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Should I bring roses?

If you're giving flowers, go to a good florist- don't buy the grocery store bouquet. See this can get pricy so you're better off with a single rose that's not over-the-top like a dozen might be.
 
First date? No don't bring flowers. It is a very nice gesture but to her it can come across two ways. 1) Oh he's such a sweetheart or 2) I think he might me a little too obsessive. Pick her up, open the door for her and all that crap. Just be a gentlemen pay for her meal and drinks and just get to know each other. Most girls don't like it when you seem too into them too soon.
 
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i would feel weird about it. it's very 1950's. a cool gift that actually requires thought is better, but you even need to save those for when you really know this person well and long enough for it to not be weird.
that's how i feel, anyway.

edit: a clever, not too romantic or expensive gift could be good if it was humorous in some way and relevant to a convo you had or something. ie a boxset of a band you both like would be too much. however if she has a funny nick name or something and you came across some little toy or something that coincides with it...not bad. tough call. another example: i wear a lot of black sometimes and a guy got me a little dead eyed black rubber ducky and i thought that was cute and not creepy.
 
Fuck no, don't do that. It just seems like you're trying too hard. Just go as yourself and try and win her over with your personality. If you bring a gift like that, it might seem like you're not confident with your personality and are trying to compensate this with the distractions of a hallmark gift. It might work for the very short term, but it's not going to help you in the long run.
 
i blame the feminism revolution, sexism and modern portrayal of expectation from both sexes for this question being asked.

forty years ago men wouldnt have considered querying whether it was wrong or right to present their partners with romantic gestures, regardless of psychosexual/modern day/social norms.

they acted upon impulse; with or without judgment and based on personal belief.

on that note, please act upon instinct.

if it feels good; and right; then do it.

if not; it wasnt meant to be.

only you can judge the outcome.

good luck

<3

...kytnism...:|
 
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llama112 said:
What if she already has a graphing calculator? Maybe he should wait for a few dates to figure out if she has a graphing calculator already.
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It can be a spare. I keep on in my office at work, my study area at home and in my car. You never know when you'll need to find the area under a curve or the slope of the curve.
 
rangrz said:
I'd bring her a graphing calculator. If she appreciates it and knows how to use it, she's worth seeing again, if not...ditch her.
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lol :)
CTdopeLove said:
should I bring roses?
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some people think you should. some think you shouldn't. you asked the question and now you're no closer to an answer...

there's no normal when it comes to relationships. stop planning out your actions and second-guessing what the response is going to be. that's called playing games and it's destined to destroy a relationship before it gets going.

do you want to give this girl flowers? then give her flowers. you don't, then don't. but whatever you do, be yourself and trust your instincts.

maybe you take flowers and it freaks her our and she never wants to see you again. that's great - she was never for you...

alasdair
 
Flowers on the second date. Also gotta think practically; if you're meeting her somewhere then she's gotta lug them about. If you meet at her house then it's all good.
 
some people think you should.
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lol some=just lysis. haha

I do like the one rose idea, especially if like StrutterGear says, she is walking around somewhere like the beach or something.

I've had 2 men do this for me (one rose), and I melted. One was the most awesome man on the planet.
 
Roses are passé. You need to do your homework and find out what she NEEDS.
Dedicate the next week to watching her at home as she goes about her regular life, taking notes on the things that would benefit her.
Imagine her elation when you meet for your date bearing thoughtful gifts, like a new can opener, some hand cream and a matching replacement bra for the one she broke last week.
Panties will drop. You can thank me later op.
 
^ don't listen to the guy above me, i can only imagine the end result of stalking a woman... it can't be good.

Yes and no. I've been dating alot lately and i've found that it's hit and miss. I suppose it all depends on how interested she is in you. Roses are a bit over the top, just because of how expensive they are but then again it really all depends on how interested you are in her and if those feelings are mutual. If i were you, i'd play it safe and get a regular old bouquet from savemart that has an assortment of flowers in it. After you give it to her and you get a smile or a blush, just say "anything to make you smile babe ;)" and perhaps later ask which of those flowers are her favorite and get those for her if you still like her alot on a second date. Anyways... Good luck on your date with her, i'm excited for you :)
 
RedLeader said:
^ And the other? The people want to know how the other date ended, Lysis.
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The other guy was 8 years younger than I was. lol He was pretty freakin awesome too. We had some great fun, and I still talk to him occasionally, but he likes to play the field and I think he has a girlfriend right now. We don't talk as much when he's involved with someone. :D

The one I mention as the greatest guy on the planet was the one I always talk about who OD'd. He was probably the best balance of computer nerd, socially awesome, and a romantic too.
 
Licence to Pill said:
Roses are passé. You need to do your homework and find out what she NEEDS.
Dedicate the next week to watching her at home as she goes about her regular life, taking notes on the things that would benefit her.
Imagine her elation when you meet for your date bearing thoughtful gifts, like a new can opener, some hand cream and a matching replacement bra for the one she broke last week.
Panties will drop. You can thank me later op.
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online bail bonds (you can thank me later).

alasdair
 
I wouldn't buy roses though, roses are cliche. If you know her favourite flowers, then get them. I always go for something with white and purple in it, it's classy.

Lilly's are better than roses, go mad and get loads of different ones in one bouquet.
 
Go with the single rose the first date, then a pretty bouquet for the next (doesn't necessarily have to be roses the second time)
 
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