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How important is being slim?

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I don't mean super thin and slender- Just slim. How bad is it to have a bit of a belly? Like being 10-15 pounds over your ideal weight. I am a man and it's not a big deal for me if the girl is a little chubby. In fact I prefer it over skinny. What do you think?
 
I think what's most important to sexuall attraction is that you feel comfortable and confident in your body. This is how some people are able to pull off being a bit chubby and still look good (imo). Of course different people will have different tastes in what they consider an ideal body type, a lot of people prefer thin while still many prefer curvy, while others care less about an "ideal" body and more about the person themselves (still it is important to be physically attracted to someone if you want any sort or relationship with them. No matter how perfect a person is for you in other facets of their being, it's just not going to work if you are repulsed by the way they look).
 
Health is the most important. Many people are like 30+ pounds over their "ideal" weight but they are healthy. It depends on many things.
But as for being attractive? Everyone has different views too. Some people find super skinny guys/girls attractive. Some people find super fat guys/girls attractive. And of course, plenty in between. Being a few pounds overweight is hardly a big deal at all. Confidence is more important than anything else!
 
I don't like ladies too skinny, you can be much rougher with a chubby chick, which is fun from time to time.
 
do you know about "feeders"? people pay to watch fat women eat and get fatter. it's a whole fetish.
chubby chaser is a pretty well known term. of course it is acceptable.
i've always preferred tall, really skinny guys myself
no idea really why.
 
^ Same. Loves me some lanky boys! In saying that my current is on the muscly side, sooooooo not my type but not the most important thing to me really
 
max_ said:
I don't mean super thin and slender- Just slim. How bad is it to have a bit of a belly? Like being 10-15 pounds over your ideal weight. I am a man and it's not a big deal for me if the girl is a little chubby. In fact I prefer it over skinny. What do you think?
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I has been a body builder, or better a fanatic of fitness, so i has never been huge. Actually I'm skinny and i don't enjoy it. What i can tell you is, that even if you are over/underweight everything is fine if you have a nice body composition, that's the secret. If you have 10/15 pounds only on your stomach isn't good, while is good if you have it all over your body.
This is talking of the aesthetic part.
If you are concerned about girls, i think that's doesn't matter if you are skinny or a little overweight. Confidence, know ho to treat a woman is the key.
I know a girl that when see a bald guy loses his head........hope you got the point.
 
I don't like really skinny guys at all. I live in florida, and the latinos don't like the really skinny girls either. Being super skinny is actually bad here, because most men go for the big ass, big boob types. I used to have a really skinny friend who wanted nothing more than to gain a lot of weight and she couldn't. lol
 
I believe as long as theres an attraction there and you both have self confidence in yourselves, then pursue it. You can be surprised by what's out there! I think a handful of pounds is trivial.
 
I like men of all shapes and colors! It's how sweet they are to me that attracts me :)
 
ok, thank you guys, you gave me a bit of an ego boost. I guess it isn't a big deal for the general public yet it still is a big deal to me. I'll try and feel more comfortable as I am now, and also losing a few pounds won't hurt me.
 
I've often wondered if we have quite a skewed body image perspective these days. I mean there's a lot of guys around with muscle who beef up at the gym.. but then these people aren't necessarily fit (or strong even!), where as back 30-40 years ago guys were much more lean but in generally better fitness. I'm 25 so obviously my perspective could be wrong so I would like to hear you what you older folk have to say on the matter. It's just in photos and such I see lots of lean healthy looking men and only the occassional beef cake (what today would be considered just 'buff')

I definitely think there's an image problem with my generation.. I can't tell you how many thin and attractive girls I've met who eat proper shite food. I'm sure the beefcake guys are just as bad. I don't think there's anything wrong with being slim so long as you're eating healthy.. I like thin girls and I also like girls with a tad of chub (not too much mind).. girls feel nice with some squish on them :D

For the record I'm a skinny guy with long hair ^_^
 
Different people = different tastes. Shouldn't be concerned if you're a bit overweight. A close friend of mine is something you could call overweight, but is quite a charismatic fella - gets the girls in crowds all the time, I swear every facebook picture of his has at least two with him.
 
max_ said:
ok, thank you guys, you gave me a bit of an ego boost. I guess it isn't a big deal for the general public yet it still is a big deal to me. I'll try and feel more comfortable as I am now, and also losing a few pounds won't hurt me.
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For me, really skinny guys are nasty. I like a guy with meat on his bones, and that doesn't mean a muscle-head. It just means a healthy guy who eats a cheeseburger every once in a while, but keeps it healthy most of the time.
 
