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making the 'first move'

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since most of us are grownups now things have kind of changed since the days having to sit boy girl in class.

i'm in a posistion where this hotchick things i'm cute, my friends hotgirlfriend hooked me up with this chick.
anyways, we all smoke weed, and you know sometimes when you smoke you try to carry on a 'normal' conversation..?shit don't happen lol.

so,what i'm asking is are some good ways to 'connect' with her?

I'm not trying to be all about wanting to fuck her, i want to mainly shoot the shit,get to know her(and then fuck:)).

maybe it's because everyone is stoned in the room? never met her sober..

lol thanks,drew

PS:i'm trying to avoid making things akward..like no one talking after i asked a question or something.
 
Perhaps you should try hanging out while sober. Or at least start out that way to get a conversation going and then smoke.

that doesn't sound like a bad idea.. i have anxiety(im sure like everyother dude around a hotchick), and forget what to talk to her about. like mind goes blank. and i've yet to see her sober.
 
I have no idea how stoners do it. I can't have a conversation either. I get really quiet, actually. Any way you can get her alone? What men have done for me is ask me a lot of questions even with people in the room. I guess they say "fuck it." LOL
 
I would definitely see her sober. If that seems too intimidating at first, you could ask to go out with her and your friend/his girlfriend but speak to her primarily and break the conversational ice - although hopefully getting stoned together will have already done that. It's cool that your friend's girlfriend knows her because that means you could get some 'inside info' - you could ask her what this girls' interests etc. are. Or you can just ask that girl straight on. But sharing interests is definitely a good way to start if by any chance the two of you have something in common. And if that goes well, then ask her out alone or something :)
 
Invite her to go for a blunt with you in private. Find somewhere that has a nice view, get ripped & watch the sun go down. You will find shit to chat about & If the vibe is there then let her know your interested. Just keep it simple & what happens happens.
 
Invite her to go for a blunt with you in private. Find somewhere that has a nice view, get ripped & watch the sun go down. You will find shit to chat about & If the vibe is there then let her know your interested. Just keep it simple & what happens happens.

I agree. If you two are alone and both feeling good and chill, conversation will progress naturally. If it doesn't, then maybe the chemistry isn't right.
 
You could just be honest and tell her she makes you nervous, but do it gracefully lol. She will most likely be flattered since she thinks you're cute and that way it will be out in the open that the interest is mutual.. maybe shes just as nervous as you are! Seems kinda dorky but its worth a shot if you're willing to take that approach.
 
Definitely hang out with her sober. Invite her on a date, where you aren't forced to talk all the time. Like go DO something. And then maybe grab a bite to eat afterwards so you can talk, but the pressure is off because you've already hung out with each other a bit.
 
I also strongly suggest being sober when you do meet. Come prepared to blaze but don't turn up ripped off your tits.
 
how has no one suggested shotgunning a hit to her??? especially if you got decent technique (I personally do, I've had girls get shotguns from me while their guy was there just cuz of my technique, not tooting my own horn). if you get the timing and technique right, she'll want another. then as your getting close to exhaling all the smoke, gently pull her in for a kiss and finish the shotgun. worked everytime for me :)
 
^Oh my goodness yes! There's something strangely erotic about shotgunning. As a female I can tell you if a guy I like does that to me I will absolutely want to kiss him ;)
 
Meet her sober. I have never liked a chick I've met while she was high, and even the girl I am madly in love with frankly is off-putting and irritates the shit out of me high. Extending this to another arbitrary person (in this case her) could very be well valid, and perhaps being sober may make a better impression.
 
how has no one suggested shotgunning a hit to her??? especially if you got decent technique (I personally do, I've had girls get shotguns from me while their guy was there just cuz of my technique, not tooting my own horn). if you get the timing and technique right, she'll want another. then as your getting close to exhaling all the smoke, gently pull her in for a kiss and finish the shotgun. worked everytime for me :)


oooooh yeah! From a girl's angle, you know how you let a guy know you're game? Do a blow job shot from his crotch.
 
oooooh yeah! From a girl's angle, you know how you let a guy know you're game? Do a blow job shot from his crotch.

I never make a move unless the girl gives me an actual blowjob first... I'm always on the fence otherwise.
 
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