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Kissing your parents

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twyleskyles

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How many of you at the age of 20 or 30 still kiss your parents on the lips to say goodbye or whateverr? I never did this or heard of this, but see it in hollywood movies.
 
Some of my friends that are mostly Italian seem predisposed to this more than most, so I'm tempted to say it's a cultural thing? Not too sure though, as I'm full blooded Swedish and it was never part of my upbringing past a young age.
 
Definitely not on the lips. I will rarely give my Mum a quick peck on the cheeks. Would never kiss my Dad of course, as it's not normal for males to do that to each other as far as I've been taught. In fact he hugged me once and it was a pretty uncomfortable feeling.

Usually it's just a hug to Mum, and handshake with Dad.

Definitely have seen friends kiss their parents regularly and say "love you" and stuff, they clearly have much better relationships with their folks than I've ever experienced.
 
As an adult, very rarely on the lips, on occasion though with my mother still. It was much more common when I was younger. It is now almost always a kiss on each cheek, though that isn't particularly meaningful, as it is the same with all female friends, when saying hello or goodbye. Both are still hugged plenty, and "love you" etc. aren't uncommon. I guess it is cultural.
 
i kiss both my parents on the cheeks. i'm well into my thirties. it's the eastern european background/culture. we do this even if we see each other every week. my wife's family is completely different, they may not see each other for years, and still only smile and shake hands.
 
^Yup thats right. Cultures got alot to do with it. Im greek and ill sometimes give my mom the one kiss on each cheek. Not my dad though but were not really that close. Shit, its pretty common also when i go to greece when i see friends or family or whatever to do the double cheek kiss thing. Even guys too its in the culture and a way of greeting someone you havent seen in a while.
 
In France where I come from we kiss our parents once on each cheek, but we do that to everyone, it's just how we say hello. Never on the lips though.
 
This is a great question but really without adding something about your cultural back ground sort of makes the question pointless? (not hating at all)

Some cultures do not see kissing on the the lips as strange (and would see a quick peck on the cheek / forehead etc an insult / or something strange). Kissing has a lot of different meanings across the cultures - Kissing a guy (regardless of family ties) anywhere would be considered pretty strange in some parts of the world but 'Not' kissing a guy on greeting them would be insulting in others.
 
Pagey said:
In France where I come from we kiss our parents once on each cheek, but we do that to everyone, it's just how we say hello. Never on the lips though.
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Try living in Switzerland where they do the "three cheek shuffle". I often get lost in the moment and keep going. :(

I can't remember the last time I kissed either of my parents on the lips but I always give them both a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Funnily enough I don't tell them I love them all that much and I can't really say why.

My close circle of friends all hug and kiss each other when we meet. If I am meeting one of their female friends for the first time, any it is assumed that they are "good people" I would often give them a kiss on the cheek.

The last time I kissed a male friend on the lips was probably after a hard fought victory on the rugby field in an important match, but then again we all shower naked together so it doesn't seem that weird. No homo ;)
 
Busty St Clare said:
Try living in Switzerland where they do the "three cheek shuffle". I often get lost in the moment and keep going. :(
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It's the same in Languedoc-Roussillon, or at least in Montpellier, with the 3 kisses, and I also tended to either pull away after the 2nd instinctively, or go for a 4th.. 3 is too awkward a number! Also I found it a bit confusing remembering to start on the left, as I am used to always starting on the right cheek. Haha.
 
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I kiss my mum on the cheek as an adult and hug my dad when greeting them.

Don't recall our family being lip kissers at all. My husband's family are lip kissers. Men kiss men on the cheek and kiss women on the lips. Women greet women with hugs and maybe kisses on the cheek. I avoid all male adults lips and give my cheek. It's weird to me. I asked his sisters about that and they say it's weird too. They showed me how to quickly cheek grandpa's lips.
 
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