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How To Attract Women?

Pagey said:
I agree with RL on the idea of confidence. It does attract a woman's eye however be careful not to over do it. For me, the guy needs to act confident and stuff but I need to see a more vulnerable side to him as well, like if he opens up about something personal - then 'm definitely attracted.
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Confidence IMO is one of the things that attract women to us men. Walk the walk and do the talk, but it has to be real (well maybe not 100% real but close.)
Then as above poster mentioned show the 'other real' sides of yourself.
One thing i suggest is to never let some new women know that your single and women less.
 
How to attract women: confidence. Seriously. And that doesn't start with having a girlfriend. You need to be confident about yourself first.
And I'm not sure what you mean by "paying for it". Do you literally mean paying for the first date or something? Because that is something you should be expecting to do whenever you ask someone out.
 
llama112 said:
How to attract women: confidence. Seriously. And that doesn't start with having a girlfriend. You need to be confident about yourself first.
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Even though we actually let women vote in this country, you, the man will be deciding who she goes out with. You don't actually ask hoes out on dates or anything now, you walk up to them and swing your dick in their face, grab them by their hair and YOU SAY WITH CAWNPHIDENSE ...bitch, you goin' home wit me!
 
Confidence and substance aren't mutually exclusive. If you're a complicated person who's had a lot of life experience, chances are you are confident about yourself.
 
I think saying that you need confidence is a bit misleading. What it REALLY means is that women are attracted to people who are comfortable with themselves, in whatever way that may be. Even if you're a "neurotic idiot" or whatever you called yourself, if you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin/identity people will pick up on that. :)
 
1) Be at least okay looking
2) be confident, not like a douche but comfortable with who you are
3) Dont seem to eager
4) be chill
5) Act like you dont care
 
You know what the real truth is? The answer to the OP's question is that there is no answer. You don't get to choose who is attracted to you. You ultimately don't make this happen. Sometimes in life, people are attracted to you, and you will find them attractive too and vice-versa. Sometimes not.

So don't follow this Slef-Help style advice and headfuck yourself over your "confidence levels."

Generally speaking, without knowing the tastes of each individual woman you wish to attract, I would recommend looking nice, smelling nice, and being nice. And, that's it. Anybody loading your head with other bullshit is an asshole.

You can't alwyas blame yourself for women who reject you. It's hard in today's society to believe that things like getting hired for jobs and dating are really instances when you depend on others' decisions. Often times, people don't make good decisions when it comes to choosing other people.

On the other hand, women need a lot of work in the dating scene too. Really, they are the ones with confidence problems and they have trouble feeling comfortable in public places or with other people and themselves.
 
MyFinalRest said:
Generally speaking, without knowing the tastes of each individual woman you wish to attract, I would recommend looking nice, smelling nice, and being nice. And, that's it. Anybody loading your head with other bullshit is an asshole.
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This. Simply and nicely put into words.

Of course, this will only help getting you in front of a girl. From that point, it depends on who you are, if/how the two of you click. Just be yourself and act naturally, compliment her, get her to relax and enjoy your company. It's all about the right things said/done at the right moment, without having shit planned ahead.
 
MyFinalRest said:
Even though we actually let women vote in this country, you, the man will be deciding who she goes out with. You don't actually ask hoes out on dates or anything now, you walk up to them and swing your dick in their face, grab them by their hair and YOU SAY WITH CAWNPHIDENSE ...bitch, you goin' home wit me!
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I certainly would not be attracted to a guy who walked up to me, swung his dick in my face, and grabbed my hair. Being a man doesn't mean you have more rights than being a female.

In my experience, confidence has been the main thing that attracts females. If a guy is too scared to approach a girl, he has a lot less chance of anything (date, sex, relationship, etc.) with her. Someone with confidence is often more attractive. Not everyone has confidence naturally and that is something that many people need to work on. But you don't need to have a girlfriend to have confidence. It isn't good to rely on someone for your own confidence and/or happiness. You need to find that in yourself.
 
Dre1990 said:
Holy shit, I ask that myself so much.

I see poor guys, dumb as fuck guys, guys much uglier than me, fat guys, weird guys, guys who get beat up on the streets, stuttering guys, extremely closed-mouthed guys....all dating and getting the women, and me, nothing.
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^Yeah, I have to admit one thing at least in Western Canada, Women are fucked.
 
llama112 said:
In my experience, confidence has been the main thing that attracts females. If a guy is too scared to approach a girl, he has a lot less chance of anything (date, sex, relationship, etc.) with her. Someone with confidence is often more attractive. Not everyone has confidence naturally and that is something that many people need to work on. But you don't need to have a girlfriend to have confidence. It isn't good to rely on someone for your own confidence and/or happiness. You need to find that in yourself.
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This is nonsense, and I'm frankly sick of hearing about this. This is nothing but sexist psychological male bashing. Usually if a guy is afraid of a girl, it's because she is a bitch, and that's not his problem, and we all know there is a lot more going on out there when women are sizing up men other than confidence levels. There are certian people you will feel confident about trusting and dating and some that you won't. Please, stop mistaking lack of confidence in someone else as a lack of "self-confidence."

It's a two way street you know...this dating thing. A man does not control a woman's preferences or tastes with his confidence levels, and when he does, that indicates an extremely weak minded woman.
 
Be a nice guy - be a gentleman, who turns into a cheeky devil in the flash of an eye - open doors for women, show them you respect them in our society, and just make them KNOW that you don't just wanna get up in her.

Be yourself - find out who you are, then you will attract birds who are right for the real you, your soul; and not attracted to the ego you project.

Do your ting.

Don't act desperate for attention - just do your ting and forreal you will get bare gals throwing themselves at you.

Have a passion in life - when I say "do your thing", find out what your thing is and do it -even if you're broke, a real classy bird who you actually want in your life will be drawn to a creative or hardworking broke dude who's coming up over the guy who's "playing the game" and selling himself as well as all his values just so he got a house fulla stuff.
 
If i was you before you go out on the pull have a few bevvies a touch of the old dutch courage!!
 
MyFinalRest said:
This is nonsense, and I'm frankly sick of hearing about this. This is nothing but sexist psychological male bashing. Usually if a guy is afraid of a girl, it's because she is a bitch, and that's not his problem, and we all know there is a lot more going on out there when women are sizing up men other than confidence levels. There are certian people you will feel confident about trusting and dating and some that you won't. Please, stop mistaking lack of confidence in someone else as a lack of "self-confidence."

It's a two way street you know...this dating thing. A man does not control a woman's preferences or tastes with his confidence levels, and when he does, that indicates an extremely weak minded woman.
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How is this insulting towards males? And how is it sexist? The OP is asking how to attract women.
Confidence attracts people in general. A confident straight male will have a much better chance of attracting a confident straight female. A confident straight female will have a much better chance at attracting a confident straight male.
If someone is confident in him or herself (don't want to be sexist here), then they will exude confidence. They won't be afraid to do as many things, they won't be afraid to chat up females/males, etc. This in itself gives him or her a better chance at dating.

I personally couldn't date a guy who needed a girl to be happy or feel good about himself. My boyfriend was happy before me and he's happy with me too. We don't rely on each other for our happiness and confidence, we have that by ourselves.

Sure, there are other things that attract women. Each woman is attracted to something different. Some like muscular guys, some like skinny guys. Some like tall guys, some like short guys. Some like guys with black hair, some like guys with blonde hair. Each woman has her own individual preferences.
 
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