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Relationship just got ended by my girlfriend

Thanks for the support here.

As I posted earlier, we work together in the same office.

Just a quick update - So, she started to chat with me asking back her loaned DVDs to me at work.
Then later, she started asking me some work relelated questions regarding her computer. But her chats ended with smileys...But no personal related stuff.
And then right when I left, I gave back her DVDs and she looked at me sort of with a smile.
I even wished her a Happy New Year and wrote thanks the same to u.

So, basically, when we broke up, she tells me that I always cancelled our dates, which is true. Shes right. I am the one to blame here.
But if she loved me so much, then why the heck she did not give me another chance??? I just told explained to her that I was tired and needed to spend some time alone.
But if someone really loves each other, then at least they could of understood this.

Thanks
 
Not to be mean but did she say she loved you that much? You need to consider your relationship only lasted 3 months, which isn't a very long time. If she didn't feel like you wanted to see her or were taking care of her in those 3 months she probably didn't imagine that would ever change and preferred to get out of it before becoming too attached, which I understand honestly.
I think you should jsut be cool with her in the meantime, don't push it, don't pressure her.

I also wouldn't read too much into things like smileys or her smiling at you...in the interest of not getting your hopes up wrongly :\
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
You guys were never in love,
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I second this.

If it wasn't true then you'd realize that 3 little months in terms of being in a committed relationship with someone is nothing. Just be glad that your lives weren't that intertwined and that you didn't make the mistake of making major life changes for someone... and then having the relationship not work out.
 
Would there ever a chance that she might start something up again with me?? Or never?
I try not to be emotional at work.

But its strange. Now I realize, that when I was with her, all I needed the most was sexual contact with her. But now that we broke up, I feel the need to be at least good friends with her. Im even scared that she will not be my friend...
 
We can't really tell you whether or not she might want to give you another chance...unfortunately you're just gonna have to be patient and see how it goes, there isn't much else to do. If you really need to know now maybe you could try asking a friend of hers but she'll probably end up hearing about it and I don't know whether or not she'd like that.
 
drfeelgood1 said:
Would there ever a chance that she might start something up again with me?? Or never?
I try not to be emotional at work.

But its strange. Now I realize, that when I was with her, all I needed the most was sexual contact with her. But now that we broke up, I feel the need to be at least good friends with her. Im even scared that she will not be my friend...
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friends and lovers. Take a couple of weeks, then ask her if she wants to be your best friend, as you loved hanging out with her on so many levels, and you'd liketo continue to be her lover (iif the sex was actually something special, otherwise I would personally drop it...much better to practice sexual restraint or masturbate tantric-style, than have unsatisfying sex).

I did this 3 years ago, and we have been sleeping together ever since. You want something? Ask for it at the right time. The fact you are confident and assertive enough to ask for exactly what you want, will be very attractive for you. Practice it.
 
I think there's a better chance that she would open up because you guys weren't together for that long.

The relationship ended before it got started.

And the last thing is that you know she was into you because she gave you a chance in the first place.
 
Ok, an update --- well, she was really really sick at work this week and she had to go home early, and today, I sent her a text message to ask her how she is feeling but no response. No "thanks, Im OK" or anything like that.
Also this morning, I ask her the same thing via Skype, no answer.
I guess she did not love me enough to be also my friend.

At least a good friend will reply saying that their OK.

EDIT >>> She finally responded and wrote Thanks and she is going to the dr.

But what the "y" mean in SMS or Skype messages? She wrote "Thanks and y"
 
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To be perfectly frank I think you're just finding excuses to continue talking to her...which is normal, but not a good idea. You really need to cut contact for a while, let her get her own space. As I mentioned before, she can only miss you if you're not there.
 
Drfeelgood, I know it sucks but she's showing signs of needing her space. If she is sick then she probably doesn't have a whole lot of patience to deal with the relationship stuff. Just leave her be and talk to her in a few weeks.
 
U guys are right, I give up. Time will tell. She probably met someone before we broke up.
Oh well, life goes on. people come and go....

Thanks for the support to all. I will update u guys in 2 months.
 
keep pursuing, women like it. If you're good looking they'll think you care and are a good person, if you're not, then they'll think you're creepy.

either way, its a win-win.
 
Fkin great ...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OQ9h16pTAs
I got a girl
A man's best friend
I'd have her now
If she'd just come back again
But she left me in the fall
Told me that I treat her like a dog

Last time that I saw her
She was burying a bone
I'm tired of whistlin for her
and I'm going back home
 
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Hi everyone!

Yesterday my girlfriend showed up to my house telling me that our 3 months relationship is over.
But it was my fault. I did not spend enough time with her even during my 2 weeks of vacation from work.
But I said to her that I will change and I will show it to her that I will, and this did not work.
I met each other at work. Same office.

Ok, yes!!!! Its completely MY FAULT and this was very very naughty of me. We spent time together at her house and I even cooked for her, treated her to restaurants and stuff. But now its over thanks to me...

Is there any chance I can get her back?

Many online advises say that I should not be emotional esp. in front of her.

Last week before she got out of town, she was cleaning her house and I even helped her. At that point, I suspected something was wrong. And she got a new phone and new notebook, which tells me that she wanted a clean fresh start.

Anyways, I told her to give a chance and I will show it that Im a new person and will not treat the way that she was treated. But she refused.

Im very much in denial...And I should be. But is there a few tricks on winning her back at all?

Thx

We should get a MEGA merged breakup thread here in SLR for all of us heart broken fucks...

Is there any chance you can get her back? Yes, there's almost always a chance. The real question is should you try to win her back.

Tips for winning her back? Honestly it depends on the type of gal she is but usually having sex with women more attractive than herself and generally carrying on in a successful manner that makes her think, "Why did I ever leave him? I want him back!"

Ironically that often involves fucking her friends and other 'primal' shit that is oh so human.

Good luck deciding on a course of action!
 
From now and then, we chat on Skype. One day she asked me what should she cook? And the rest was work related. Maybe shes stressed out at work. But do u guys think that I wasn't attractive to her anymore after 3 months period? If I am not attractive, then why did she have sex with me within the 3 month period or hang out with me?

The truth is, that I want her back for the sex....(even though she is a bit on the chubby side) and not for the relationship. I don't like to really hangout and go to places since I am a "sit home" guy..

My "hunch" is that she is probably seeing this one dude at our office....But I try to focus on work and not on her.
 
well man, first, i would think about the reasons why you didn't make more of an effort to see her despite your busy work schedule. i mean, what does that really say about your true feelings for her and about your relationship? i know personally, even if i'm completely exhausted from tending to my obligations, if i really want to see someone because they mean so much to me, i damn well make the time. most people i know are like that. what's the real reason you couldn't be bothered?

second, i would just be patient if you decide you just made a mistake in not making her more of a priority. think of ways you made her feel like she wasn't special or wasn't important, and slowly (but not overbearingly) do things that convey how much she means to you. as for what those things are, you're going to have to play it by ear and think of what makes her feel special/loved.
 
Well, in theory, that means I dumped her....Because I wasn't that even attractive to her in the first place. It was all about ego and sex (which I had none of that in a very very long time)...So which would explain the other reason why I wanted to be alone.

So I was desperate.

So what tricks can I do here??? Should I still chat with her? Should I ask her that we can walk home together after work?
I'm lost here.
 
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