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How To Attract Women?

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twyleskyles

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I really don't know how to do this at all. I am always being myself and I consider myself to be an okay looking fella. But for some odd reason I can't get a girl unless I pay for it. Does anyone have any advice for this fool?
 
Women are very good at sensing whether a man has self-confidence or not. And no matter how good you are at faking confidence, their better at seeing past your bullshit. You can paint yourself yellow with fake confidence all day, but you cannot glow unless it's genuine. And it's not necessarily just about good looks (though good-looking guys often draw confidence from their looks, which in turn get them girls) or just how a guy acts around you (though "assholes" do tend to get a lot of women because they act aggressively based on confidence, even if it's silly/foolish).

So then the old nice guy catch-22 comes up: I need confidence to get the girl, but I need to get the girl to get confidence. 8(

I think with a lot women, if they can tell that a guy isn't confident but notice that he's working on himself in ways that could help build his confidence, then they will still go for this. If you don't have confidence, have momentum. Be working to change your current situation to one where you can better excel, better be proud of what you are doing and be more comfortable in your own skin. You need to at least have hope, determination and drive.
 
honestly, just hang in there. if you changed anything, you would be something other than yourself and who you naturally are, which might attractr women it the short term, but it would never last. i mean i dont mean to say theres nothing you could work on in the mean time to aid the process, but dont try and change anything drastic and underlying. i just dont know you or your 'style' well enough to give you pointers on more specific areas, but i can promise you that acting like you are someone you arent will not get you anywhere in the long run. if you want more specific pointers, feel free to PM me and tell me more about yourself. trust me im gay, great at these things :D
 
Well I'm kinda real friendly with the gays in a non-gay way. I just want a gf but I don't know man! I mean honestly I'm just a neurotic idiot.
 
Know yourself as best you can, learn to be comfortable with yourself, accept yourself,
learn stuff about women and be yourself.

You'll attract what you need. <3

Good luck. ;) <3
 
It helps if youre genuinely interested in the person youre trying to attract......otherwise you're better off paying for it.

Read the book 'the game' by Neil Strauss. Im female, have read it and his tactics would work on me, male friends have read it and yielded good results!
 
twyleskyles said:
Well I'm kinda real friendly with the gays in a non-gay way. I just want a gf but I don't know man! I mean honestly I'm just a neurotic idiot.
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i dont mean to make this wierd or uncomfortable, but just due to the way you worded that, have you ever questioned your heterosexuality?
im just curious, if you dont want to reply publicly, feel free to PM me, or not reply at all.
its not like im trying to turn you, im just curious
 
I agree with RL on the idea of confidence. It does attract a woman's eye however be careful not to over do it. For me, the guy needs to act confident and stuff but I need to see a more vulnerable side to him as well, like if he opens up about something personal - then 'm definitely attracted.
 
I'm no pimp by any means. The turn this thread took from how do i attract women to the friendly with gays in a non gay kind of way post just made me laugh a little.
On the real though if you were gay attracting women probably wouldn't be a problem... or at least a concern. Like I said Im no pimp by any means. I don't even really care though I'm never really exactly looking to pick up women, I do on occasion, but I'll be god damned if I'm gonna pay directly for it. I kinda stay in relationships though so one night stands mean jack shit to me I need more than that.
Go to the other side for a while I care not a bit but ur just confused lol.
 
RedLeader said:
Women are very good at sensing whether a man has self-confidence or not. And no matter how good you are at faking confidence, their better at seeing past your bullshit. You can paint yourself yellow with fake confidence all day, but you cannot glow unless it's genuine. And it's not necessarily just about good looks (though good-looking guys often draw confidence from their looks, which in turn get them girls) or just how a guy acts around you (though "assholes" do tend to get a lot of women because they act aggressively based on confidence, even if it's silly/foolish).

So then the old nice guy catch-22 comes up: I need confidence to get the girl, but I need to get the girl to get confidence. 8(

I think with a lot women, if they can tell that a guy isn't confident but notice that he's working on himself in ways that could help build his confidence, then they will still go for this. If you don't have confidence, have momentum. Be working to change your current situation to one where you can better excel, better be proud of what you are doing and be more comfortable in your own skin. You need to at least have hope, determination and drive.
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QuotedForTruth!!!!!! Genuine confidence comes from genuine inner-peace and serenity. Set about a program of action to improve yourself. I'm an alcoholic/addict. I always had a hard time finding women. Now that I'm sober and my confidence is up, and I'm serene, and at peace with me, and even humbly proud of me.... I don't even try and women keep talking to me. That is, until I mention my (very hot) girlfriend.

Cheer up dude, and KNOW that you are good. Then get busy. Gym. Diet. Read. Meditate.

Mind, Body, Spirit... all else will flock to you.
 
Mihai6Yu9Ri said:
That's also a real good way to ruin your reputation with people that could potentially be a worth while relationship, rather then just a cheap fuck.
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Sometimes, when it's been a LONG while, a cheap fuck is needed to get the confidence back. So long as nobody is expecting anything serious, there's nothing wrong with a casual arrangement.

SLR?
 
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