What Is The (Your) Key(s) To Happiness?

Vaya

Bluelight Crew
Joined
Aug 5, 2003
Messages
6,257
Location
606-668 THz
Happiness.

We all seek it. Yet, when we experience happiness, it oftentimes seems fleeting.

And so I ask, what makes you happy?
What (if any) work goes into seeking it? Achieving it? Maintaining it?

Is happiness, in fact, something that can be "maintained"?
 
I can see this thread becoming a big source for motivation :)

I don't think happiness is a maintainable state; I think by definition it's more a description of a short moment or emotion, and 'happiness' on the long term is more like...contentment or something.
I think the thing that makes me the happiest is knowing that I'm fulfilling my potential and getting a pride of myself out of that. Mostly I feel that way when I've gotten a lot of work done, done a lot of my personal writing, learned something new on guitar...anything creative or education-related usually. So I do those things to achieve that state - or rather, it so happens that when I do them that's how I'm rewarded, because I don't do them consciously to be happy. If that makes sense.
 
I think I'm starting to discover that the true keys to my happiness are learning and change. If I'm not actively learning something or doing the same thing day in and day out, I will inevitably become extremely depressed. I found this out the hard way after a couple year period where I just worked and came home and watched TV. On my days off I usually just watched more TV and totally cut myself off from most social interaction. I fell into such a huge hole and am still working at recovering from that but at least I did learn from it.

My cat does a good job of making me happy too.
 
My hamster. My boyfriend. My family. Animals in general. Drugs. Work (yes, I actually love my work).
 
Acceptance of what is.

Change.

Connection: With people, with nature, with animals and with beauty wherever I find it.

Gratitude for life. Messy, unpredictable, intense, magnificent life.

Art and all the freedom it offers.

Choosing happiness and recognizing that it is a choice. (Thank you, Michael.;) )

great thread, Vaya.<3
 
I agree with pagey. happiness is like the peak of a high. otherwise I float about freely in contentment and satisfaction. accomplishments, friendship, and NA are the mediums that I use to attain moments of happiness. but for me self acceptance was key to finally obtaining happiness. without self acceptance I could be very content but I was never experiencing happiness.
 
Happiness.

We all seek it. Yet, when we experience happiness, it oftentimes seems fleeting.

This could easily be explained in two ways; it is not real, or it is real, but nothing is eternal.

Then that would bring into question, if there is nothing that is eternal, or if the only thing that is eternal is nothing itself.
 
I think I'm starting to discover that the true keys to my happiness are learning and change. If I'm not actively learning something or doing the same thing day in and day out, I will inevitably become extremely depressed. I found this out the hard way after a couple year period where I just worked and came home and watched TV. On my days off I usually just watched more TV and totally cut myself off from most social interaction. I fell into such a huge hole and am still working at recovering from that but at least I did learn from it.

Agree. Feeling stuck is the worst thing going for me. If not moving forward even staying the same place seems like lost opportunity and a backwards step. Embracing change and desiring it is important if we're to grow as human beings but difficult in that we do tend to find it hard breaking out of our comfort zones and making the sustained effort required to master something new in an uncertain world.

Connection: With people, with nature, with animals and with beauty wherever I find it.

Absolutely. The connection with other human beings particularly vital, we're social animals. Websites like this have been a life-saver when human contact IRL was not so readily available. Other sources of truth, joy and beauty of infinite value for the times when we're alone with only our own thoughts for company, something that can outweigh any tendency towards negativity.

Self-acceptance and self-forgiveness seems key. Certainly difficult to maintain happiness without them, guilt and self-loathing are destructive to the point of being deadly. Hard won and have to be actively strived for I find, it's about learning new patterns of thought and new ways to relate to ourselves, our past, our relationships and our place in the world but rewarding of the effort required.
 
I don't mean to go against the grain, but my goal in life is not happiness, it's peace. It seems like happiness comes and goes but peace is something that can be maintained.

One thing I focus on for peace is my health, and that includes knowing when to do psychedelics during times when they'd be good for my mind. Nutrition, having a balance between social time and rest time, and working towards achievements are the ways I feel good about being alive.
 
^The older i get the more the line between peace and happiness blurs and the more happiness floods right into bliss. I never would have expected this but it is my experience.<3
 
The only true happiness I find is opiates. After a 10 year addiction to opiates I am on day 10 with no opiates and I have been trying to find something that makes me even slightly happy. I have had no luck. I know it's not the right way to think but I fear I won't find happiness without a relapse. I hope I'm wrong...
 