BlueDelight - Probably. Not sure what it is. Just doesn't seem quite human to me. Looks a bit like a lobster, or a gorilla especially since my boy has these shoulder bits which are his favourite exercise I think chin ups, (he likes it because he can do more than his friends lol) but these muscles have gotten way big and it's out of proportion to the rest of his muscles and I just don't really get it. But whatever, he enjoys the fitness and he feels good about his appearance with muscles and that's the important thing it's his body not mine, he's still attractive to me, blonde hair, superman jaw and all, so it's a non issue. I really just don't understand building big muscles. Your body will build all the muscle you need for your daily activities. I don't lift weights but I have enough muscle to carry groceries home, go for a short run, have sex, etc I don't need more muscle than that, more would be pointless, surplus, waste. I know there are plenty of girls who prefer this big muscle look so clearly it is just everyone has their personal taste.
 
I had been accused of being anorexic when I was prescribed oxycodone. But gradually, I got off them and the weight came back big time. Being nearly 5'1 the weight gain is so obvious. Now I have a big belly and getting older seems to hinder my success in reducing belly fat. So I feel comfortable with chubby men and they don't seem to mind. This way I feel okay with being a bit flabby.

Edit: To answer your original question, being thin was like a dual-edged sword for me. The doctors would tell me I looked great and that boosted my self-esteem. Then it became apparent that I dropped a lot of weight to certain ladies at my job who really didn't know me well and were rude. Asking me if I'm sick or anorexic. I was annoyed a bit because you just don't ask an overweight person why did they get so fat! I would like to be about ten pounds thinner and I'd feel better.
 
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BlueDelight - Probably. Not sure what it is. Just doesn't seem quite human to me. Looks a bit like a lobster, or a gorilla especially since my boy has these shoulder bits which are his favourite exercise I think chin ups, (he likes it because he can do more than his friends lol) but these muscles have gotten way big and it's out of proportion to the rest of his muscles and I just don't really get it. [...]
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I call them 'gym muscles'; they get so hung up on building particular big muscle groups through carefully-targeted exercises, but just ignore all the smaller muscles you need to actually be strong in a practical sense -- so as long as they're lifting something at the exact angle of their gym equipment, they can lift 200lbs; change the angle by 15˚ and they can barely lift 50lbs, if that. I get a bit of a kick out of showing 'gym muscles' guys all the stuff they're bodies can't do, because they've neglected all the small muscles you need to be really seriously strong.

I kinda love the look serious rock climbers have, where on the ground they look skinny/weedy, but then they start climbing and all these muscles pop out all over the place, and then more muscles pop out of those muscles... or that super-smooth look swimmers have, where their muscles get worked so evenly that even though they've got heaps of muscle, they don't often get the over-defined body-builder look.

I kinda just like people to do _something_ physically active; cyclists' knee muscles, or that lean-but-toned look hikers get, or the shoulders and the tan on regular volleyball players, or even just the perfect posture and 'frame' ballroom dancers have... heck, even the amazing arms wheelchair users get... all hot to me. Doesn't matter if there's a bit of belly or ass or wherever they carry weight, it's not the weight part that's important, it's the fact that they like to move ;)
 
I don't think it's that important. I have dated people that were both quite overweight, normal weight, and underweight. I was attracted to each of them because of their personality and how they treated me. And found them physically attractive regardless of weight.
 
Over a 20 year period I gained like 15 pounds, at first i was 110 pounds that was when I was younger, but now I had my gallbladder removed had to be rushed to the hospital it was about to burst, after that I gained the 15 pounds, being 5'7 and 130 pounds bothers me and My long term boyfriend, he is all you have a belly now. He says I should exercise and get back to my 110 pounds, I told him to fuck off, ever since I had a hysterectomy for cancer that didnt help also. But when we first met it wasnt about weight for me he made me laugh and we had great times together. Now we are just growing older with each other and our feelings, sex drive, are gone. So boys and girls look forward to growing old with someone and weight really doesnt matter its the person inside that does.
 
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