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At what age would you consider most people to be mature mentally?

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I'm 19 years of age, and it seems like most women around my age (19 or 20) think and act like mature "adults". Now of course this isn't true for everybody. Some people mature must faster than others. And maturity doesn't suddenly just end at any age; it continues to develop over your entire life. But when would you consider most people to be mostly adult-like, mentally, for each gender?
 
Men after they have a kid, women after they have a kid. People show immaturity at all ages, but I think the added responsibility of a child create more maturity in the parent, no matter their age. If they don't have a kid, I'd say 50. Most women around your age are extraordinarily immature, and don't think nor act like mature adults.
 
I think you'd REALLY need define what exactly it is you seek to measure before anyone can make a hypothesis about it, measure, and quantify in a meaningful way.

That said, I think by 20-21 you are realistically equipped, mentally, to tackle even most complex and demanding subject matter, in terms of having the grasp of logic and reason required to work with higher mathematics, physiology, chemistry, and related goodness.
 
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IME it varies.

I know teenagers and young adults who are way more mature than people who I know who are in their 30s, 40s, or even older who are immature.
 
well im 18 ( 19 in september ) and i still feel like a 15 year old. i know a lot of chicks my age who think they are more mature than they actually are and therefore think they are better than everyone else which really does piss me off
 
I was asking myself what maturity meant about a few months ago. I came back home and my mom told me i'd matured so much and i was confused because i felt like the same exact person mentally, i still had the same morals, the same reasoning, the same intelligence, what had changed? I'd concluded it comes down to priorities. I believe we mature a few times in our lives. When we are babys, we care about nothing. When we hit about 2, 3 or 4 our priorities tend to shift to having fun in a fantasy world. At about 10 our psyches tend to shift to a more concrete reality. By 12 our priorities have shifted to reproducing. Once we turn 18 in america we are free to break free from our parents and join society, so to speak. Priorities and responsibilities, however long it takes for you to decide what is important to you.

Answer me this, if you had to pick one and you could only have one, what would you choose? Careless fun (childhood), Sex, Knowledge or Influence?
 
K-Dazed said:
Men after they have a kid, women after they have a kid. People show immaturity at all ages, but I think the added responsibility of a child create more maturity in the parent, no matter their age. If they don't have a kid, I'd say 50. Most women around your age are extraordinarily immature, and don't think nor act like mature adults.
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I completely disagree.
 
Biovail said:
I'm 19 years of age, and it seems like most women around my age (19 or 20) think and act like mature "adults". Now of course this isn't true for everybody. Some people mature must faster than others. And maturity doesn't suddenly just end at any age; it continues to develop over your entire life. But when would you consider most people to be mostly adult-like, mentally, for each gender?
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It's a tough question and not one that I could ever answer conclusively. In other words, I have no specific number, no specific age or range of ages that I could throw out at you.

I've met kids, actual kids, some twelve, fourteen years old whom I might consider to be more worldly, more experienced, more mature and more "adult" than many of the actual adults I know.

Likewise, I know many "adults" who, despite doing "grown-up" things like paying bills, driving, living alone and so on and so forth, well... they're still just very young-minded. I think that the reason for it, in part, is likely and very simply this: they've lived somewhat sheltered lives and many of the tough life experiences, the hard knocks that life may throw our way and that go on to make us who we are, well, they've missed out on many of those things.

It sucks too because it turns out that not everyone grows up and matures, and it's a frightening revelation.
 
Trying to adapt chronology to fit some steady state of mental maturity is a guessing game at best.

This is why no two countries can't agree on an age of consent. The entire notion is ridiculous.
 
Takes until about age 50. Unfortunately senility starts setting in around age 51.....


Seriously - very few people younger than their late 20s would be recognizable to most adults as "adults". Young people may be smarter/stronger/more idealistic/just better than older people in general but they almost always exist in the bubble of youth and view the universe through a very different perspective than the rest of the population since they associate largely with others within the same bubble and have yet to have learned enough hard reality first hand. After a certain point and enough life experience most people experience a sort of quantum leap as they get to a certain age and realize how limited and confused a perspective "young adults" have. At the same time though, that's the point at which one starts longing to be young and confused again instead of 'mature'.......;)
 
For me, it wasn't until age 24 that I started making adult decisions. My body filled out at this same time and I got chest hair.

rangrz said:
That said, I think by 20-21 you are realistically equipped, mentally, to tackle even most complex and demanding subject matter, in terms of having the grasp of logic and reason required to work with higher mathematics, physiology, chemistry, and related goodness.
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Being able to do higher level science / math and making good decisions are completely different things...
 
Cyc said:
Trying to adapt chronology to fit some steady state of mental maturity is a guessing game at best.

This is why no two countries can't agree on an age of consent. The entire notion is ridiculous.
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I think that the only fair age is around the age of 25, as that is when brain development is complete. I think you'll generally notice a stark difference between a group of 25 year-olds and 23-year olds.
 
I don`t think anyone is mature, people are only mature in a relative sense.

I think it can also depend on what life throws at you and how much of yourself you are prepared to face.
 
Captain.Heroin said:
I completely disagree.
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You add a lot to discussions. Considering I made a plethora of statements, which ones do you disagree with, and why?

Anyone under 30 I have a hard time viewing as "adult-like", mentally. A lot of people in their early thirties have the same mindstate and priorities as those in their late twenties. Teenagers who have kids often get a boost in maturity, but I think it might have been slightly unfair for me to equate kids = adult-like.
 
I've also found the definition of mature to be quite fucking warped these days.
When most people discuss maturity they're talking about pragmatism. They're talking about getting your head out of your arse and start thinking about things you think matter. Not even that, it's about what is directly relevant to your physical existence at this moment in time. Now, before I go onto some rant about time/existence (you can check a thread about 'now' in PSS for discussion on that) because that isn't the topic, so I'll digress.
Now let me preface any further discussions by saying I fucking hate 'maturity' in this context and I'm so glad there are 'immature' people in the younger generations. It's so ridiculous when I talk to many old people as they talk about the weather and work and other stupid small talk. Now, this isn't to say other people don't engage in mindless small talk, no not at all. Old people grew up in a different time, they didn't have the internet, or movies, music was less popular, work started earlier, etc. I mean I wonder if you, yes you, whoever the fuck it is reading this, will be old. You'll have no social life, you'll do less, are you going to be more mature? Are you going to start talking about the weather, the newspaper articles, your pet...
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, 'maturity' is just a limit of what people think about, but more so, what they feel. You just focus all of your attention, you're so fucking concerned with what you call 'life', what you've made important and hold dear, that you miss all the fucking good shit.
It's like when you're a young child, you're so curious, and you question everything. You ask simple things that are commonly known, so your parent(s) answer you. This curiosity doesn't die, no, you're still left feeling like you don't know enough. You continue to question, and then you get a little bit older. Eventually you become an adult, and you're still ignorant, you've just changed priorities, you've lost curiosities. As you get older, this feeling remains. Nobody really knows anything, we're all just little kids stumbling around in the dark with our parents clothes on trying to act 'grown up'
Well fuck that
We're always going to grow and change, and 'maturity' as you so call it just impairs such growth. It closes your mind.
Fuck maturity, go take some drugs and listen to some music or read a book. Whatever, use your imagination. Seriously, actually be creative, imagine scenarios like you were 8 again.
Maturity is a cancer.
You can keep feeling like you understand so much, and like you're in such control... I'll just be over here with my eyes closed nodding my head along.
 
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