^Congrats on the 10 days, that's something you should be very proud of! :)

You'll find what makes you happy, just keep trying different things and it'll come to you. <3
 
My loved ones, pets, small things. Small things are big for me. A day at the zoo, making somebody smile, meeting new people, just all these little things make me enjoy life. Realizing happiness is indeed a choice, being on a successful path in life, being healthy and making smart decisions. I mean last year I was suicidal but now I really love life.
 
It can take a while Lilunwell. I had a daily H habit for seven years, a user for ten. Real emotions return pretty quickly but often they're negative ones to begin with moving out of withdrawal and can be difficult to deal with this sudden emotional flux cos you've been used to medicating them away and your brain chemistry's all out of whack. They'll settle down as your brain adjusts and you'll get better at dealing with them but important not to use at all, not even the odd chip here and there cos that will interfere with the recovery. The upside is that when you do experience happiness and joy the emotion will be real and feels so much more genuine and rewarding than the euphoria you get from pills and powders. Stick with it, things can improve real quick if you let them and just. don't. use. ;)

Huge congrats on day 10 BTW. That's a real achievement even getting that far after using so long. Should be pleased with yourself. Best of luck! :)
 
Def agree w/ learning.
Creating. Time outside in the woods or mountains, at the beach, just engaging w/ the natural world.
Babies. My kids, who aren't kids anymore. Dogs. Books, music, art.
But the big ones for me are a bit of quiet alone time each day, breathing into the bottom of my lungs, and intentionally smiling even if I don't feel like it. My sad face makes my head hurt.
-izzy
 
The intention, for me, behind the creation of this thread is an inquiry into happiness as it is perceived - and conceptualized - in modern society today.

The number one contender in my life is social interaction (there's no happenstance, IMO, in the rapid upsurge in Internet message board popularity - not to mention the social networking phenomena we've seen explode in the past 7-10 years!! *cough*BluelightFTW*cough* =D).

I was also influenced by documentaries such as as Happy and, even more so, the documentary This Emotional Life.

In each documentary, the key to pervasive (though somewhat inconsistent, as per the human condition) happiness in one's life is a solid social network. We evolved according to the principles of living within cooperative groups, mating with partners who feel the same about us as we do about them, and thriving in the context of engaging life amongst others who have interests similar to our own.

In short, my family, friends and professional/social networks are what make me the most happy in life, despite times of great duress and disparity. My relationships with animals, namely my beloved cat Omar and former feline sidekick Princess, continue to perform wonders for my inner spiritual contentment when human interaction becomes, for whatever reason, elusive or temporarily impossible.

But they can never substitute for the intrinsic power of the human connection.

I believe that is what binds us, The Dark Side, together in such harmonious social matrimony.

My eternal love and gratitude to all of you who contribute to the success of our community

<3 <3 <3

~ Vaya
 
Thanks for the comments guys and gals. I made a choice to come to Tennessee from ohio and stay with some family to help me get clean. I brought a few suboxone down with me. That ofcoarse I was prescribed. Well that has been what has really helped me with the 10 days. Yesterday I took my last little piece. Now the hard part starts. I don't have any chance of relapsing because I dont know anyone in Tennessee except my brother and his wife. And we're in Murfreesboro so it's not like there's dealers pushing anything at you at the gas stations. So my only option is staying clean. I know where I would be if I was at home though that's for sure. Thanks again guys. Didn't mean to hijack your thread. Back to original poster. Sorry
 
Hmmm, this is really cool. I like this thread. Lets see....

-Looking at the night sky, the moon, the dark blue and blackish-grey clouds...that makes me feel full of wonderment, which translates to happiness in my world.
-Being around females. They're very skilled at entertaining, and I have a lot of respect for them. So that makes me happy.
-Hiking with friends. Going to hot springs. Exploring places I have never been to. The thrill of it being possibly dangerous is even better.
- Lively conversations with people
-My buddhist practice
-Eating good food, or just eating in general. Since hardcore opiate usage can lead to decreased appetite, for me.
Drawing a picture, and having it praised.
-Swimming with friends

I'm noticing a lot of these answers gravitate towards being around true friends. Thats cool.


Making others feel better, encouraging other people. <<<<----- That right there is probably the most awesome feeling in the world.

sex
 
Top