Yes, I would tell them to go and do their own research. They better know their shit backwards and forwards before I give them my blessing for going forward.
Good for you. I'm glad your'e not my parent or sibling though. If my sister came to me and said she wanted to trip and wanted to know what compound to start with, I would happily give her the advice and recommendations she needs. I would also tell her where she can research similar compounds online, definitely, but I wouldn't leave her with only that avenue. Especially if she just wants to roll balls this weekend and wants to know the best thing in light of the circumstances surrounding the situation.
She wants somebody with real experience listening to her needs as they suit her
right now. Telling her to go and study Erowid and not to come back until she "knew her shit backwards and forwards" would be a fucking cop out. And if I told everyone who asks to go away and "know their shit backwards and forwards" before asking anymore questions, then I'd probably end up with no friends, and nobody would ever ask my advice on anything ever again.
What does that mean anyway. How can you get to a point where you "know your shit backwards and forwards" just by reading a bunch of trip reports and pharmacological data on Erowid? It's meaningless to most beginners. Not only that, but at what stage have they imbibed enough information that they meet your requirements of knowing their shit (backwards and forwards)? It's not as if Erowid or the Big and Dandy bluelight threads come with some kind of government certification of quality and authenticity of the information contained within them.
(Not to mention, way to take the joy, fun, and spontaneity out of such an event.) 8(
This is not to say that people shouldn't do their research before they embark on trying out new compounds. On the contrary, I emphatically advise people to do that too, even family members; it's important to get as much of the facts as possible. But I'm not going to just leave them to academia to try and answer their needs - people want to hear from others with experience now, and they will never be satisfied just going off and reading some faceless person's reports from 5 years ago and then jumping headlong in to a drug trip without anyone to shoot the shit with about it.
In fact, I'll bet my granny most of us here have taken suggestions or recommendations from friends or others about one or more of the drugs you have tried in the past (and maybe even from people online). I also bet most of us have given similar recommedations to friends, family, or people online. My first MDMA experience was suggested and overseen by a family member, and I am extremely grateful that they did suggest it too. I probably wouldn't have bothered if wasn't for that person, which would have been an incredible waste.
Never Knows Best said:
This isn't like recommending somebody a cigar or strain of herb based off their preferences. Psychs have a learning curve, and folks need to familiarize themselves with the basics, and then look at individual compounds, or broader threads (like our Most....psychedelic threads*, among others) to get a an inkling for the kinds of experiences out there. Then they can decide.
*Section V of the index
And who said it was like recommending a cigar? (I wouldn't do that anyway, since smoking life-sucking chemical-laced tobacco is a horrible thing to suggest to anyone at any time.) As I said, I do condone researching your drugs before you partake. But that doesn't exclude all else.
I've got a feeling that anyone who asks which psychedelic they should take on a drugs forum will likely go with the poster who a) suggests a drug they have access to and b) they feel they have the most affinity with.
By and large it's best to go with substances at doses, which are considered by the majority of people, to be more easily handled in a psychological sense.
In some ways it's likely more useful to guide people toward optimum set & setting & dosage than simply suggesting they consume a particular drug based upon their preference..
Fully agreed.
i kinda like sekios idea of having a chart of psychedelics with "community rating". like 1 to 5 stars for each compound and every person can rate once on each substance. there will still be a subjective margin, but also you'll quickly see what's considered as bunk and what ppl tend to mostly have a good time with.
maybe someone can code such chart/list with some poll tool that gets integrated in the forum somewhere.
could go more detailled too (suggested starting dose for firsttimers, setting advices, suggested ROAs for beginners) and where exactly at this "looking for an easy to handle yet visual but rather medium length trip... aah here we go 4-ho-met seems to match my criteria" - list.
also the list/chart could have a poll option if you think that the rated substance is something for beginners and the list will eventually filter out everything, that's not beginner material (2cp, 5-meo-dmt,datura) and gets a warning icon next to it
Yes, this is sort of like what I suggested, except that what I suggested takes your requirements and circumstances in to account and outputs the most suitable choice. A community pool of concise information geared towards helping people make informed decisions is a very good idea, and if it can be integrated in to an automated application it could be extremely useful. But I'll say it again, it's still doesn't completely replace the need for people to discuss their requirements with others.