeatedly) then he restrained me, then the other dude put him in a head lock. I really don't think he meant to do any harm, he just reacted to what he percieved was happening, I.E. That rangrz was going to hit me back.

As for banging him or whatever, I have made it readily apparent to this ex-bf that we will not be hooking up anymore, and even hung out with him on new years while drunk as fuck and still nothing happened.

I know it's not an ideal situation but I have been friends with this guy since before I met rangrz and don't want to give up the friendship. I really hope we can work through this.
 
@Jack: He assaulted me after an incident where Ms.G was drunk and acting a fool and she hit me, I stepped back. She hit me again, I stepped back again. She hit me a third time, I stepped back again and was against a wall. She was going to hit me a fourth time, and I grabbed her arm and placed it into a lock. Proper self defense as I've been taught at work in a way that did not injure or harm her. (She had given me a bloody nose at this point). Then he tries to choke me and screams some shit at me.

@animal. Well, we don't share a lot of mutual friends, although I want us to make some. I'd be ok with that, or if she invited me with her.
 
As for banging him or whatever, I have made it readily apparent to this ex-bf that we will not be hooking up anymore, and
even hung out with him on new years
while drunk as fuck and still nothing
happened.
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Except that you banged him the night he assaulted me, and made out with him one time after that. Made out with a stranger on your birthday at a club which you diddnt invite me to, and made out with someone on New Years at the same party you went to when I wasn't invited, after you made a point to promise you wouldn't do so, and indeed promised you'd only stay half an hour but slept there.

Also you left me alone in a cold office right after he assaulted me, and you threw my medicine on a roof. Then the next morning went to hang out with someone else (and again, diddnt behave yourself w him either.)

Sorry to bring personal drama into SLR like this, but I'm just seeking some suggestions on how to put this stuff in the past and improve my relationship.
 
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B1tO'RoughJack said:
^niiiiiiiiiiiice one. =D
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tackyspiral said:
^ winky faces in that context i think can be taken as flirty.... good sign
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That's what I figured :D

rangrz said:
Hey SLR: I've got a question. So, Ms.G is currently hanging out with her EX, the one right before me. She insists on doing so, and I don't think it's cool. It trips me out, particularly since the fellow assaulted me about a month and a half ago. Not to mention some other things that happened due to her hanging with him. So, I'm going to ask SLR (and show her) does SLR think it's cool or acceptable behaviour on her part?
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Yeaah I wouldn't be thrilled if I were in your spot...but you know, communication is key. I agree with what animal_cookie said. I hope something will work out.
 
akautonomics said:
I know it's not an ideal situation but I have been friends with this guy since before I met rangrz and don't want to give up the friendship. I really hope we can work through this.
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have you invited rangrz out with you guys? my husband had no desire to spend time with my friend so that wasn't really an option. altho we did all play board games over thanksgiving without anyone getting pissy at each other which i thought was amazing.

rangrz, it seems like you are feeling left out. is there a reason why you weren't invited to to these parties? also, i thought you had a bit of an open relationship?

how you feel if your fiancee told you that she didn't want you hanging out with some one you consider a good friend (that she doesn't like)?
 
I wasn't invited because the host "thinks I'm sketchy." and no, she has not invited me to hang together.

It's not really that open anymore. Was before, but amongst other things, she doesn't want to let me do stuff w other girls, so I'm not going to go for her doing stuff if I can't. (Buy we agreed its ok if it's something we do together or if we meet the people together freshly and not carry over old partners)
 
tis why I personally don't do "open" type relationships. the rules of who's off limits, stipulations of when its okay, etc. plus I'd get jealous as a motherfucker if I knew someone was mackin on my girl. probably bury his ass in a hole later that night...
 
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